FLAUNT! Create a Life You Love After Infidelity or Betrayal

Finding out about your partner’s affair leaves you feeling helpless, confused, and hopeless. It’s hard to imagine that you will ever being happy again. But you can be happy again. Maybe, like me, even happier than you were before! All it takes is a deeper understanding of the dynamics of power, joy, and responsibility. Let me show you how to reclaim what I like to call your “sparkle,” so you can s...

Have you ever wished for a roadmap that would get you through sexual addiction, porn addiction, an other forms of sexual brokenness to a place of peace, redemption, grace, and healing? You are not alone. Pornography addiction and sex addiction tear at the fabric of marriage, intimacy, and even your own sanity. But you can get through the storm and come out the other side wiser and happier than bef...

No matter where you are on your post-affair journey, use this timeline as a guide to the phases, stages, and emotions that you can expect after infidelity. From-D-day, (discovery day) trickle-truth, to the first anniversary, this show breaks down what to expect each quarter of the first year. Top Take-a-ways: Discovery Day and why your partner uses trickle truth as a means to keep their identity i...

What does it take to trust again after an affair? It begins with a radical understanding of the multitude of ways that you were betrayed. Contrary to what you might think, an act of infidelity is more than a single betrayal. It involves a breach of emotional, spiritual, financial, marital, and sexual trust. Even more, it violates the trust you have in the way the world is supposed to work, what it...

Buckle up for a unique perspective on the phenomenon of toxic masculinity! Unlike Lora’s regular shows, this episode features a live Q&A session where Lora channels her guides, “The Librarians,” to answer questions around toxic masculinity, the role of religion on the planet, and how we can best manage and protect our integrity and energy when confronted with toxicity. As with any live, channeled...

One of the most confusing aspects of being cheated on is how your cheating partner can claim that they didn’t think about you, your kids, home, family, friends, community, or employment – especially if they cheated with someone at work, before they cheated or even while they were cheating. While on the surface it defies belief that someone could intentionally take all the steps and actions necessa...

“I wish I could just get over it” and “I want it all to go away!” are two of the most common refrains of the betrayed partner. Even though infidelity leaves you devastated, racked with obsessive thoughts, and wondering if you will ever feel “normal” or happy again, the truth is, you can get over your partner’s affair. Learning to love yourself and to enjoy life again takes time, but like any wound...

While it may feel like you are the only one who has experienced the heartbreak and pain of betrayal, you are not alone. In fact, the basis of the entire Christian religion is founded on the resurrection…which was preceded by the crucifixion…which was preceded by – you guessed it – a betrayal. Top Take-a-ways: Why betrayal is the beginning of the story and is always the catalyst for something more...

Hormones are chemical messengers that control the way you feel, react, and relate. Hormones are what make you who you are on the inside. So, when something stressful or traumatic happens, and your hormones go out of whack, you’re not going to feel like you normally do! Whether it’s menopause, the stress of infidelity, or you suddenly feel betrayed by your own body because you no longer recognize t...

If you have been betrayed, you understand the obsession with figuring out why men cheat. But here’s the thing. Too often, infidelity or affair recovery programs focus on the reasons why men cheat and miss the million-dollar question:  Why does it matter?  Getting radically honest about the underlying cause of the cheating is what matters. And the reason it matters is because it helps you understan...

Have you ever wished for a complete do-over of your relationship? Whether you are working things out, have no idea what you are going to do, or have already left but are determined to do things “right” next time around, learning which mistakes you are making will help! Even without your partner’s conscious effort, you can create more harmony, intimacy, and joy in your relationship today using thes...

Should I stay or should I go? Is one of the most often asked, and anguished over, questions after infidelity or betrayal. After experiencing the shock and devastation of your life not being what you thought it was, many women want certainty. Certainty that they are making the “right” decisions. Certainty that their partner won’t cheat again. Certainty that they will find new love, or certainty tha...

Whenever our brains have “open loops” aka unanswered questions, they automatically start searching for answers. They search and they search, and they search until they find answers for those questions so they can close the loop and move on. Until the brain finds a satisfactory answer, it keeps seeking answers. That’s why you are having obsessive thoughts. Here’s how to find peace and stop. Top tak...

