Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast

We hear about the benefits of therapy SO often, but how does one even go about finding a therapist? There’s no how-to guide…until now! Ali chats with Nancy Walters, LICSW all about how she, as a therapist, recommends selecting one for yourself. She lovingly refers to her approach to therapy as Hot Mess Therapy: real, raw, intuitive, and deeply human. And is encouraging our listeners to find a real...

Sarah Intelligator runs her family law practice like she runs her yoga studio - with a holistic approach that looks to make people feel stronger leaving than they did entering. In this frank conversation, we get into what Sarah sees most in divorcing couples - and how she advises couples avoid it based on her experience. And prenups? You might be surprised by her opinion on them! But as always, it...

Last week on our Patreon live, Ali shared about navigating feedback - both constructive and otherwise - in such a public sphere. This week, she’s bringing that conversation to the main pod in the spirit of transparency, accountability, and vulnerability. She’s working on focusing on the constructive and appreciates those of you who have shared your thoughts so openly. If you’d like to contribute t...

Are you struggling with the decision to have children or not? Or worried about making that decision in the future? Clarity coach Keltie Maguire is here to help! She and Ali chat about Keltie’s personal journey with the decision that led her to her current work, how societal pressures impact the choice, and how to have more grace with ourselves during indecision. Is there data on future regret on b...

Caeli & Elyse are back on the pod this week with updates for us and a whole lot of relatable discussion on dating burnout. First, we hear from Elyse about a recent first date and how a string of those has left her feeling really dejected about dating apps. IRL dating, though? That’s feeling much better and she has an update (and a goal for herself) with Coco Jones! Caeli has some huge personal...

Ali went to one of the best shows she’s seen in a LONG time - Love Isn’t Blind, a comedy dating show where the men can’t speak - and she’s on the pod with the creator and host this week! Alli Goldberg created Love Isn’t Blind as an antidote to her own cynicism in dating and it’s truly taken off. Not only do we have Alli in the house - one of the suitors from the recent NYC show, Sascha Mombartz, i...

We’re bringing back Am I The Asshole discussion episodes, this time featuring Skyline going back and forth with Ali on 5 different AITA submissions! The submissions include: red flags in early dating app conversations, boundaries within a relationship, dealing with a friend’s partner whom you don’t like, losing a friend to their relationship, and navigating childcare disagreements. But first, we’r...

We’re talking about co-regulating this week: where two people help each other navigate their emotions. It’s a solo episode with Ali featuring a deep dive into her week away with Skyline that ended with a cancelation of the music festival they were at and a lot of stress surrounding the logistics. She shares a few stressful situations from the weekend, strategies that work for them when navigating...

Our two Diary Daters are officially meeting for the first time! In this week’s Dating Diaries episode, Ali brings Caeli & Elyse together to share updates plus swipe together on each of their dating apps. The three discuss how each dater approaches swiping and some best practices to address patterns they’re discovering. Plus, we chat dealbreakers, initial messages, first impressions, and more....

TW: Grief/Death discussion from around minute 4 to 16. Have you heard of Human Design, a framework that can help you navigate your unique, innate way of operating in the world? After this week’s conversation with Erin Claire Jones, you’re going to want to look it up ASAP. Ali first learned about Human Design years ago, but it’s only recently that she’s been realizing how much she can apply it in h...

Our Diary Dater Caeli re-joins us on the pod after a whirlwind couple of weeks in her life, from a big interview to a new job. Ali & Caeli revisit a first date that never materialized into a second and debate Caeli’s potential next steps. Then, the two dive into Caeli’s Bumble and chat opening lines, messaging approach, and how to avoid getting overwhelmed by too many matches. Through it all,...

Elyse, one of our Diary Daters, is back on the pod and full of updates to share! First, she goes on a first date that hits a snag when the dude won’t stop looking at his phone. Then, we go back in time to hear some history about a guy who may be entering the picture. But she wonders: should she move forward with getting to know him given some new information she learns? On Ali’s end, she’s taking...

Skyline joins Ali on the pod this week to chat about relationship “rules” (aka agreements) coming out of the Vacation Rules ep a few weeks ago. The two talk about rules they’ve come up with in their relationship, both communicated and otherwise - for example, Ali realizes in real time that they have a rule when they order take out. Then, it’s time to hear from the experts as three friends of the p...

