Finding Serenity in the Midst of Chaos

This week on Finding Serenity in the Midst of Chaos Podcast, I talked about why it is important to be a better YOU this Christmas! and how you can do that. You can do this by first mastering your mindset and prioritising what is important to YOU!🥰⛪ Then, and ONLY then, you will become  A better mum, A more compassionate boss, More loving wife, More attentive daughter and live a better life!...

This week on Finding Serenity in The Midst of Chaos Podcast, I gave examples of 'BEing' the change I wanted to see in the world when I did a complete U-Turn on my career and decided to become a coach after almost 2 decades in the Food Industry. It is easy to expect others to change or force them to change, but I had the greatest breakthrough when I realised the only thing I can change is MYSELF. T...

Feel like you are stuck in a rut?😫 ... I know how you feel 🤗! I felt like that for 10 years! 😮 I spent the best 10 years of my life feeling like I was totally wasting my life!😞😫😟 ... It turns out I was learning my lessons, again and again, and again🙄 (and it finally clicked)... that everything was happening FOR me! Every 'bad' experience was showing me the way... ❌ Sending me the message t...

Life is not about living in a wonderland of positivity 100% of the time... Life will throw things at you, unexpectedly and yes, it does to me too...😍 BUT I have the power to choose how I feel about the challenges! (and so do you!) and not just see them for what they are right now, but see them for what they are here to teach me! and this is changes everything! 😢 Just because you experience...

What does NO mean? What does it 'mean' about you? NO means, NO. A complete sentence. It means NO you will not do what you are asked to do at that moment. Whether it is Turning down a job, A request from a colleague, a neighbour, your kids, A friend asking you to go somewhere, Going to a meeting You don't have to justify it, you could if you want to, but you don't have to. How they feel about you s...

It’s a tough truth—but also one of the most liberating realizations you’ll ever have: No one is coming to save you. In this episode, Tulay explores what happens when you stop waiting for someone or something outside of you to change your life, fix your problems, or make you feel better. Instead, you learn to turn inward—to the strength, wisdom, and peace that have been there all along. You’ll disc...

Today, in a throwback episode,  we talk about my experience with COVID and how that can apply to many things we do in life. Often, how you experience something is very much determined by what you believe about that specific thing. Most people let the external circumstances determine how they experience certain things, without even knowing. This inevitably can make them a victim to their circu...

What if everything you’re experiencing right now—your relationships, challenges, and even frustrations—is simply reflecting you back to yourself? In this episode, Tulay invites you to look deeper into the mirror of your life and explore how your inner world shapes your outer reality. You’ll discover: ✨ Why life mirrors your beliefs, emotions, and energy ✨ How to recognise when you’re projecting...

If you are like most high achievers I work with, the chances are you are a great problem solver, an analytical thinker and absolutely love working through something until you find the answer! However, you might also realise that some of the problems you are trying to work through are not going away, no matter how much you focus on them. 'You cannot solve a problem with the same level of thinking t...

Have you ever caught yourself thinking, “Why does this always happen to me?” The truth is, it’s not what happens that shapes your life—it’s the meaning you give it. In this episode, we explore how every emotion, reaction, and result in your life is linked to the choices you make—often unconsciously. You’ll discover how to reclaim your free will, rewrite unhelpful meanings, and step out of victim m...

Are you in the significance trap? When will you know you will be good enough? This Episode relates to you if you are the kind of person 🙋‍♀️ Constantly focuses on the next achievement 🙋‍♀️ Never celebrate or acknowledge your last achievement 🙋‍♀️ Always want to talk about your accomplishments rather than yourself. You will love this episode because at the end of it you will discover...

What if Uncertainty is a good thing? Are you staying awake, wondering what is going to happen next? Is the worry of uncertainty causing you so much anxiety? Have you considered if the uncertainty can be a good thing? In this episode, I argue that it, in fact, is! You see if you already knew what was going to happen, you would have already lived it and made it happen.  Everything in life is un...

