Find Our Breath

Courage is often imagined as something loud, certain, and unshaken. But most of the time, it arrives much quieter than that. In this opening episode of Becoming Brave , we explore courage not as the absence of fear, but as the willingness to remain true to who you are in the presence of fear. Drawing from lived experience, pastoral care, and years of sitting with people in moments of transition, D...

This week on Find Our Breath , we're doing something a little different. I'm inviting you to pull up The Author's Chair —an occasional behind-the-scenes conversation where we step beyond the pages and explore what God was writing in the author long before the words ever reached the page. As we continue our season on becoming , I want to share the journey behind my newest book, Recla...

What do you do when your understanding reaches its limit? In this episode of Find Our Breath , Dr. Reginald Charlestin explores the tension between faith and uncertainty through the lens of Proverbs 3:5-6. Together, we’ll examine why trust is so difficult when life feels unclear, why we often postpone our lives while waiting for certainty, and how faith invites us to stay present even when answers...

What happens when the person you trust the least is yourself? In this episode of Find Our Breath, Dr. Reginald Charlestin explores the often-overlooked journey of rebuilding self-trust after disappointment, heartbreak, mistakes, and seasons of self-doubt. Together, we'll examine internal betrayal, imposter syndrome, shame, and the ways painful experiences can disconnect us from our own wisdom...

What do you do when you sense your life is changing, but you can’t yet see where the road leads? In this episode of Find Our Breath , Dr. Reginald Charlestin explores the sacred tension of trusting God in seasons of uncertainty. Through personal storytelling, pastoral reflection, and spiritual insight, this conversation examines what it means to move forward when clarity is limited, answers are in...

Many people were taught how to care for others… but never taught how to care for themselves. So we overextend. Over-function. Over-give. And quietly wonder why we feel exhausted, disconnected, resentful, or emotionally depleted. In this episode of Find Our Breath , Dr. Reginald Charlestin explores boundaries not as rejection or selfishness, but as sacred acts of stewardship. Through pastoral refle...

We all carry stories. Stories shaped by childhood experiences, relationships, wounds, disappointments, survival, and the ways we learned to make sense of the world around us. Over time, those stories can become internal narratives that quietly shape how we see ourselves, others, and even God. But what happens when old stories follow us into new seasons? What happens when the narratives that once p...

Sometimes life doesn’t move the way we planned. There are moments when we’re forced to pause… to pivot… to tend to what’s in front of us rather than push forward. And while that can feel frustrating, it is often part of the deeper work of becoming. In this episode of Find Our Breath , Dr. Reginald Charlestin returns with an honest reflection on those unexpected pauses—and how they can become sacre...

What if holiness is not about perfection—but about wholeness? For many, holiness has been shaped by ideas of flawlessness, spiritual performance, and having everything together. But what do we do with the parts of our lives that don’t fit that image—the wounds, the questions, the unfinished places? In this episode of Find Our Breath , Dr. Reginald Charlestin invites listeners to reconsider holines...

Many of us learned early in life that certain parts of who we are were not welcome. Our vulnerability. Our anger. Our questions. Our needs. So we adapted. We became stronger, quieter, more agreeable, or more responsible in order to survive. But the parts we hide rarely disappear—they simply wait. In this episode of Find Our Breath , Dr. Reginald Charlestin explores what it means to reclaim the par...

Healing rarely happens the way we expect it to. Many of us were taught that pain should have a deadline—that if enough time passes, we should simply “get over it.” But the truth is that healing does not follow a schedule. It unfolds slowly, often quietly, through moments of awareness, compassion, and truth. In this episode of Find Our Breath , Dr. Reginald Charlestin explores the sacred work of ge...

Before we can become whole, we must gently ask: Where was I wounded? In this episode, Dr. Reginald Charlestin invites listeners into a compassionate exploration of how unnoticed emotional and spiritual “paper cuts” shape identity, attachment, and survival strategies. Blending clinical insight with pastoral theology, he explores how early relational experiences form patterns in the nervous system,...

Your life is speaking. The question is — are you listening? In this episode of Find Our Breath , Dr. Reginald Charlestin invites you into the sacred practice of attunement — learning to listen to your body, your emotions, your recurring patterns, and the gentle whisper of the Holy Spirit. Drawing from Ecclesiastes 3 and the wisdom of seasons, this conversation explores how discernment begins with...

