FLAUNT! Create a Life You Love After Infidelity or Betrayal

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Men and women are different. Regardless of gender dynamics, gender roles, or the fact that all humans embody both masculine and feminine energies, (and hormones) the push-pull dynamic of relationships can be confusing, hurtful, and infuriating. Especially when there’s been infidelity. Top take-a-ways: How our hormones, biology, and brain impact our relationships and what we can and cannot control...

What’s the difference between healthy sacrifice and over-sacrificing? Did you know that sacrificing too much for your partner can actually damage your relationship? New research out of the Netherlands points to four key components that can help you learn the difference between healthy and unhealthy levels of sacrifice. Not only for the benefit of your relationship, but for your own self-love, self...

Everyone loves a good story. The intensity of the drama, humor, and love keeps us in rapt attention as the story unfolds. Throughout history humans have told stories, learned through stories, and lived through stories more unbelievable and fantastic than anything that could have been imagined. When we are knee-deep in the middle of our own story, it's easy to lose perspective. Especially when that...

Everyone loves to get pumped up and excited about how great they and their lives will be after infidelity or divorce. But "You Go Girl!" spirit isn't always healthy. Sometimes, when life returns to “normal,” you feel like you have failed. While bursting through the pain of infidelity and shining brightly on the other side sounds great, what does success look like for you? If you sometimes feel the...

Have you thought about couple’s therapy? Or, perhaps you have tried therapy but it really wasn’t a fit. In this episode we will talk about the couples’ therapy experience and what you can expect, receive, and gain from a good couple’s therapist. Top Take-A-Ways: The difference between normal and healthy and what  it means to be in a healthy relationship. Empowerment, self-worth, and “other based”...

Oftentimes women confide to me that they feel angrier at the other woman than they do their cheating spouse. They say that even though it was their partner who broke their wedding vow, they have more rage against the other woman than they do their spouse, and they don’t understand why. This show explains why this very common phenomenon happens, and helps you to deal with it so going forward you ca...

Exploring manifestation, Universal Law, and energetic frequency is an exceptional way to release trauma and fear so you can move from a state of victimhood to a state of peace, non-judgment (for yourself and others) and understand the gifts and lessons of your situation better. Top Take-A-Ways: How to consciously project energy and understand what is being reflected back to you without attachment...

While most everyone loves the idea of letting go of the past, moving on, and steeping boldly into a brilliant and beautiful new future, the truth of the matter is that letting go is hard. Nobody likes the idea of death or loss. Change takes awareness, intention, and the ability to sit uncomfortably in the season of loss, grief, and uncertainty. But the rewards are always well-worth the cost! Join ...

The pain and devastation of infidelity is something that only other survivors can truly appreciate. And while everyone loves a happy ending, a great comeback story, and triumphing over unspeakable tragedy it’s vitally important for anyone who has been betrayed to acknowledge and validate the magnitude of their experience. While mindset does matter and we can choose to be happy, unless and until we...

Childhood trauma is something we hear a lot about. Usually in terms of it being an excuse for bad behavior. Such as, “He cheated because he had a terrible childhood.” Today’s guest is Michael Anthony “Unbroken,” a powerful coach who not only experienced many unthinkable traumas; fell into a litany of trauma-induced behaviors such as cheating on his partner, drugs, alcohol, food, and more; but he a...

Changing the way we react or respond, and integrating new habits, can be hard. Whether it’s committing to walking more and cutting out sugar, or to take three deep breaths before responding to a challenging question so you don’t default into yelling, change can be challenging. If you are anything like the rest of us, even though you know what you are supposed to do, doing it can be hard! As a self...

Your partner cheated on you. But now he’s sorry and realizes that he’s got a lot of work to do – both on himself and the marriage. Which is great because that’s what you want too. But now, you’re being asked to be patient with him as he goes through his healing! What? That’s not fair! He’s the one who cheated! He hurt you and now you have to support him through his healing! As well as continue to...