Knowledge Makes You Powerless! Hear me out before you think I am crazy! I get why you think knowledge is power! This is the paradigm we all grew up with! In fact, I spent 21 years of my life just studying to know all I could know about a given topic, and further 18 years in an environment where I could apply that knowledge. But all that knowledge didn’t give me any power! In fact, it made me power...

You can be comfortable, and still be unhappy! This is not another article I will be banging on about the comfort zone, because you probably heard enough of that! This is about contentment, aka, good old happiness! So, you might be comfortable in your job, in your home, in the external environment you are in and can still be unhappy! You see, happiness is an inner state! It doesn’t depend on extern...

I grew up thinking and believing that life consisted of 6 stages. 1. You go to school 2. You go to university. 3. You get a job. 4. You get married. 5. You have children. 6. You pass. At stage 4, your life is no longer about you as you would 'become responsible' for how your 'other half' feels, what he/she does or doesn't do. At stage 5 your life would practically be over and is now dedicated to t...

Today's episode is a repeat of an important episode from Valentine's Day. Today's video is about the power of self-love - The no 1 thing most self-care routines won't talk about if you woke up thinking "I don't have anyone to love me this Valentine's Day!"😔, then STOP right there! Because there is someone who can LOVE you right now and forever! Just move away from your computer or take your eyes...

This episode is the last of 3 episodes on the topic of burnout. Today, we are talking about the most common mistakes a high-achieving professional woman makes in order to solve the problems they suffer from. For these go back to episode 2. Here are the most common mistakes you make, without realising, that lead to further frustration. You tried ❌ Gaining more control by planning more, doing...

In this episode, I talk about the 'gap' that is created in your mind and causes you to drive yourself to burnout time and time again! I felt the 'gap' for 10 years😣😭 ... You might be feeling it too... 🛴 The gap that appeared since your little ones started school. 😔 The gap that eats you up inside when you see a job role that requires 40-hour weeks + travel, knowing that you can either realisti...

This week, I am talking about how to navigate overwhelm when it comes to getting what you want in life. We dive specifically into how overwhelm may present itself in our life with real examples. I specifically talk about the journey of my husband bringing a brand new drink to life single-handedly using his strong vision, mindset work and consistent action. This was a 10-year process and today's co...

Gratitude is the attitude, right? Have you considered what level of gratitude you are at today? You might be thinking, What do you mean. How many levels are there? 🤔 There are in fact 5 levels of gratitude! No gratitude- complaining and being a victim!😟 Being grateful for the things you have in your life 🤗 Being grateful for the things you do not yet have in your life!- (What? How can I be grat...

Today, we talk about one of the most popular topics of our podcast: Uncertainty. In this episode, we delved into two types of uncertainty: - Uncertainty of what next step to take - Uncertainty of what happens when you take the first step. We covered what gets in your way of taking that first step. I also shared how to overcome uncertainty and embrace the possibilities that you don't even know...

If you are serious about attracting what you want in life, make gratitude a part of your daily routine and watch amazing things happen... Did you know that you can have 😍 A better mental and physical health 🤗 Enhanced compassion 😊 Feeling of calm and peace 😴 Better sleep  😎 Improved self-esteem.  just by making gratitude a habit? Well, I have just the thing for you to integrate grat...

GUILTY AS CHARGED? The mum guilt that is! The one that 💔 creeps up every time you are called to a work trip 💔 eats you up when you are out with friends 💔 makes you check your phone every five minutes when you are out on a date night with your husband, just in case the babysitter called. 💔 makes you feel like you are the worst person in the world if you put your kids in front of the IPad for 30...

This week on Finding Serenity in the Midst of Chaos Podcast, we are answering another listener's question. The question was: "How to find a new purpose after major changes in life?" Major life changes may be moving house, starting a new job, having a baby, loss of someone you love, divorce, finding a new life partner or change in physical ability after a major incident. As you'll hear in this epis...

In this week's episode, I answered a specific question from one of our listeners. The question was: How do you discover what you want, and how do you go about pursuing it when money is an issue? I broke this question down to 2 parts and talked in detail about both separately. It is easy to discover what you want, even if you think you don't yet know what you want. The fact that you are even asking...