Ali is answering listener questions in a dedicated Hot Topics episode this week! First, a listener receives a no ghosting script after a fourth date and wonders if she should ask for more clarity. Then, we talk about sarcastic/negative answers on dating app profiles - are they a dealbreaker? Our third listener has an old hook-up come back into the picture, and she’s struggling to see it objectivel...

We’re hearing from both of our Dating Diaries ladies this week!! First, Caeli joins to update Ali & the listeners on Executive Chef, plus a new (gentle)man enters the picture. Then, Elyse has been busy with two first dates in one night last week. Plus the main reason we’re here: reviewing her Hinge profile! Ali goes through her photos and prompts, providing insight along the way on brevity, ca...

Ali is fresh off her one-year anniversary trip with Skyline and dishing about her favorite parts (and not so favorite parts) of the trip. She shares the “vacation rules” that she and Skyline have come up with to help them best enjoy their trips and how some of those “rules” have expanded into every day life. Plus, a stressful moment provides an opportunity to reflect on managing low-level conflict...

Ali and Skyline are on their first anniversary vacation and he’s just been introduced on social media…no better time to introduce him to the podcast! This week, you’ll hear an interview that Ali & Erica did on the Patreon back in February. Skyline joined us to answer your questions and introduce himself to the community he’s heard so much about. Our discussion includes: his version of how he m...

Caeli from our Dating Diaries segment is back on the podcast this week and we’re diving into her Bumble profile! We walk through her bio, prompts, and photos and discuss where she can make improvements to set herself up for more success. Through Ali’s notes on photo guidelines, best ways to elicit a reply with your prompts, and ways that different people swipe you’ll get some great tips for crafti...

It’s time to meet our second Dating Diaries participant…Elyse! A 26-year-old living in a major east coast city, Elyse is ready to dive back into dating after recovering from her longest relationship to date. In this introduction episode, you’ll learn about Elyse’s dating history as a self-proclaimed “late bloomer,” how her last relationship played out, plus a very recent development that’s hot off...

Feeling burned out by dating apps? Jessica Hope, founder of Bored of Dating Apps, has BEEN THERE - and she created an entire company to deal with it! Coming to you from Ali’s living room couch, Jess chronicles the dating frustrations that led her to focus more on dating in person and start her own IRL dating events…a journey that ultimately led to her now partner. Ali and Jess chat flirting strate...

It’s our very first Dating Diaries episode, a new segment following listeners along their dating journeys. We’re kicking things off with two listeners, and our first Diary Dater is Caeli, a 32-year-old living in the Chicago suburbs who is ready to start dating intentionally. In this intro episode, you’ll learn more about Caeli’s story including her dating history (and some nicknames), what she’s l...

We’ve got part 2 of my re-introduction this week - both for newer listeners and even our OG crowd as I pick up where we left off last week and dive deep into my live since starting FMH. We chat toxic relationships, career changes, regrets, and much more in part two of this two-part series to kick off my solo podcasting journey. Plus, I share some exciting news on the Skyline front (and promise to...

TW: Grief and SA (see below for more). It’s my (Ali’s) first official solo episode and we’re starting things off with a re-introduction to my background - both for newer listeners and even our OG crowd as I share deeper insights into my childhood/early adulthood & the things that led me to who I am today. We chat friendship wounds, anxious attachment origins, grief, and much more in part one o...

We’re saying goodbye to Erica as a Finding Mr. Height co-host on this week’s episode of the podcast, and it’s definitely an emotional one! After getting the latest Roommate update, Ali interviews Erica using questions from both you the listeners and ones Ali has herself. Topics include: Erica’s highlights and learnings from her journey on the podcast, her favorite (and least favorite) piece of dat...

For Erica’s second to last episode on the pod, we’re doing one of our favorite formats one last time together…Am I The Asshole featuring submissions from Reddit! This week we have: a man wonders if he’s being unreasonable in wanting his girlfriend to loosen up her 50/50 view of household chores, the finances of a long distance relationship causes resentment, and a husband and wife clash over whose...