FLAUNT! Create a Life You Love After Infidelity or Betrayal

Shadow work is important any time, but especially when healing from infidelity. All humans are a mix of light and dark, positive and negative, good and bad. Ironically, in times of conflict, we tend to see ourselves in the best possible light and our significant other in the worst possible light. This sets up a victim/perpetrator dynamic that creates more contrast and pain and cuts us off from our...

Are you ready to break out of the “right-wrong game” that too many of us play when we’ve been wounded? Are you ready to let go of labels such as “empath, narcissist, betrayer” or “betrayed” and slip into oneness, wisdom, and the inner abundance that is your divine birthright? Then this is the show for you. Get ready to go deep, to access the wisdom and joy of your heart, and to consciously choose...

Intimacy is a core human desire. Everyone wants to love and be loved in return. Yet very few people know the four types of intimacy, or how to create true intimacy. In this show you will learn all about the four types of intimacy, how it can be created within your relationships, and (take a deep breath) what was really going on with your cheating partner and the other woman in terms of their intim...

Author Neale Donald Walsch is back for another illuminating interview around betrayal, love, and the power of being who you really are. In this show, Neale shares why “betrayal is not possible” when we understand “who we really are,” and seven powerful tools to deal with and manage heartbreak and change with grace. As he says, “The most important question is not why, (the betrayal happened) but wh...

“Can you learn to love your partner again after an affair?” “Will it ever be the same again?” and “Is it possible to rekindle love after an affair?” are questions that betrayed partners commonly ask. The answers might surprise you because love after the affair is often deeper, richer, and more satisfying – whether it’s love with your current partner or with someone entirely new! Top Take-a-Ways: T...

Have you ever looked at your crumbling, pain-filled post-betrayal life, or at the polarized, angry world and thought, “Where is God in all of this?” The God Solution might be just what you’re looking for. It begins by posing (and answering) some of the deepest questions of our time: “If there really is a God, why is our world (or my world) such a mess?” and “What good does it do to have a Supreme...

Sometimes the best kind of recovery – whether from an affair, cancer, or other trauma – is to step way from the “recovery” and get busy living life and having fun. Join me for a conversation with the incredible, almost 90 years old, Dr. Bernie Siegel, whose top advice to listeners is, “When you live in your heart, magic happens!”. Top Take-a-Ways & Healing Exercises: Why it should not be called sp...

When was the last time that you played? Not played with kids, but let yourself play for you? Those of us who were raised to believe that “life is serious” and “fun comes after work” the idea of playing might feel frivolous. But did you know that playing is good for you? Play originates in the right hemisphere of the brain, connects you to your creativity, alleviates stress, and increases your sens...

Emotional flooding, depression, grief, and explosive rage are just some of the big emotions that the betrayed partner feels after infidelity. Triggers and anniversary dates are everywhere and just when you think you have things under control, you are flooded by a new wave of intrusive thoughts, grief, or pain. Here are three tips and one exercise that you can use to manage your big emotions whenev...

As bestselling author Terrence Real says, if the person who cheated on you is willing to get real and do the work, you’re a fool to leave. But if they are unwilling to take accountability and change, then you’re a fool to stay. Not much is harder than figuring out how to love your partner in all their messy humanness—and there’s also not much that’s more important. The good news: Warmer, closer, m...

One of the questions I get asked most often – with either a look of disgust, pity, or incredulousness – is why I stayed after my husband’s multiple affairs. In this show, I take a deep dive into my situation, process, and explanation of why I stayed and why my husband chose to stay as well. Top Take-a-ways: “Is there more?” How the second to last step in the IMAGO dialogue protocol kept me moving...

A 20 minute meditation to be used at night to fall asleep, or in the day to calm down. Designed for times where you feel overcome, overwhelmed, and like your whole life has been turned upside down. This meditation helps you find the courage, confidence, and clarity to keep walking ahead, so you can get to your own happy ending, no matter how bad things seem right now.

