Find love after 40 with Renée Suzanne

My clients often tell me that they’re not finding anyone exciting on the dating sites and apps. They scroll and swipe and sigh. They come away deflated. I get it. I used to feel this way too. So I have a bit of a reality check for you today. Expecting to find exciting guys among strangers on the internet is simply not a good plan. The competition is likely to be pretty stiff for the most “exciting...

How many times have you heard about a man falling in love with a woman and completely doing a 180 on his entire life? He quits robbing banks, sleeping around, living in his mother’s basement or whatever and turns into a stand up guy who promptly marries the long-suffering woman who believed in him or played hard to get or whatever thing she did that made her so special that he just had to change f...

This week, we’re talking to my client Lisa who found a wonderful man in less than 4 weeks! We’re talking about what dating was like before we worked together, her struggles with dating unavailable men and how (and why) she decided to reach out and work with a coach. She shares what it’s really like to get coaching and date differently and what her experience was like. Lisa learned how to actually...

The new guy you’re seeing keeps messaging you, texting you, calling you and can’t wait to see you again. Maybe he’s declared his feelings for you, wants you to meet his family, take down your profiles, or become exclusive. This is all feeling a bit too soon for you and you’re starting to feel uncomfortable. Should you have a talk? Set a boundary? Start to distance yourself or even tell him you don...

I have a question for you today. How serious are you about finding a wonderful man to share your life with? What are you willing to do to make it happen? Do you think things like: It would be nice if it happened One of these days, I’ll just meet someone I don’t need a man, but I’d like it if one just landed in my life somehow These thoughts are passive and are not likely to get you the results you...

So many women confuse the gestures of a man who is excited about them with love bombing, so I decided to do a podcast about it to help you get clear on the difference. Most new relationships go through a honeymoon phase and it does take a certain amount of enthusiasm to get a new connection going. In most relationships, this interest and pursuit is generally on the man’s part and is well-intention...

As we age we tend to mature. We no longer dress, act or live the way we did when we were children or in our teens.  We become more responsible and consider our long term goals. We learn from experience and (hopefully) make better choices.  Our tastes also tend to mature. We trade Happy Meals for fine restaurants, a good steak or salad, maybe a glass of fine wine. We can’t eat pizza or nachos every...

You’ve listened to podcasts, read books, maybe even taken a few classes, but you still haven’t found your guy. You think if you just hang in there a while longer, you’ll meet the right person. And you’ll really try harder. You’ll go back on the dating apps, polish up your profile, be less picky, stop wasting time with the wrong men. You know what’s keeping you single and you’re determined to make...

Your bestie has been married since college. Your colleague went on Match.com and got 3 dates her first week. Your college roommate married a great guy even though she partied all through her 20’s and has never been promoted. Meanwhile, you listen to podcasts, gorge on self-help books, take all the workshops and come up empty handed. Why don’t other people have to work so hard to find love? And wha...

This week, we’re continuing our discussion on shopping for men. This is the final episode in a 4 part series, so go back and listen to the first 3 if you haven’t yet. Last week I talked about how to evaluate the men who reach out to you based on their availability for a relationship and their character. Specifically, you’re seeking a man who wants the kind of relationship you want. This matters so...

OK, this episode is going to be more fun. We’re going to talk about how to shop for men. When you go shopping, it helps to have a list, and you may already have one. If you do, think about what’s on it. Height, weight, level of fitness, hair color, does he have hair?? How much money does he make? Sense of humor? Does he like the same foods as you? Is he well-dressed, well-read, well-educated, can...

Welcome back! This is part 2 of a 4 part series, so if you missed last week, go back and listen to that first. In this episode, I’m talking about how to understand your own value in the dating market. This might be a bit tough, so if you’re feeling tender today, I want to send you a big hug and encourage you to come back to this episode later when you’re feeling better. If you’re ready for some tr...

We romanticize love, relationships and dating in our culture. We end up incredibly frustrated when it doesn’t look like it’s going to happen to us, and around the time we hit our 40s, we become increasingly discouraged and can often doubt whether it’s meant to be for us at all. I think this is a shame and I want to offer you another point of view today. What if there is no magic involved in the se...

