Fix Your Relationships with Dr. Tiff | Christian Women, Boundaries, Self-Sabotage, Red Flags, People Pleasing

Have you ever felt like you were just too much for the people you loved most? Dr. Tiff breaks down why the problem was never your calibration — it was the container, and what Jeremiah 1:5 says about who God decided you were before you ever walked into a room that made you feel otherwise. Scripture: Jeremiah 1:5 — “Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, before you were born I set you apart.”  ...

You did not do this work to level up for somebody's dusty son. In this episode Dr. Tiff paints a vivid picture of who the woman becomes when the work finally, truly belongs to her — introducing one of the most powerful metaphors in her teaching: the peacock. This is what it looks like to move through the world not from performance but from presence. Not fragile, not small — dainty. A stunning crow...

You've been doing the work. But if you're honest — is there an secret agenda underneath it all? A hope that if you heal enough, grow enough, transform enough, love will finally follow? In this episode Dr. Tiff names the unconscious agenda that drives a lot of inner work and challenges the woman who has been using healing as a strategy to finally make a different decision.  Scripture: Galatians 6:4...

You were taught your whole life that it's better to give than to receive. And you believed it so completely that you built your entire approach to love around it. But what happens to the woman who was taught to give everything and never learned how to receive? In this episode Dr. Tiff traces that teaching back to its source — including what Acts 20:35 actually meant in context — and makes the case...

You've been listening, learning, and telling yourself you're going to do the work — so why haven't you started? In this episode Dr. Tiff speaks directly to the perfectionist who has been overthinking the inner work to the point of paralysis. She names the #1 thing standing between highly driven women and the love they've been praying for — and it's not what you think. The first step turns out to b...

Part 2 of 2 — Walk on Water Series You made the decision to trust. You opened your hands. And now the wind is rising. In the conclusion of the Walk on Water series, Dr. Tiff walks through the full story of Peter stepping out of the boat — and what it means for the woman who has stepped out on faith in her love life and is starting to feel the ground shift. This episode is about what happens after...

You've been praying for the right relationship. But what if God has already started answering — and you keep dismissing it because it doesn't match your picture? In this episode Dr. Tiff gets honest about the difference between discernment and control, what it looks like to lean on your own understanding in love, and what you might need to surrender before the right thing can actually reach you. S...

If you've looked back at your last few relationships and noticed a common thread — emotionally unavailable, hot and cold, great in theory and not quite there in reality — this episode is going to explain why. Dr. Tiff breaks down why highly driven women are drawn to unavailable partners, what that magnetic pull is really about, and what it's going to take to finally start choosing differently. Scr...

Have you been doing the work — the therapy, the journaling, the prayer — and still can't figure out why love hasn't shown up yet? In this episode, Dr. Tiff explores one of the most common reasons highly driven women stay stuck: confusing self-protection with healing. Sometimes the very walls we built to keep out the hurt are the same walls keeping out the love. If you've ever wondered whether you'...

You have been carrying your team, your family, your relationship, and everyone else's emotional weight. But when was the last time you carried yourself, sis? In this episode, Dr. Tiff flips Galatians 6:5 inward — because each one should carry their own load includes you. Your needs, your grief, your desires, your evolution are worth carrying with the same intention and devotion you extend to every...

Remember that group project in school where you ended up doing everything while everyone else coasted? For a lot of highly driven women, that pattern didn't stay in the classroom — it followed them into their relationships. In this episode, Dr. Tiff breaks down why so many women consistently over-function in love, what it's actually costing them, and how to stop doing everyone's part without blowi...

In Part 1, we discussed the 5 signs you might be in love with someone's potential, rather than who they actually are. In this episode, Part 2, , Dr. Tiff goes deeper — into how highly driven women fall in love with potential in the first place, why it's so difficult to let go even when you know better, and what's really underneath the staying. This is the episode that gets honest about the differe...

Have you ever been more in love with who someone could become than who they actually are? In Part 1 of this two-part conversation, Dr. Tiff breaks down what it really means to be in love with potential — and gives you 5 clear signs to help you see whether that's where you are right now.  RESOURCES MENTIONED THIS EPISODE: MORE LOVE, LESS HUSTLE : Join Dr. Tiff for this upcoming LIVE event designed...

