Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast

Elyse, one of our Diary Daters, is back on the pod and full of updates to share! First, she goes on a first date that hits a snag when the dude won’t stop looking at his phone. Then, we go back in time to hear some history about a guy who may be entering the picture. But she wonders: should she move forward with getting to know him given some new information she learns? On Ali’s end, she’s taking...

Skyline joins Ali on the pod this week to chat about relationship “rules” (aka agreements) coming out of the Vacation Rules ep a few weeks ago. The two talk about rules they’ve come up with in their relationship, both communicated and otherwise - for example, Ali realizes in real time that they have a rule when they order take out. Then, it’s time to hear from the experts as three friends of the p...

Ali is answering listener questions in a dedicated Hot Topics episode this week! First, a listener receives a no ghosting script after a fourth date and wonders if she should ask for more clarity. Then, we talk about sarcastic/negative answers on dating app profiles - are they a dealbreaker? Our third listener has an old hook-up come back into the picture, and she’s struggling to see it objectivel...

We’re hearing from both of our Dating Diaries ladies this week!! First, Caeli joins to update Ali & the listeners on Executive Chef, plus a new (gentle)man enters the picture. Then, Elyse has been busy with two first dates in one night last week. Plus the main reason we’re here: reviewing her Hinge profile! Ali goes through her photos and prompts, providing insight along the way on brevity, ca...

Ali is fresh off her one-year anniversary trip with Skyline and dishing about her favorite parts (and not so favorite parts) of the trip. She shares the “vacation rules” that she and Skyline have come up with to help them best enjoy their trips and how some of those “rules” have expanded into every day life. Plus, a stressful moment provides an opportunity to reflect on managing low-level conflict...

Ali and Skyline are on their first anniversary vacation and he’s just been introduced on social media…no better time to introduce him to the podcast! This week, you’ll hear an interview that Ali & Erica did on the Patreon back in February. Skyline joined us to answer your questions and introduce himself to the community he’s heard so much about. Our discussion includes: his version of how he m...

Caeli from our Dating Diaries segment is back on the podcast this week and we’re diving into her Bumble profile! We walk through her bio, prompts, and photos and discuss where she can make improvements to set herself up for more success. Through Ali’s notes on photo guidelines, best ways to elicit a reply with your prompts, and ways that different people swipe you’ll get some great tips for crafti...

It’s time to meet our second Dating Diaries participant…Elyse! A 26-year-old living in a major east coast city, Elyse is ready to dive back into dating after recovering from her longest relationship to date. In this introduction episode, you’ll learn about Elyse’s dating history as a self-proclaimed “late bloomer,” how her last relationship played out, plus a very recent development that’s hot off...

Feeling burned out by dating apps? Jessica Hope, founder of Bored of Dating Apps, has BEEN THERE - and she created an entire company to deal with it! Coming to you from Ali’s living room couch, Jess chronicles the dating frustrations that led her to focus more on dating in person and start her own IRL dating events…a journey that ultimately led to her now partner. Ali and Jess chat flirting strate...

It’s our very first Dating Diaries episode, a new segment following listeners along their dating journeys. We’re kicking things off with two listeners, and our first Diary Dater is Caeli, a 32-year-old living in the Chicago suburbs who is ready to start dating intentionally. In this intro episode, you’ll learn more about Caeli’s story including her dating history (and some nicknames), what she’s l...

We’ve got part 2 of my re-introduction this week - both for newer listeners and even our OG crowd as I pick up where we left off last week and dive deep into my live since starting FMH. We chat toxic relationships, career changes, regrets, and much more in part two of this two-part series to kick off my solo podcasting journey. Plus, I share some exciting news on the Skyline front (and promise to...

TW: Grief and SA (see below for more). It’s my (Ali’s) first official solo episode and we’re starting things off with a re-introduction to my background - both for newer listeners and even our OG crowd as I share deeper insights into my childhood/early adulthood & the things that led me to who I am today. We chat friendship wounds, anxious attachment origins, grief, and much more in part one o...

