Finding You: with Dr. Brad Reedy

Dr. Brad Reedy took your live and pre-submitted questions. He answered questions about the value of psychiatric evaluations, "rescuing" our children, what happens to a child when one household seems more "stable" than the other, and whether or not there is such thing as "healthy codependency" (there isn't), among many others. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Dr. Brad Reedy defines Attunement and Codependency and describes the differences between them. While it might feel like a fine line divides them, once you understand the effects of each on the family, that fine line widens to a large gap. Attunement is quite simply seeing and responding to the child’s needs. Codependency is projecting onto the Other your needs and meeting your needs through the Ot...

Dr. Brad Reedy addresses a few questions that essentially ask: What do I do when my [child, parent, significant other] is feeling [a certain emotion]? He responds: When we give people the “right” to feel their feelings it helps them—and ultimately us—process and then let go of the harder or negative feelings. Then we can all start making decisions from the right place--not from control or fear or...

Dr. Reedy revisits his favorite book on boundaries, “The Dance of Anger,” by Harriet Lerner. He talks about how guilt and fear must be faced for us to set boundaries and become who we are. He explains that anger is a signal that we need to take better care of ourselves. He also explains how we do everything (blame, argue, guilt others, complain, rage, debate, reason, etc.) except set a boundary to...

Dr. Brad Reedy took your live and pre-submitted questions. Tonight he answered questions about treatment-resistant teens, how to give yourself a time out when you're in lockdown, and what effect having high expectations on your kids actually has, among others. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Dr. Brad Reedy defines trauma responses, discusses how to recognize them (i.e., If it’s hysterical, it’s historical), and then talks about ways to begin the process of moving past these automatic reactions into more intentional behaviors and response flexibility. “As parents, it is important for us to understand our trauma responses when we are trying to be a safe person for our kids. Trauma is in...

Parents ask questions about how wilderness works for kids with ASD, whether regular at-home drug testing is a good strategy, and how much to disclose to your children about your own growth work and learning. Dr. Brad Reedy also shares important thoughts on empathy and boundaries: "Don’t let your empathy rob you of your boundaries. We parents can sometimes do that and it allows us to compromise and...

Dr. Brad Reedy talks about many iterations of the family system and shares thoughts on how to approach each. Key messages: “When you talk about the other parent, you are talking about part of your child.” Choose “good enough.” Give up the need to be right. Learn to separate your need from your child’s need. Focus on what you can control. Your co-parenting relationship is modeling to your kid how t...

Dr. Reedy welcomes Mackenzie Phillips to the broadcast. Mackenzie, the daughter of musical royalty, climbed aboard the acting-train when it pulled into town. She created a successful acting career and is best known for her roles on “American Graffiti,” “One Day at a Time,” and “Orange is the New Black.” And in 2008, after a public arrest at LAX, she made her way towards recovery from addiction and...

A parent wonders how to accept and contain her daughter’s “big” personality and moods when she feels so depleted and overwhelmed herself. Dr. Reedy says: The child does not need you to be perfect—they just need you to own your imperfection as yours. By demonstrating healthy self-care. By learning to apologize. And then by being ok with them being angry and disappointed when you do. Other parents a...

In this webinar, Dr. Brad Reedy reviews the book “What Happened to You” by Dr. Bruce Perry & Oprah Winfrey. Dr. Reedy praised the book as being a great introduction to trauma work while also shifting the narrative away from "What is wrong with you?" toward "What happened to you?" In essence, the book suggests looking at people’s behaviors and struggles through the lens of their history and past ex...

Dr. Brad Reedy discusses school shootings and how to manage your own anxiety about them before trying to help your kids. He also covers how to share your experience with your kids without giving them advice. Says Dr. Reedy, “Mental health is about becoming our most authentic self. At Evoke we don’t think of it as 'being good' or getting the 'right' answer. So the idea of advice doesn’t even fit in...

Dr. Reedy tackles the issue of intimacy and betrayal and couples. He talks about the dynamics that contribute to betrayal in each partner and in the couple. He talks about how problems in a marriage are most often present during courtship, in the early phases of romantic love. Dr. Reedy explains that talking is a taking thing and listening is a giving thing. He also encourages couples to understan...

Dr. Brad Reedy takes your live and pre-submitted questions. Tonight he addresses an array of topics from how to support a child with a Borderline diagnosis to whether or not to try to prevent your child from running with the "wrong crowd" to the best way to address school shootings with your school-aged children. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

The Impact of Peer Groups and Milieu on Your Child - Ep 439 by Dr. Brad Reedy Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Dr. Reedy welcomes inner-child coach, Tiffany McKelvy. Tiffany helps the all-grown-up-but-still-very-lost children of toxic family systems find their way home to their most embodied, authentic selves. Through connecting with and reparenting their inner child, these individuals have the opportunity to disrupt the trauma loops that keep parts of us trapped, afraid, and disconnected from the whole of...

Dr. Brad Reedy discusses control vs influence and healthy detachment, and how when you are familiar with these concepts and trying to live them, your boundaries by definition are clearer and better. He also touches on codependency and how it shows up as us giving people what we want or need and calling it helping them. And he tackles the myths and inaccuracies in the phrase “trust the process” whe...

Dr. Brad Reedy welcomes Evoke Intensives therapist Alex White to the podcast. Alex is a talented clinician that brings a wealth of passion and experience as a group facilitator and experiential therapist. Alex's warmth, relatability, and professional skills allow him to foster deep connections with Evoke participants. His love for learning and genuine curiosity towards life is palpable. Combined w...

Dr. Brad Reedy welcomes Evoke Wilderness therapist Anthony Salerno to the podcast. Anthony shares his journey through the ranks of wilderness therapy in becoming a primary therapist. Anthony shares his approach and how he is able to stoke his passion for creating meaningful interventions at the individual, family, and group levels. Combining this rich set of clinical interventions with stories dra...

Tonight, in anticipation of this week’s Thanksgiving holiday Dr. Brad Reedy speaks about how gratitude cannot be forced, how problems cannot be solved at the same level of consciousness at which they were created, and how the most fundamental need is to be truly seen and heard by the ones we love. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Dr. Reedy talks about learning how to think, listen, and hear others. He also talks about how a compassionate listening can facilitate healing. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Dr. Brad Reedy speaks about in-laws: dealing with dynamics, their at times intrusive behaviors, and how to set healthy boundaries with them. Much of our success depends on our ability to ally with our spouse while at the same time holding space for ourselves. He talks us through practical aspects of boundary setting, managing our own guilt, and managing the outside resistance to our boundary-setti...

Dr. Brad Reedy addresses the question of how giving up—as in letting go of expectations and outcomes—is different than giving up on someone. He also discusses boundaries and how to forgive yourself and accept the complete version of your “horrible, rotten” self no matter how difficult things get at home. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Tonight Dr. Brad Reedy talks about school refusal. He suggests that perhaps school refusal isn’t the “problem” but instead is your child’s “solution” to a deeper issue. He offers different ideas to consider such as getting your child tested for learning differences. And he closes by discussing parents’ own evaluation of their goals concerning their children. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy...

Dr. Brad Reedy welcomes Intensive’s and Coaching therapist Theresa Hasting to the podcast. Theresa shares her journey from parenting education, wilderness therapy, to the birth of Soul Tending Services. She talks about joining the Intensive and Coaching team and explains how she differentiates coaching from counseling and psychotherapy. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.