The shocking truth about burnout is that it's not usually burnout. More often than not it's betrayal that causes you to feel cynical, disconnected, overwhelmed, and exhausted. It's my hunch that, like me, the life you are living is a far cry from the life you thought you would live. Fairy tale fantasies aside, I'm fairly certain that none of us dreamed of living through a pandemic, a mortgage cris...

Breath is the foundation of life, the doorway to multidimensionality, and how you breath determines how you feel on this human journey. Betrayal leads to a loss of trust, a loss of control, and a loss of flow. Breathwork is a tool that can help you regulate and calm your nervous system, relax and accept the present moment, and feel better fast. The choice is yours: You can either stumble through t...

You’ve probably heard of fight, flight, or freeze, but did you know that fawning (going out of your way to please someone) is also a trauma response? While fawning is a common stress response for many women, it’s especially prevalent after infidelity or betrayal. Learn how to identify, manage, and stop fawning behaviors so you can create and hold better, more authentic boundaries. Top take-a-ways:...

Whether your betrayal was recent or several years back, being betrayed makes you feel like your insides have been shattered. Like you will never recover, feel happy, or find joy again. But despite the way you feel right now, betrayal can make you stronger. If you choose to let it. Top take-a-ways: What is betrayal? – From its definition, cause, examples, and repercussions. Discover the root cause...

Love is a good thing, right? Not when the longing for love turns out to be a Love Addiction. This Valentine’s Day, stop recycling the same relationship drama & disappointments, heal the past, dissolve the old patterns that are keeping you stuck, and finally find the love you deserve. Top take-a-ways: Hitting your “relationship rock bottom” and how to feel better and move on when you feel heartbrok...

Without question, infidelity and betrayal flood your body with a variety of difficult sensations and make you feel icky and uncomfortable. When that happens, it’s all too common to seek to numb our painful feelings, strike out and hurt others, or spiral into anxiety and overwhelm. But it doesn’t have to be that way! This show teaches you how to healthily feel and process your emotions instead of n...

Between your personal betrayal, the pandemic, climate crises such as fires, droughts, floods, and a volcano (seriously, a volcano?) and our hyper-stressful political/cultural scene, it’s my guess that like me, you have been REALLY UNSETTLED and REALLY STRESSED OUT. What I want for you in 2022, is for you to regain your sense of peace, play, receptivity, and power. I want you to spend 2022 chilling...

Have you ever wondered about the divorce process or whether there were other legal remedies that could help you navigate infidelity? This show will teach you what it is like to work with an attorney, what the legal system can and cannot do to help you, and how you can use a variety of legal remedies to help you secure your finances, future, and family. The legal process can be very intimidating, b...

It’s my hunch that like Austin and Rachel Holt, you have read books, prayed hard, and have gone through some sort of marital or relationship counseling. But despite learning about how to budgets, expectations in sex, or how to formulate a parenting plan, you came head-to-head with a very real - and problematic situation: Even though you were in love, your deepest hurts, unhealed wounds and unconsc...

Living with or loving an emotionally immature person is difficult. It can keep you hopping as you do your best to try to manage their emotions, and it can make you feel like you are the crazy one – even though somewhere deep inside you know you aren’t. Dr. Lindsay Gibson provides hope and relief from the confusion and emotional suffering that emotionally immature parents arouse in their loved ones...

Feeling “normal” again after infidelity or betrayal is a process that takes a combination of the right ingredients and the right actions. Learn how movement can help you process and heal so you can feel better fast! Top take-a-ways: What “somatic movement” is, what it does, and why it helps you recover from infidelity or betrayal. Why recovering and healing is like baking cookies; you need the rig...

Betrayal pulls the rug out from under you and makes you question yourself and your reality. Things that you relied on as true, you find out were not, leaving you ungrounded, grieving, and wondering where you can turn to for safety and rest. Which can be especially painful around the holidays, where tradition reigns supreme, and you find yourself in unfamiliar territory with the outside pressure to...