FreedHearts

Has the world gone crazy? Has this country gone crazy? Feels like it for sure. Do you feel like maybe you’re crazy busy, stressed and overwhelmed? Yeah, me too. We talked about everything that is happening – the news and developments we are being bombarded with.  Coming at us so fast it’s hard to process it all. Which we pointed out is by design. And all the gaslighting when we confront things out...

Beloved, hear me: You are not imagining things! When you see executive orders, policies, rollbacks, hate-filled rhetoric, & you feel that gut-punch of fear — it’s real. When your heart aches because you see rights stripped away, protections dismantled, & lives put at risk — it’s not in your head. And yet, when we speak up, we are dismissed, laughed at, and told that we are overreacting. It...

We wake up to news, breaking stories happen throughout the day, the barrage of executive orders and developments seem never-ending. It can easily be overwhelming. Anybody feel that way? Beloved, that actually may be their goal. Today, we talk about what is happening in our country right now, how it’s making us feel, and what we can do about all of this to not lose hope, to care for ourselves and t...

We recently came through the holidays. Has anyone ever been uninvited to a family gathering? We have. Well, Spring is coming, maybe you have a wedding on the calendar? So, today, we flip the script and talk about YOUR special events… a birthday celebration, wedding, family reunion, graduation. And we ask the questions: Are there people we HAVE to invite?  How do we handle that and how do we balanc...

How much do you have to listen to someone who wants to tell you how to live and what you’re doing wrong, and if you’d just follow their advice you’d be good? Not much! Have you heard the phrase “iron sharpens iron” as a justification for someone telling you everything that is wrong with you? Or have you ever been part of a religious “accountability” group? Same thing -- someone who feels that they...

Beloved, last week we talked about the myth and false teaching of hell and how we have been so terrorized by it. That and other false teachings cause us to think and believe the most awful things about ourselves. Things that are just not true! Today, we tell you some true things… about you. Jesus said for us to love our neighbor AS WE LOVE OURSELVES . The most important freedom is freedom from you...

According to religion, there are certain beliefs, certain parts of theology, that are not even debatable. Why??  Maybe because they pose the greatest threat to the power system of the church. That’s why when you even question it – you are immediately called a heretic. Or worse.  We have addressed many of these and will continue to do that moving forward.  Today, we want to get into hell… wait, let...

We have talked about reclaiming our power, our hope, and not surrendering to doomscrolling or fearscrolling narratives. Today, we go deeper and press the conversation around fear - to bring us freedom. We don’t want to live our lives afraid. There’s no life in that. Fear is not the place to make our best choices. We know that. Fear IS helpful when we really are under threat. But we can’t live from...

No one knows you better than you. No one knows who you are and the journey you have been on better than you.  So, why do so many people not believe you when you tell them?  Why do they think they know you better than you know yourself, telling you that you are confused, or just plain wrong? Let’s talk about how to move forward when you are disbelieved, gaslighted, and treated with contempt. Belove...

Today, we cover some basic faith-related questions: Why are churches so against transgender people? Are we wrong to support them? Does God ask us to support trans people in our community? Are we just listening to false doctrine? You know what false doctrine is? It’s manmade religion parading as requirements from God. It’s traditions of men that line the pockets of the leaders but leave everyone el...

The election is over. One person was elected President and one was not. Half the country is elated and half is distraught.  We knew that whatever the outcome, some would be thrilled and some would be devastated.  We’ve heard from LGBTQ+ people who are in deep despair, in existential fear. And we’ve heard from parents who are confused, saying, “ My child is so angry with me. They will no longer eve...

This is our first episode since the election, and we know many of you are reeling right now, wondering what’s ahead. We have heard from so many of you.  You may feel afraid, terrified, dazed, confused - not even sure where to start to make sense of life right now, and how to move forward. So, let’s talk about that today. We are going to talk about fear, grief, what’s next… and never, ever losing h...