Finding out about your partner’s affair leaves you feeling helpless, confused, and hopeless. It’s hard to imagine that you will ever being happy again. But you can be happy again. Maybe, like me, even happier than you were before! All it takes is a deeper understanding of the dynamics of power, joy, and responsibility. Let me show you how to reclaim what I like to call your “sparkle,” so you can s...

Have you ever wished for a roadmap that would get you through sexual addiction, porn addiction, an other forms of sexual brokenness to a place of peace, redemption, grace, and healing? You are not alone. Pornography addiction and sex addiction tear at the fabric of marriage, intimacy, and even your own sanity. But you can get through the storm and come out the other side wiser and happier than bef...

No matter where you are on your post-affair journey, use this timeline as a guide to the phases, stages, and emotions that you can expect after infidelity. From-D-day, (discovery day) trickle-truth, to the first anniversary, this show breaks down what to expect each quarter of the first year. Top Take-a-ways: Discovery Day and why your partner uses trickle truth as a means to keep their identity i...

What does it take to trust again after an affair? It begins with a radical understanding of the multitude of ways that you were betrayed. Contrary to what you might think, an act of infidelity is more than a single betrayal. It involves a breach of emotional, spiritual, financial, marital, and sexual trust. Even more, it violates the trust you have in the way the world is supposed to work, what it...

Buckle up for a unique perspective on the phenomenon of toxic masculinity! Unlike Lora’s regular shows, this episode features a live Q&A session where Lora channels her guides, “The Librarians,” to answer questions around toxic masculinity, the role of religion on the planet, and how we can best manage and protect our integrity and energy when confronted with toxicity. As with any live, channeled...

One of the most confusing aspects of being cheated on is how your cheating partner can claim that they didn’t think about you, your kids, home, family, friends, community, or employment – especially if they cheated with someone at work, before they cheated or even while they were cheating. While on the surface it defies belief that someone could intentionally take all the steps and actions necessa...

“I wish I could just get over it” and “I want it all to go away!” are two of the most common refrains of the betrayed partner. Even though infidelity leaves you devastated, racked with obsessive thoughts, and wondering if you will ever feel “normal” or happy again, the truth is, you can get over your partner’s affair. Learning to love yourself and to enjoy life again takes time, but like any wound...

While it may feel like you are the only one who has experienced the heartbreak and pain of betrayal, you are not alone. In fact, the basis of the entire Christian religion is founded on the resurrection…which was preceded by the crucifixion…which was preceded by – you guessed it – a betrayal. Top Take-a-ways: Why betrayal is the beginning of the story and is always the catalyst for something more...

Hormones are chemical messengers that control the way you feel, react, and relate. Hormones are what make you who you are on the inside. So, when something stressful or traumatic happens, and your hormones go out of whack, you’re not going to feel like you normally do! Whether it’s menopause, the stress of infidelity, or you suddenly feel betrayed by your own body because you no longer recognize t...

If you have been betrayed, you understand the obsession with figuring out why men cheat. But here’s the thing. Too often, infidelity or affair recovery programs focus on the reasons why men cheat and miss the million-dollar question:  Why does it matter?  Getting radically honest about the underlying cause of the cheating is what matters. And the reason it matters is because it helps you understan...

Have you ever wished for a complete do-over of your relationship? Whether you are working things out, have no idea what you are going to do, or have already left but are determined to do things “right” next time around, learning which mistakes you are making will help! Even without your partner’s conscious effort, you can create more harmony, intimacy, and joy in your relationship today using thes...

Should I stay or should I go? Is one of the most often asked, and anguished over, questions after infidelity or betrayal. After experiencing the shock and devastation of your life not being what you thought it was, many women want certainty. Certainty that they are making the “right” decisions. Certainty that their partner won’t cheat again. Certainty that they will find new love, or certainty tha...

Whenever our brains have “open loops” aka unanswered questions, they automatically start searching for answers. They search and they search, and they search until they find answers for those questions so they can close the loop and move on. Until the brain finds a satisfactory answer, it keeps seeking answers. That’s why you are having obsessive thoughts. Here’s how to find peace and stop. Top tak...