Finding You: with Dr. Brad Reedy

Dr. Reedy explores grief and the loss we experience beyond the death of someone we love. He talks about how much of therapy is grief work: losing old ideas, old friends, parts of ourselves. He explains that growth requires us to accept the temporal nature of things. He explains that most of our learning is really un-learning. He explains that how much of our loss is grieving versions of ourselves...

Dr. Reedy goes through the 12-steps and explains the psychological principles behind them. He focuses on surrender, guilt and chain, and the power of being accepted by the group. He explains that our defenses, which we put in place to protect us, hurt us, and the people that we love. He explains that much of what we are medicating with our addictions is related to guilt and chain. And he explains...

Dr. Reedy talks about how the defenses we create to protect ourselves hurt the people closest to us. He explains that it is the defense, not the simple mistake, that causes the trauma. He talks about how intentions are neither good nor bad. He explains that as our consciousness increases, we will have more capacity to hold the emotions and pain of those we love, and this is how we bring greater he...

Dr. Reedy sits down Co-Founder Liz Reitman of Other Parents Like Me. Liz shares her story and how OPLM serves parents navigating challenges that stem from a child struggling with mental health and addiction. Liz shares her own journey and how connecting with other parents filled a need that other resources didn't. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Dr. Reedy welcomes Jackie Woodside, a USA TODAY and five-time international Amazon bestselling author, TEDx speaker, international trainer, and professional coach. Jackie Woodside is a USA TODAY and five-time international Amazon bestselling author, TEDx speaker, international trainer, and professional coach. A former therapist turned coach, she is the founder of the Conscious Living Summit a...

Dr. Reedy explains that seeking to change behavior, reduce symptoms, or get rid of old defense may not be the best route to take early in our process. He explains that we must first listen to the messages these behaviors have for us and accept ourselves so that we may transform at a deeper level. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Dr. Reedy discusses how rituals and ceremonies can facilitate awareness and presence with ourselves and others. He talks about goal setting and what greater principles can guide our lives. He describes the value of interpreting the meaning behind the metaphors in our lives.  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Dr. Reedy explores the role of the step-parent. He explains that their outside perspective is both a strength and a weakness: a strength because it offers clarity and a weakness because it can lean towards judgment. He encourages step-parents to attune to the child and respond with what is needed rather than applying a generic template. He explores and reframes the archetype and metaphor of the “w...

In this episode, Dr. Reedy explains the definition and root causes of codependency. He explains that the core could be understood as the difference between being good and being Self. He explains the relationship between attachment and codependency and how they relate to addiction.  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode, Dr. Reedy explains how our attachment must evolve along with our child’s development. He explains that the first tasks in attachment are belonging, safety, and stability. But once a child enters adolescence, the stage of life where one must develop their own identity and sense of self, the parents’ attachment task is more about letting go and separation. He explains that parents m...

In this episode, Dr. Reedy shares his thoughts on self-care versus self-improvement, the trap of self-righteousness, and how our self-awareness is only as good as our self-compassion. He explains why humans seek to please other humans and what is meant by a “transformation of consciousness.” Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode, Dr. Reedy talks about the roles we take on in families. He explains how the s scapegoat or identified patient serve to take on the shame and undone work of the family. Often their symptoms are messengers of the work previous generations have avoided up to this point. They often bring the entire family into therapy and are regarded as sort of a “hero.” This is because once the fami...

Dr. Reedy explains how boundaries are synonymous with self-care. He explains that boundaries set from a codependent context are meant to change others while boundaries set from a secure sense of self are set to take care of one’s self. He explains how consequences, under the umbrella of boundaries, are an attempt to change behaviors in others. And finally, if we set boundaries to change others we...

Dr. Reedy discusses whether going home for the holidays is the best thing for us. He discusses the guilt, shame and obligation that’s “baked-in” to us when it comes to visiting family or maintaining relationships we have outgrown. He doesn’t offer advice but rather takes the audience through the questions and the thinking that goes into our relationships. He explains that a task in attachment is t...

Dr. Reedy discusses how therapists (specifically analytical and attachment-based therapists) may think about religion. He explores the function of religion as a way to relate to life and to the world. He talks about how disconnection from God is synonymous with disconnection from ourselves. He talks about our relationship with fear and how if we avoid the feelings of uncertainty and the pain that...

Dr. Reedy explains that the goal in therapy is reducing shame, creating safety, and lessening resistance. Therapy is a different way of being with someone, so they feel safe enough to lower their defenses. He suggests that we can learn from therapy and apply principles of dealing with resistance to all our relationships and to ourselves. He discusses how common resistance is in our work. He talks...

Dr. Reedy discusses the difference between therapy and a podcast. He explains that ultimately, we must face what is presenting itself to us in our lives. We must go in and through the pain and difficulty to discover news resources that lie within all of us. He talks about how we avoid parts of ourselves and repress feelings, characteristics, or traits in order to fit in and how the problems that b...

De. Reedy discusses the young adult stage of development. He talk, talks about brain development and the tasks that young adult adults are negotiating. He also talks about the parallel journey that the parents of young adults are also traversing. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Dr. Reedy takes questions from audience members and live participants of the Finding You Inner Circle. He talks about how un-owned codependency becomes a burden to those close to us, how to navigate a relationship where we are repeatedly betrayed, and how to respond when a child is baiting the parent to react. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Dr. Reedy discuss a shift in consciousness that gives a new context for tools. He explains that we must shift our thinking about self and relationships in the parenting context for boundaries to make sense. He explains how myth and story help to illustrate this shift in consciousness.  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Dr. Reedy addresses the two main tasks of intimacy – sharing and listening. He talks about the capacity required to deeply hear and listen to another. He explains that talking tends to be a taking thing and listening requires healing and significant capacity. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Dr. Reedy discuss the impact of family of origin roles and rules on our psyche. He talks about how we can repair wounds and trauma we experienced. He emphasized the need for overt and explicit communication rather than covert and implicit messaging. He explains how therapy, sitting with a different perspective, can shift the ideas we have sometimes unconsciously internalized. Hosted on Acast. See...

Dr. Reedy explores various therapy approaches and how they view symptoms. He explains that symptoms are messengers from the unconscious, the inner-child, and authentic self. We learn to be in dialogue with our symptoms. We can learn to listen rather suppress. As Marcus Aurelius says, “What stands in the way is the way.” Or as Rumi wrote, “The cure for the pain is in the pain.” Hosted on Acast. See...

Dr. Reedy discusses how we can understand our experience through using what therapists refer to as “parts work.” From the Ancient Greeks to the present, people have used stories, characters, and archetypes to better understand and work with the different energies that motivate human behavior. These methods, including the most recent iteration, Internal Family Systems, offer a non-shaming perspecti...

Dr. Reedy discusses the relationship between guilt, resentment, and boundaries. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.