Find love after 40 with Renée Suzanne

How do you really know if you’d benefit from working on your dating skills? The short answer is, if you’re in your 40’s and not getting the results you want with dating, it is very likely due to a skill gap unless you have been hiding under a rock for the last 10 years. Here are some things I’ve heard from women I’ve helped by teaching them basic dating skills: You really want a great guy in your...

I just had the best conversation with one of my favorite self-help authors, Sherrie Schnieder! She wrote “The Rules” back in the day which I read SO many times. I finally actually learned to not just read, but implement them, which was a huge part of my success in dating. You know I’m all about getting help and support in your dating journey to succeed with your goals. Sherrie and I talked about:...

Ooof! The dreaded “what are we?” talk. How many of those have you had? If you’re anything like me, way too many and none of them has ever gone the way you’d hoped. Because the truth I always knew in my heart was that if a man was crazy about me, I wouldn’t have to have such talks. So, how would you like to never have another “What are we?” talk for the rest of your life?? Are you in? Building effe...

In our culture, we grow up thinking that love should just happen to us and that something has gone terribly wrong if it doesn’t. I think this is absolute mind poison and has done more to ruin women’s love lives than almost anything else. There is so much you can do to help yourself find a great guy and build the lasting connection you really want. One of the most important of these things is to wo...

I remember being single for decades, enduring so many disappointments and wondering what on earth I was doing wrong. I read all the self-help books, got makeovers, took classes and workshops and worked with several coaches to figure out how to find a good guy. It was a long, arduous, and often excruciating process. I learned everything the hard way, but I did learn. Now I use all the things I lear...

So you finally had a first date with that guy you’ve been into for a while And it went really well... So you leave feeling all giddy and you can’t wait to see him again. And now you’re waiting for his call. And waiting Aaaaandd still waiting Should you text to tell him you had a good time or thank him? What about that meme you saw about the Bears? Should you send it to him? He said he loved the Be...

You know I’m all about setting yourself up for success in dating. I want you to have the life you really want instead of waiting for it to just happen to you. So today, I’m going to tell you why you need to make a man plan to help you find a great guy. You can still be your beautiful feminine self and let men make the first move. You don’t have to chase men or do anything ridiculously embarrassing...

You may not know where to start with dating. You may hope that you’ll just meet someone you like and he’ll like you and things will just fall into place. I spent years feeling the exact same way and honestly, it would have been nice. Besides, it’s what all the movies and books tell us is supposed to happen, so what’s wrong with that? Well, let’s start with the fact that you’ve wanted this for a wh...

Today I'm interviewing the fabulous Corrine Crabtree. She knows a thing or two about reaching big goals and getting things done. She's the CEO and founder of the ⁠ No BS Weightloss Program ⁠ and ⁠ No BS Business Women ⁠ . She lost over 100 pounds, met and married a wonderful man and created 2 very successful businesses. We chat about how to reach your dreams and have your own back even when it's h...

It’s not your imagination. It really is hard to find a good guy in today’s dating climate.  But there’s plenty you can do to help yourself find the good guys that are out there looking for you. Here are some reasons it’s so hard to find a relationship-ready man: There aren’t as many of them “on the market” at any given time. Once they get in relationships, they tend to stay in them. This leaves a...

How do you know for sure you’re ready to date? I think that being ready is very subjective. We do lots of things in life we don’t necessarily feel ready for, just because we want the results or the experience of doing them. We don’t wait until we’re ready to brush our teeth, go to the doctor to get a checkup, or enroll in grad school.  You may not feel ready to date, but that doesn’t mean you aren...

Today, I'm interviewing my friend and colleague Kristin Lindell about dating men with kids. If you insist on only dating men without children after 40, you're seriously shrinking your dating pool, but is it worth the hassle to date guys with kids? Kristin shares all the intel on dating men with kids in this interview. We answer these burning questions: Should you date guys with kids? How d...