Shadow work is important any time, but especially when healing from infidelity. All humans are a mix of light and dark, positive and negative, good and bad. Ironically, in times of conflict, we tend to see ourselves in the best possible light and our significant other in the worst possible light. This sets up a victim/perpetrator dynamic that creates more contrast and pain and cuts us off from our...

Are you ready to break out of the “right-wrong game” that too many of us play when we’ve been wounded? Are you ready to let go of labels such as “empath, narcissist, betrayer” or “betrayed” and slip into oneness, wisdom, and the inner abundance that is your divine birthright? Then this is the show for you. Get ready to go deep, to access the wisdom and joy of your heart, and to consciously choose...

Intimacy is a core human desire. Everyone wants to love and be loved in return. Yet very few people know the four types of intimacy, or how to create true intimacy. In this show you will learn all about the four types of intimacy, how it can be created within your relationships, and (take a deep breath) what was really going on with your cheating partner and the other woman in terms of their intim...

Author Neale Donald Walsch is back for another illuminating interview around betrayal, love, and the power of being who you really are. In this show, Neale shares why “betrayal is not possible” when we understand “who we really are,” and seven powerful tools to deal with and manage heartbreak and change with grace. As he says, “The most important question is not why, (the betrayal happened) but wh...

“Can you learn to love your partner again after an affair?” “Will it ever be the same again?” and “Is it possible to rekindle love after an affair?” are questions that betrayed partners commonly ask. The answers might surprise you because love after the affair is often deeper, richer, and more satisfying – whether it’s love with your current partner or with someone entirely new! Top Take-a-Ways: T...

Have you ever looked at your crumbling, pain-filled post-betrayal life, or at the polarized, angry world and thought, “Where is God in all of this?” The God Solution might be just what you’re looking for. It begins by posing (and answering) some of the deepest questions of our time: “If there really is a God, why is our world (or my world) such a mess?” and “What good does it do to have a Supreme...

Sometimes the best kind of recovery – whether from an affair, cancer, or other trauma – is to step way from the “recovery” and get busy living life and having fun. Join me for a conversation with the incredible, almost 90 years old, Dr. Bernie Siegel, whose top advice to listeners is, “When you live in your heart, magic happens!”. Top Take-a-Ways & Healing Exercises: Why it should not be called sp...

When was the last time that you played? Not played with kids, but let yourself play for you? Those of us who were raised to believe that “life is serious” and “fun comes after work” the idea of playing might feel frivolous. But did you know that playing is good for you? Play originates in the right hemisphere of the brain, connects you to your creativity, alleviates stress, and increases your sens...

Emotional flooding, depression, grief, and explosive rage are just some of the big emotions that the betrayed partner feels after infidelity. Triggers and anniversary dates are everywhere and just when you think you have things under control, you are flooded by a new wave of intrusive thoughts, grief, or pain. Here are three tips and one exercise that you can use to manage your big emotions whenev...

As bestselling author Terrence Real says, if the person who cheated on you is willing to get real and do the work, you’re a fool to leave. But if they are unwilling to take accountability and change, then you’re a fool to stay. Not much is harder than figuring out how to love your partner in all their messy humanness—and there’s also not much that’s more important. The good news: Warmer, closer, m...

One of the questions I get asked most often – with either a look of disgust, pity, or incredulousness – is why I stayed after my husband’s multiple affairs. In this show, I take a deep dive into my situation, process, and explanation of why I stayed and why my husband chose to stay as well. Top Take-a-ways: “Is there more?” How the second to last step in the IMAGO dialogue protocol kept me moving...

A 20 minute meditation to be used at night to fall asleep, or in the day to calm down. Designed for times where you feel overcome, overwhelmed, and like your whole life has been turned upside down. This meditation helps you find the courage, confidence, and clarity to keep walking ahead, so you can get to your own happy ending, no matter how bad things seem right now.