I used to think that dating was something you didn’t ask for help with. I felt ashamed and didn’t want to admit the extent of my struggles. Instead, I hoped that people would just assume that I was happy and didn’t need a man. But as the years went by, I cared less about what others thought. I ached to find a man to share my life with and nothing I did was working. I didn’t know how to make it hap...

Sometimes I talk to women who are desperate for a dating solution and are hoping I can deliver the goods. I can of course, but not in the way they hope. They want me to provide some kind of magical secret that will help them attract the same kinds of men they dated in their 20’s, even though none of them worked out. Or let them in on some secret location where only good men hang out so that they c...

Have you had a bad experience with online dating or apps? I have. I used to hate these platforms and intermittently swear them off. I thought they were full of scammers, weirdos, cheaters and all kinds of awful. And it’s true. There’s no shortage of these men on the internet, or anywhere else for that matter. But what’s also true is there are lots of good men on these platforms as well. And when y...

I hear all the time about how there are no good men on the dating sites/apps and I used to believe this myself. But here’s the truth. There are good men everywhere and they are mixed in with the bad ones. Church/school/work/coffee shops/bars/dating sites/apps are all full of men. The planet is literally full of people and about half of them are men. There is no place on earth where there are only...

If you’re over 40, you probably remember the days before dating sites and apps were a thing. And it’s so tempting to want to go back to the good old days when things were simpler. I get it. I used to feel the same way. Dating sites and apps felt so cold, scary and impersonal. But here’s the thing, I wasn’t meeting very many new men back then.  And when I did, problems would arise: I had no idea if...

Today, I’m chatting with blended family experts, Mike and Kim Anderson about how to navigate the complexities of dating when you have kids. I wish I’d had this information when I was starting out! Mike and Kim helped my husband and I navigate through blending our families early on when we were struggling and we would have been lost without them. Their compassion and wisdom made our journey so much...

Are you in love with a man who hasn’t asked you out? Maybe you’re crushing on him from afar. Maybe he’s a friend, colleague or you see him around every now and again. He’s polite, chats with you, maybe even flirts a bit, but he never asks you out. He doesn’t even ask for your number or suggest staying in touch in any way. But you wonder, could there be something there? Well, you probably know what...

Has the guy you’re seeing suggested any of these things: Takeout at his place Netflix and chill Helping him shop or do chores Attending his events Or does he keep texting and texting but never ask you out? Or do you get the dreaded late-night text or call asking if he can come over or if you’ll come to his place? NOOOOOOOOO! If you’re seeing this behavior in the men you date, I’d like you to consi...

I was putting together a great reading list for my Dating Mastery clients and it made me realize that I have read a LOT of books about dating! Honestly, I’d have a PhD in dating if they existed. There are so many great books on this list and I learned a lot from all of them. I used to spend hours and hours gorging on self-help back in the day, still do! And while I LOOOOOOVE self-help books, I was...

Today we’re talking to a matchmaker! If you’ve ever considered working with one, you will love this episode. I’m interviewing Lisa with Selective Search and she’s answering my most burning questions like: Who is a good candidate to work with a matchmaker? What are the benefits of hiring a matchmaker? What is the price range? What can clients expect? What should one look for in a matchmaker? If I d...

Has the man you’re seeing started making excuses, seeing you less often, or saying any of the following things: I need space I’m not over my ex I’m really busy right now I’m going through a lot I have a lot on my mind My kids/parents/job really need me I’m confused Don’t wait a guy like this out. All of these things and more may be true, but a man who wants you in his life will figure it out, not...

Does he have lots of women friends, stay friends with all his exes and drive you crazy with insecurity and jealousy? Does he gaslight you about this or do you gaslight yourself? Do you feel awful, insecure or jealous a lot of the time and wish he would change his ways? Get rid of guys like this!! Men who want to hang out with all the women generally have ginormous egos and aren’t interested in mon...