Chemistry is so overrated. It’s a necessary part of a romantic relationship, but letting it drive your entire dating life is like letting a 3 year old get behind the wheel of your car and take you to the store. It’s a terrible idea and you’re not likely to get where you want to go. I’d like to suggest that you prioritize other qualities and let the chemistry grow over time. There needs to be some,...

If a man isn’t excited about you, nothing else matters. Not how tall, rich, handsome or funny he is. Not how much you have in common or his background. Not how much you like him or how great you think your connection is. If he’s not excited about you, you’ve got nothing. You need to pack up your toys and go home. He’s not going to come around no matter what you do. Men know if they are excited abo...

I talk to so many women who tell me they’re doing fine with dating, thank you very much! They’re champs at getting rid of losers, flakes, players and all the awful men out there. And that’s a great skill to have. But they’re still single and they have been at this for years. If that’s the result you want, you can skip this episode, but if you want to actually find a wonderful man to share your lif...

When I was single I spent so much time wishing, waiting and hoping to meet the right guy. I thought that once I met him everything would be fantastic and I would finally have the love I wanted. It took many years, false starts and heartbreaks for me to learn that this was never going to happen. Not for the reasons I used to think, like I wasn’t young or beautiful enough, something was wrong with m...

Julie started working with me straight after a 24 year marriage. She didn't have a clue about dating and wasn't even sure if she wanted to. She didn't trust the dating apps and had heard horror stories from her friends about online dating. I helped her with the dating process once she decided she was ready and encouraged her, as I do with so many of my clients, to give things time to develop with...

Women often tell me that my method of dating sounds like a lot of work. And it is! I’m always just a little surprised that this is a problem. We do other things that are a lot of work all the time because we want the results, such as: Excelling in our careers Taking care of our health and fitness Raising children Maintaining our homes and possessions Running marathons, climbing mountains, etc We u...

Today, I’m interviewing The Hubbs! We matched on Tinder 7 years ago and married 5 months later. I’m asking him the questions my listeners submitted via email a few weeks back including: Why were you looking for a woman? Did you intend to find a wife? or just "see how it goes" ? How did you recognize that I was the one you were looking for? What was your dating experience like? Did you hope to meet...

I used to over-give in relationships and then wonder why my needs were never met. I felt so frustrated and confused by dating because I thought that I was doing everything right. Being patient and understanding Giving him space Not expecting anything Can you relate? Then he’d move on and I’d be left feeling hurt, angry and jaded. Slowly and with much help, I began to see why. I was running a tab....

Are you taking a break from dating right now? I used to get discouraged with dating and take lots of breaks. I just couldn’t handle the continual disappointment and revolving door of men in my life. It was all so exhausting.  But after my break was over, I’d go back to dating and all the same things would happen again. Nothing had changed but the date on the calendar This happens because the passa...

A few years ago, I postponed breaking up with a guy I was dating. I knew that I wanted to get married and suddenly he said he didn’t.  He thought he might change his mind in the future so I tried to be patient. I had what felt like very good reasons at the time. I was in my 40s, it was the best relationship I’d had in years, I didn’t want to start all over again, maybe I wouldn’t find anyone as go...

Is there a guy you’re interested in who’s perfect for you and you just know you’d be great together? You may be crushing on him from afar or you may have even gone out with him a few times. Maybe he’s even your boyfriend. BUT, there are some things you wish were different. He won’t commit to you He puts his job, kids, ex, pet lobster before you He never has time for you He smokes, parties, gambles...

I’ve been working on creating a digital course to help you date and I’ll be talking about it a lot more in the coming weeks, but for now I want to talk about something I’ve been learning from the women I’ve been talking to. If you’re anything like them, or me when I was single, you’ve tried a lot of things to find a good man: Dating sites and apps Matchmaking Visualizing Meditation Therapy  Prayer...

I used to get so discouraged when it seemed to me like all men wanted was sex, and it’s true that some men do. Men have a very strong desire for sex that most women do not share to the same extent, so it’s difficult for us to understand at times. They think about sex to the point of distraction and a recent study cited that 51% of men would like to have sex at least daily compared to 7% of women....