You spend a lot of time thinking about the relationships in your life — but what about the one that's quietly setting the terms for all of them? In this episode, Dr. Tiff breaks down why the relationship you have with yourself is the blueprint for every other relationship you're in, what it looks like when that blueprint is flawed, and what it actually means to start building from the truth of who...

You show up. You deliver. You don't quit. You succeed. This pattern has worked for you in your career, time and time again. So why don't these same skill translate to love? In this episode, Dr. Tiff breaks down why the skills that make highly driven women exceptional at work — self-reliance, problem-solving, high standards, follow-through — quietly work against them in love. And why the fix isn't...

If your heart has ever whispered: “Maybe I’m just hard to love,” “I’m always the problem,” “I must be the common denominator…” today's episode was recorded with you in mind. In You Are The ONE: A Reminder Every Christian Woman Needs to Hear (& Share), Dr. Tiff shifts the focus away from “finding the one” and back to becoming The ONE—the woman God created you to be, before heartbreak, rejection...

Girl, you know you don't want to do it. You know you don't have the energy. But instead of saying no, you write a seven-sentence apology with three explanations attached. In this episode, Dr. Tiff unpacks why so many of us over-explain our "no" — and walks you through how you can go from a whole dissertation to one clean sentence with a period on the end. RESOURCES MENTIONED THIS EPISODE: The ONE...

You're overwhelmed, overworked, and if we're really being honest — maybe a little resentful. But you're also the first to raise your hand when something needs to be fixed. This week's episode is for my fixers. My over-functioners. The ones who see a problem and their spirit says "I got it" before anyone even asks. I want you to know that I see you, babes. You've become the event planner, the thera...

You don’t want to sabotage your relationships… but some of your habits are doing it for you. Do you start arguments from nowhere, pull back to see if they’ll chase you, or make people “prove” they won’t leave—then feel rejected when they get tired?  In this eye-opening episode of Fix Your Relationships, we'll explore a sneaky form of self-sabotage: Testing people to prove they’ll leave. Join me in...

So many women stay in relationships, friendships, family roles, even church situations long after their gut has told them 'its time to move on'—simply because they’re terrified of being labeled: “The quitter” “The one who broke the family” “A bad Christian” If you’ve ever stayed in a relationship way past its expiration date because you were scared of being “the one who left,” this episode is for...

A lot of us feel like we only have two options in love: Be soft, loving, and walked all over, OR Be strong, guarded, and low-key shut down. But what if God is actually inviting you into something else: A soft heart and a strong backbone. If you’re tired of being either “too soft” or “too hard,” then this episode is sure to hit home. I'll share with you what it truly means to “be transformed by the...

Setting boundaries can be difficult. Especially if you tend to love extra-hard. Compound that with all you've learned about love as a 'Christian woman' and it may feel like you've gotten conflicting messages about love and relationships for your entire adult life. If you’ve ever thought, “If I really loved them, I’d stay no matter what,” while also thinking, "I can't keep doing this," this episode...

We’ve all heard about the Five Love Languages—Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Gifts, Acts of Service, and Physical Touch. But what if there’s a missing piece that your heart has been begging for? In this episode, Dr. Tiff explores the idea of adding a sixth love language — Emotional Safety — arguing that true love requires a sense of calm, trust, and the freedom to be vulnerable. Using vivid m...

Does your “chemistry” usually come with anxiety, overthinking, and emotional whiplash? This week, Dr. Tiff breaks down the difference between real chemistry and chaotic familiarity—and why highly driven women are sometimes drawn to what hurts. Turn the volume up and learn the 3 simple questions to ask yourself in order to know for certain. RESOURCES MENTIONED THIS EPISODE: MORE LOVE, LESS HUSTLE :...

Ever wonder how smart, ambitious women end up in some of the messiest relationships? In this fun, light, and a little-bit-messy episode, Dr. Tiff chats with actress/writer/director Tiffany Yvonne Cox about her new vertical series “ Unexpected Company ”—and the very real patterns it reflects in our love lives. Listen via podcast of WATCH the full episode on YouTube . MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: UNEX...