Finding You: with Dr. Brad Reedy

Dr. Reedy talks about healthy detachment, boundaries, and letting-go of outcomes. He points out that healthy detachment is synonymous with healthy attachment and that to move away from codependency, we must be willing to do battle with our guilt. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Dr. Reedy talks about preparing for your children coming home after treatment. He explains the principles of a good behavioral contract; he also talks about the value and the pitfalls of contracts. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Dr. Reedy takes live questions on objectifying your children, what to focus on when your child gets home, and how to intervene when siblings are estranged. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Dr. Reedy welcomes Sanford Shapiro in the first of a series of episodes talking about parental anxiety. Sanford talks about fixing children versus treatment. He talks about how wisdom from working with learning disabilities can be applied to the general population. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Dr. Reedy talks about awareness and accountability and how we focus on one or the other for parents and children. He talks about the place that children occupy in a parent’s mind vs. the weight of the parent in the child’s mind and psyche. He talks about the qualities of a good apology and the gift of an amends or an accountability letter. He talks about paradigms of power in families and how pare...

Dr. Reedy talks about coming out as and LGBTQ+ person. He talks about the impact of how family members, parents in particular, respond and the impact that has on the young person. He talks about the approach from a therapeutic lens in contrast to other paradigms such as religious or cultural. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Dr. Reedy defines narcissist wounding as the wound of not being seen. While narcissism is used casually and often as an insult, it comes from deep childhood wounding and attachment fractures. He debunks myths that suggest that narcissism comes from overindulging children or permissive parenting. Dr. Reedy explains that we all have some wounding and all have some attributes of narcissism. Hosted on...

Dr. Reedy takes live questions on trust children, coming home after wilderness, and parenting control. He talks about suicide and learning to listen to children as if they are telling you about their dreams. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Dr. Reedy discusses the common ways people exhibit borderline patterns of thinking and functioning. Ge talks about the divisiveness and trauma present in our culture and how borderline thinking, all or nothing/black and white thinking is a sign of trauma. He talks about how we make the badness external to make ourselves feel comfortable instead of focusing on and owning our own issues. Hosted on A...

Dr. Reedy welcomes Dr. Harriet Lerner to the podcast. In this interview, they talk about the history and culture of mother-blaming, developing self-compassion, and how an authentic apology leads to healing for both parties. Dr. Lerner uses her personal story and her unique voice to talk about how she got into therapy and writing. Brad asks Harriet about how triggers don't equate to blame and Harri...

Dr. Reedy share research on child development and parenting and how talking about race with our children makes a difference. He suggests that we not wait to talk about race with our children and that the uncomfortable discussion is important to have. He suggests that we learn to listen to others (and our children) so that they don't think that violence is the only way they will be heard. Hosted on...

This broadcast was inspired by recent events. Largely based on J.D.Gill's book, Seeing in Intimacy and Psychotherapy, Dr. Reedy talks about how to see past behaviors, symptoms, and rebellion to the wound that lies beneath. He talks about how "othering" people is a way to deal with pain and anxiety. He talks about how a transformation of Self creates an ability to hear and truly see others and how...

Dr. Reedy welcomes Judith Sadora, primary therapist at Evoke Therapy Programs. Judith talks about transracial adoption and attachment. She talks about Narcissism, holding space for others, and the need to do our own work. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Dr. Reedy talks about how attachment theory informs therapy at Evoke Therapy Programs. He talks about how attachment wounds and fractures can be repaired by a therapist creating competing experiences for the client. the client must re-experience themselves in the context of a capable, empathic other in order to heal. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Jamie Goodman, of Pilcrow Advisors, joins Dr. Brad Reedy to discuss Parental Guilt. They discuss how guilt is not a valid measure of right and wrong and how we pass on to our children a susceptibility to peer pressure when we model guilt or use it to change behavior in our children. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

From his recent book, The Audacity to Be You: Learning to Love Your Horrible, Rotten Self, Dr. Reedy talks about 12 myths of being human and being a parent, including the myth the guilt is related to morality. He also talks about the keys to enlightenment, including "learning to lose" and "knowing your mental illness." Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Dr. Reedy takes questions from viewers. He talks about criteria for coming home. He discusses the sensibility shift parents make as they get into recovery from codependency. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This podcast features Dr. Brad Reedy. Two guests, Emma Reedy and Beth Miller, interview Dr. Reedy, asking personal questions and questions about his evolution as a therapist. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Dr. Reedy welcomes Sam Kelly, art therapist, author, and parent educator. Sam talks about her approach with younger children and how holding space for their feelings is the key to nurturing connection and developing their sense of self. She talks about her book, Young and Divorced. She also shares how her work relates to her family of origin and how it is ideal that parents can listen children's a...

Dr. Reedy talks about the notion of being a good parent. The shift is from being right and good to being a Self. He suggests that the task of parenting is to raise a healthy Self and that this requires rare capacity. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Dr. Reedy takes questions from parents and talks about how family members can best support their loved one in treatment. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Dr. Reedy talks about dealing with stress, anxiety and fear during the pandemic. He talks about how we need to find someone who can sit with us in our pain and grief so we can learn to move through our feelings. Dr. Reedy shares several quotes and ideas from Dr. Harriet Lerners book, The Dance of Fear. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Dr. Reedy talks about the attributes of an adequate therapist. He shares the secret to knowing that you have an adequate therapist is that when you share being upset with them, they apologize rather than making it about you. He also talks about the parallels between an adequate therapist and an adequate parent. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Dr. Reedy welcomes Author and Parent Coach Krissy Pozatek. Krissy talks about her roots in wilderness therapy and how it informs her parent coaching. She talks about allowing children to feel and empowering parents. She shares the core principles of her work and talks about her new online Parallel Process Intensive program. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Dr. Reedy welcomes Evoke's Executive Director and Partner Rick Heizer to talk about Evoke Therapy Programs' response and policies related to COVID 19. They address both health-safety policies and questions related to the clinical work at Evoke during the pandemic. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.