Before we can grow, we must tell the truth. In this deeply reflective episode, Dr. Reginald Charlestin invites listeners into the sacred work of compassionate self-awareness — learning to name where you truly are without judgment, self-attack, or spiritual bypassing. Because surrender does not begin with giving up. It begins with honesty. Together, we explore why naming our reality feels so diffic...

This season-opening episode invites you into a deeper understanding of life not as a destination to reach, but as a sacred, unfolding process of becoming. Together, we explore what it means to release the pressure to “arrive” and instead honor the ongoing, often tender work of growth, healing, and transformation. Through a blend of pastoral wisdom and clinical insight, this episode examines how be...

In this episode of Find Our Breath , Dr. Reginald Charlestin invites listeners into a heartfelt conversation about the sacred vocation of teaching — and the unseen weight educators carry. Joined by Amber Burgin, a compassionate and seasoned teacher, they explore the emotional, spiritual, and systemic realities of life in the classroom: the call to nurture, the burden of unmet needs, and the quiet...

In this episode of Find Our Breath , Dr. Reginald Charlestin sits down with Alia Berry , a social worker, to explore the sacred and strenuous work of advocacy — the call to stand in the gap for others while navigating systems that are often slow to change. Together, they unpack the emotional and spiritual cost of caring in spaces that rarely care back. Through both pastoral and clinical lenses, th...

In this episode of Find Our Breath , Dr. Reginald Charlestin sits down with two ICU (Intensive Care Unit) trauma nurses to explore what it means to bear witness in places of crisis . Through honest and sacred conversation, they unpack the unseen weight of those who care for others in their most fragile moments—the cost of compassion, the struggle to maintain presence amid chaos, and the quiet grie...

In this opening episode of Bearing Others, Bearing Ourselves , Dr. Reginald Charlestin sets the tone for a new series exploring the sacred balance between carrying the burdens of others and tending to our own inner lives.  Drawing from his pastoral and clinical lens, Dr. Charlestin reflects on the invisible weight helpers carry, the cost of silence, and the need for spaces where caregivers can rel...

Grief doesn’t just touch our personal lives—it follows us into the spaces we lead. For leaders of all kinds, one of the most overlooked forms of grief is the pain of watching people walk away. What do you do when someone you’ve prayed for, invested in, and led suddenly leaves? How do you process the rejection, the self-doubt, and the quiet ache that lingers? In this closing episode of Good Grief:...

Forgiveness is one of the hardest spiritual and emotional journeys we will ever face—especially when the wound still aches. In this solo episode of Good Grief: Learning to Live, Let Go, and Breathe Again , Dr. Reginald Charlestin invites us into a tender, honest conversation about the slow and sacred work of forgiveness. Drawing from his perspective as a pastoral counselor and spiritual care pract...

Goodbyes are never easy. Some come with blessing and release. Others leave us wounded, carrying the ache of silence, rejection, or betrayal. In this episode, Dr. Reginald Charlestin shares a deeply personal story of leaving his home church, and how one pastor’s words transformed what could have felt like rejection into a moment of affirmation and sending. With honesty, reflection, and prayer, this...

What do we do when the healing doesn’t come, the door doesn’t open, or the prayer we whispered in faith feels like it goes unanswered? In this episode of Good Grief , Dr. Reginald Charlestin sits down with William Johnson—Millennial Pioneer, pastor, and thought leader—to explore the grief of unanswered prayers. Together, they unpack how faith is both tested and transformed in seasons of silence, w...

Grief is not just about death. It’s about the endings, transitions, and uncertainties that shape our lives. In this opening episode of the Good Grief series, Dr. Reginald Charlestin invites us to see grief differently — not as something to avoid, but as a teacher that can guide us into deeper healing. Drawing from the imagery of Holy Saturday — that in-between space of silence and noise — and his...

What if the wound doesn’t go away? What if healing looks more like integration than erasure? In the final episode of The Wounded Helper series, Dr. Reginald Charlestin explores what it means to keep living, helping, and loving—even when the pain is still present. Through clinical insight, biblical reflection, and a powerful guided prayer, this episode gently invites caregivers, pastors, leaders, a...