Finding Serenity in the Midst of Chaos

I got really angry this morning!😠 ... because It was easier to be angry than to admit that I felt fearful! On this occasion, I was feeling fearful about something I decided to do this week. and even though I have consciously chosen to do this new thing, I have been observing, with great curiosity, how it is showing up in my body in my thoughts and if I allow it, in my actions. It feels like walki...

Today's episode is a very special one! Ian is back and he spoke about his emergency surgery. Listen to this episode in full to discover the one shift Ian decided to make on the day of his surgery and how this affected the rest of his experience not just for him but for the people around him. Plus, we go back to the reason why he could make this decision and how he embodied the important mindset wo...

#1 secret to having an easy life and still getting what you want is... ... to give yourself permission to have an easy life! There is nothing wrong with having an easy life, unlike what you may have been led to believe. You might be thinking: "But I have so much to do and I don't want to be lazy!" Notice, I haven't said lazy, I said easy.😉 Easy doesn't mean you are being lazy.😲 It means you are...

Are your SMART goals failing you every year? You are not alone! I get it, I did this too, for a long time! That is the way you have been taught to set goals all along! I spent all of my professional life setting SMART goals... only to discover that they didn't help me grow as a person. Instead, they reminded me of the limitations (placed upon me by others) The more I stayed focused on these limita...

Happy New Year! New year, new start, new-found energy... but before you start charging into working hard and doing everything for everyone else, STOP Ask for help! How many of the things on your to-do list have to actually be done by you? When you listen to this full episode you'll realise you are taking far too much responsibility for others. Start this year by asking for more help from others. Y...

Your words shape your world and your life. Choose your words carefully. When it comes to setting intentions for the new year, it is always a great idea to remind yourself of that intention with a single word. Each year I choose a word for the year and set my intention.  In this episode, I talk about my words from the past 4 years, what my intentions were and how they shaped my year! If you ha...

This is a great time to reflect on the year, and acknowledge and celebrate all that you achieved! It is also a great time to look at your life and evaluate where you are in relation to where you want to be. Have a close look at the areas that need improving. Have you ever stopped working for a minute or looked up from your phone, to consider how balanced your life is right now? Yes, really, have y...

Did you know there are 8 reasons why clutter = stress (according to an article in Psychology Today, published in March 2012)😲? In this episode, we talk about each of them in detail and how they might show up in your life. You'll find the reasons 3-6 affect you the most and most importantly what to do instead. The festive season is here and we are in the mode of giving and receiving! You probably...

"Her life became perfect when she discovered her gratitude and love for the imperfect"🥰😭 ... 🥰 She inspired those around her 😊 By celebrating the little moments, and the deep conversations ❤ By leading with the heart – especially when the heads got stuck 👁‍🗨 By relentlessly imagining and creating a future that she wants to live in 🎯🔥 By proving that fulfilled work and fulfilled family can ha...

What you want also wants you and it is waiting for you on the other side of the fear, uncertainty and inaction! Just remember that everything you created was once a thought and an idea in your head and somehow you managed to turn it into reality. Don't let the uncertainty steal your peace, because it is an illusion. It is not real, it is just resistance from your brain stopping you to move to...

On today's podcast, I answer the million-dollar question! Is it about the journey or the destination? You probably heard it before it is not about the destination but about the journey! If you ask me, it is about neither and it is about both all at the same time!  Listen to this episode to get the full explanation! If you are a regular listener, you probably already know that I am doing a FRE...

A superpower or a vehicle for failure? How is your mindset serving you? Whether you realise it or not, your mind is a superpower. It is so powerful, but when not used properly, it can either lead you to success or work to your detriment. You are a powerful creator and you create everything you see in your external reality in your mind first. You either create the thing you want or the thing you ar...

How important is it to have the right mindset to sustain a happy life? Some might say, it is not necessary, it is just the cherry on the cake! Others might say, the mindset has nothing to do with the sustainability of the planet or life... I disagree! You see, if you knew that everything you create in your external reality has first been created in your mind, would you still think it is the cherry...

Today's episode is a very practical one. I am going to give you a simple mind hack that will make you feel better in an instant once you have taken these 3 simple steps! Mind hack- Your thoughts create your feelings. When you feel bad it means you are thinking bad thoughts and the chances are most of the time they are not even true.  So next time you feel bad, do this instead: 1. Stop yoursel...

Here are the 4 things that will help you find the ultimate inner peace: Have a clear purpose to live for that is bigger than you Let go of the need to control things, outcomes, people and processes and surrender! Detach from the outcome and control the process Be mindful of where we keep your attention Be in gratitude and focus your attention on the abundance you are surrounded by each and every d...

Of course, it is. Inner peace has nothing to do with the outside world. It is totally to do with your inner state. I get it, most people find this hard, and it requires a certain amount of awareness and mental mastery to do this. The world we live in right now is designed to distract us, and put us in fear because when we are in fear we can make irrational decisions and that could work in favour o...

Welcome back to the third instalment of the Inner peace series. In the last two editions I talked about what inner peace looks like when you have it and delved into the 3 things that steals your inner peace every day without you even knowing. Today I will talk about why it is important to have inner peace. So just why is it important to have inner peace? Well, because it is the only way you can re...

In the second instalment of the Inner peace series, I am going to talk about 3 things that steal your inner peace Control - Your need to control everything, everyone, every outcome and all the outside events which you have no control over is the no 1 thing that steals your peace. Because the more you lose control the more panic, fear and anxiety you experience. When you let go of the need to contr...

Welcome to the Inner peace series. In the next 5 episodes, we will be talking about Inner peace!  What does it look like, and how do you know when you have it? What steals your inner peace Why is it important to find inner peace  How do we find inner peace Is it possible to find inner peace even in the world we live in today? Today we are talking about how will you know when you hav...

If you are like most people, you might find making decisions hard, especially when it comes to decisions about yourself and your life.  This might be even harder when other people like your spouse, your children, your work etc are involved. Most people find it hard to make decisions because they are too busy thinking and worrying about the impact it has on other people. You see, regardless of...

Who are you showing up for today? ... A question that stopped me on my tracks and reconnect with my purpose! Here is my answer to the question: I am showing up today for the version of me 12 years ago... who knew she had so much to bring to this world but didn't yet know what and how... Instead, she settled for living a mediocre life day in and day out with a big empty heart for far too long🤍 wit...

Struggling to get what you want in life? Always looking for the next challenge? Can't (won't) celebrate your achievements? Then this episode is for you! The reason why you are struggling to get what you want in life is because of where your attention is! You are focusing on the wrong thing! You created this amazing aspirational goal in your mind (great start, we must set goals, right?) But no matt...

This week we talk about when you should stop caring about what others think of you and why this is a good idea to do so. Listen to the full episode here. If you'd like to stop caring so much about what others think of you and let this rule your life, then book a clarity call now on: https://www.tulaymasseycoaching.com/clarity-call-questionnaire

If you have been a regular listener of this podcast, it is obvious to you why you (your brain) will always try and keep you in your comfort zone... But have you ever wondered why you keep struggling and never seem to be able to get out of it? You see, it is still to do with that familiarity, comfort and feeling of safety your brain seeks and it will do whatever it takes for you to stay there, even...

I don’t believe in coincidence, but I do believe we create our own reality with our thoughts and the feelings those thoughts create.😍 Just the night before my new phone had gone wrong for the first time, I was sitting in my garden and thinking: ’I should really put it down and stop scrolling so much and allow more space for silence’. Well, there you go, the universe gives you exactly what you wan...