We’re saying goodbye to Erica as a Finding Mr. Height co-host on this week’s episode of the podcast, and it’s definitely an emotional one! After getting the latest Roommate update, Ali interviews Erica using questions from both you the listeners and ones Ali has herself. Topics include: Erica’s highlights and learnings from her journey on the podcast, her favorite (and least favorite) piece of dat...

For Erica’s second to last episode on the pod, we’re doing one of our favorite formats one last time together…Am I The Asshole featuring submissions from Reddit! This week we have: a man wonders if he’s being unreasonable in wanting his girlfriend to loosen up her 50/50 view of household chores, the finances of a long distance relationship causes resentment, and a husband and wife clash over whose...

We had so many grab bag questions from you that we’re back to answer more this week! Tune in for our thoughts on: choosing bridesmaids & navigating friends’ feelings about it, texting with someone who canceled a first date, feeling anxious when you haven’t heard from someone you’re dating, admitting romantic feelings for a friend, deciding whether to pay for dating apps, and navigating your pa...

TW: Mention of verbal abuse & body shaming. We’re joined by an FMH listener this week for a Storytime about his journey through a bad marriage and into the dating journey that followed his divorce. He takes us through all the lessons he’s learned along the way (and some intense stories) as he worked on himself to lead to his current, healthy partnership (and new baby!). In Updates, Erica recap...

This week we are joined by Julie & Yue, cohosts of the amazing Dateable podcast and authors of the new book, ‘How To Be Dateable!’ Julie & Yue have drawn on their deep dating histories to develop the advice in their book (and their podcast). And it turns out our two duos have something in common: we’re both Dreamer/Maverick cohost teams! Ali, Erica, Julie, & Yue dive into how these arc...

Ali & Erica are answering your rapid-fire questions in another grab bag episode! Including: filtering out ghosters, dating in other cities besides your own, handling breakups, and managing expectations for a second date. In Updates, Ali is back from her travels and recounts some special & emotional memories from introducing Skyline to her San Diego people. Erica looks forward to the roomma...

Erica & Ali have a major podcast update at the top of the episode. It’s an emotional one, and we thank you all for being here for it. We then transition to a lighter topic, discussing several Am I The Asshole situations from Reddit. First, a woman disagrees with her mother in law on who should pay for a broken phone. Then, a husband has issues with her sister in law’s new partner (and they how...

We’ve all been in conflict before, but have you ever thought about how your conflict style affects the outcome? And how that style might shift over time and in various situations? This week, Ali & Erica dive into five conflict styles: Competing, Accommodating, Avoiding, Collaborating, and Compromising. Is any one better than the others? Or are some styles more effective than we might think dep...

If you’ve ever wondered what men are thinking as they’re out there dating, Ali & Erica have got your back: this week, we chat with Blaine Anderson, who exclusively coaches men on their dating journey! Blaine gives insight into what her clients struggle with most, what makes them seek out her coaching, how to make it more likely that a man will approach you IRL, and more. Plus, she gives a plug...

It’s our last episode of 2024 and we’ve got a roundup of the year coming at you! We polled our audience for your best superlative categories plus added in a few of our own. Tune in as we discuss our best/worst dates (and kisses) of the year, best new movie, pop culture moment, place to meet people IRL…and more! PS apologies for the occasional ticking sound when Erica is talking in the topic sectio...

We’re doing a full episode debating Am I The Asshole submissions from Reddit! Ali & Erica discuss the following scenarios: a couple quarrels over their holiday traditions, a poster questions whether he should have told his friend he doesn’t like her boyfriend, a guy comes back from my vacation to discover that his partner has left his apartment a total mess, and a couple disagrees about whethe...

Ali & Erica welcome an OG of queer dating coaching & matchmaking onto the pod this week - Dr. Frankie Bashan! You may know her from the sexually fluid season of Are You The One? or from her company Little Gay Book Matchmaking. Dr. Frankie tells us about the specific challenges her queer clients face compared to other daters (and what parallels she sees!) along with giving advice on approac...

Ali & Erica are answering listener questions on the pod this week! But first, we start out with a listener update from a prior Hot Topics episode - remember our distant security guard?? Then, the gals answer 3 new questions. First, what to do if a match’s app profile disappears before your first date? Second, we give advice to a listener who is struggling with getting back onto the apps after...