This is a very special episode that I think we all need. Certainly, we are aware of what has been happening in the world, overwhelmed with media, social media, mixed feelings of hope, followed by dread, doom and fear, then replaced with excitement -- wild emotional swings. And we expect that to continue and even heighten in the coming weeks. What do we do in times like these? Today, we give you sp...

Today we are going to share some queer wisdom. What is that? It is wisdom that accepts people for who they are, inclusive, affirming, celebrates diversity, and loves above all else. That is what Jesus modeled and taught – and it’s so different from what the non-affirming, rules-based church teaches. We talk about the validity of church as a construct. And we share with you 15 things queer culture...

What is happening in your life? Are people telling you to go out there and hustle in an economic system that doesn’t work except for the elite? Are people saying it’s okay to be gay, but you can’t act on it – that you can only have this kind of partner or else you have to be alone? Do people tell you to believe what they believe or you’ll go to hell? That’s real life for many of you – that’s the r...

You don’t owe non-supportive people answers when they can’t just let you be who you are.  You don’t owe them your time, you don’t owe them your peace, you don’t owe them your soul.  But that can be a challenge, for sure, because you don’t want to end the relationship.  Or, you may have the thought that if you back off, things could still mend somehow in the future.  Beloved, this can be toxic for...

After diving in – no pun intended – to the recent Olympics, we really want to entice you to look at the spark in yourself, that may have been there from the very beginning. And to let it resurface.  You may have been taught or encouraged to hide it – but we hope you are in a safer place to listen to and follow your heart, and not feel crushed that certain things may not be for you. That spark of d...

With all this talk about the teaching of contempt and religion, we thought it was time for a little relief: a little ART relief! When I had cancer five years ago , part of the available treatment was a studio program where we created art. They kept saying, “It’s about the process, not the product.” I can hardly even express the joy this has opened up in me. I was amazed to learn that people who pa...

When we talk so much about all the hate and contempt coming from the non-affirming, rules-based church; the hypocrisy, the division out there; it can leave us feeling pretty down. When we go so deep in our journey coming out of religion, we can miss the beauty along the way. Today, we want to remind us all of the joy we have found on our journey of deconstruction, and talk about 30 freeing things...

Today, we continue with Part II of our series asking the question: "What do we do with the Bible?" People take it literally – ignoring it’s history, as well as all the additions, edits and translations that have been done. People claim its authority – despite not really knowing who it was written by and why. And Christians use it to justify great harm to so many groups of people: LGBTQ,...

This is part one of an important two-part series where we ask the question: “What do we do with the Bible?” We need to deconstruct it because it is abused and used as a weapon. And then they accuse you of heresy when you even slightly question it. It is used to justify great harm to people - racism, homophobia, transphobia, misogyny etc. I know you have heard it: “The church doesn't get to ch...

We have talked about how the church actually teaches us to hate ourselves, to hate God and the natural next step... to hate others.  Of course, they don’t say that it is hate… they even go so far as to call it love, or tough love. It's all part of their gaslighting! But to those on the receiving end, it IS indeed hate. When there is such a deep foundation of contempt, this underlying hate, wh...

Today, we talk about the Teaching of Contempt for God – and how the church actually teaches us to hate God!! We may not realize that, amidst the singing of praises, and saying, “Oh God is so good!” but all of it is over a trapdoor of seething contempt for a God who we are taught is capable of some horrible stuff. That’s our understanding from religion, and it's by design! Why?? So, they can k...

You only can define God or even think about God in relation to us and the relationship with us. So, it’s important to know who are we. Today, we talk about the church’s teaching of contempt for YOU. How the church actually teaches us to hate ourselves! We talk about who we are, and how God, the Universe, Spirit, really truly feels about us. In the midst of all the hate and attack out there, wow –...

Let's have some fun with sloth and gluttony! Have you been told you’re not working hard enough, that you just want things handed to you while you sit around and do nothing? Isn’t that the trope? That you just need to work harder, and that if you’re not making it, it’s your fault! Mohamad Safa says, “People aren’t going hungry because we cannot feed the poor. People are going hungry because we...