Filled to Flourish

In this episode, I chat with therapist and coach Anna Holtzman to explore what really happens inside our bodies when we step into the spotlight. Whether you’re sharing your work online, speaking up in a meeting, or launching a creative project, visibility can stir up deep-seated fears and stress responses. Anna shares practical tools to regulate your nervous system, reframe the discomfort of being...

Join Luke as he interviews Lauren on her newly released memoir, Golden Child. Golden Child: My Descent to Scapegoat and Rise to Freedom is a self help memoir that details the collapse of illusory goodness within a family system through the disruption of Christian Nationalism, ultimately leading the token golden child to walk out of her gilded golden cage. Through an arduous journey with grief and...

After taking a break, we're starting up a new season of the podcast focusing on dysfunctional family systems and healing. In this episode, we explore in detail 7 PRESENT-day reasons for going no-contact. ❤️‍🩹 Parents’ inability to accept the individuated version of their adult-child ❤️‍🩹 Parents’ refusal to stop upholding rigid roles adult-child have been playing since childhood ❤️‍🩹 Parent...

BONUS EPISODE! Luke and I had the privilege of chatting with Jodi Carlton on her podcast, "Your Neurodiverse Relationship".Jodi says: "Together, they open up about their own marriage, healing past trauma, working through attachment styles, and what it really takes to make a #neurodiverserelationship not only work—but thrive. They also share their professional insights into #neuroplasticity, reject...

Have you ever heard my experience with brain retraining? It’s been a few years since I did an episode about it, and because it’s SUCH valuable information I wanted to talk about it again, and add in my new insights and perspectives from this point in my journey. In this episode I share: -an overview of my healing process through brain retraining -a guide to explore what is behind you dysregulation...

Join us for the third and final episode in our series on neurodiversity! In this episode we interview Jodi Carlon, a Neurodiverse Relationship Expert. We had an amazing conversation, evidenced by the number of times Luke and I said “beautifully said” to Jodi! We cover:🌿how trauma affects the brain🌿the role of safety🌿fleshing out what accommodation really is🌿how to figure out healed and what ne...

We’re back for episode 2 in our series on neurodiversity ! This episode is quite personal, as Luke and I detail several of the challenges we experience navigating a neurodiverse relationship. We explore three main areas of struggle in neurodiverse relationships: communication, emotional regulation and conflicting needs. We flesh out some of the differences between Luke’s trauma responses versus ne...

We are so excited to offer this series to our audience as a route to more deeply understanding a really big aspect of ourselves and our relationships: NEURODIVERSITY. Luke shares a bit of his history recognizing his own neurodivergence, how is shows up in his life, and the windy-road process of accepting it. In this episode we explore RSD (rejection sensitive dysphoria), demand avoidance, special...

In this episode, we tackle the hard-to-talk-about realities of harm in relationships (i.e. betrayal, addiction, abuse...) and the necessary imbalance needed for repair of such relationships. What does it take to create trust and safety after it's been lost? What does the timeline for recovery of connection look like? How much will genuine repair cost you? You won't want to miss this conversation i...

We're confident this episode will be valuable to so many as we see this relational dynamic all the time. Listen in as we explore factors behind under and over-functioning such as societal conditioning, religious teachings, family roles and neurodivergence. We share some key things that have been monumental in us unraveling from this imbalanced dynamic, and insight on how to move forward if you fin...

Join us for this episode as Flourish Therapy practitioner Bethany Randolph walks us through how the way we address our triggers and young parts can actually be keeping us stuck. Bethany guides Lauren through an impromptu therapy session, gently showing how to allow the wounded parts of us EXPERIENCE our strong and compassion Self. It's a powerful practice that can open you up to new neural pat...

We so enjoyed this guest interview with Natalie Hoffman of Flying Free. We quickly connected and had such an engaging conversation about her new memoir where she shares about her exit from her marriage, her church and the toxic theology and shame that had trapped her for so long. She found a lot of help with her healing process through IFS, and actually writes part of her book from the perspective...

We all want more regulated nervous systems, but HOW do we get from information and knowledge about the nervous system, to actually experiencing a wider window of tolerance and deeper regulation capacity? 💭🎙🧠 In this episode we offer you 11 effective ways to cultivate a more regulated nervous system over time, and help you recover from the effects of trauma and chronic stress. Most of them are ve...

Join us as we explore what we propose could possibly be the root behind misogyny.

In this episode of the Filled to Flourish podcast we examine the topic of boundaries with more detail and nuance than a lot of boundaries conversations. We explore this topic a lot with each other and clients, and wanted to bring some of that more complicated conversation to the podcast. We discuss: -Boundary basics -Power, autonomy and systems -When defensiveness is normal, when it's harmful -Why...

Jessica Willis Fisher was the oldest daughter in a high-control family system, that just so happened to also be famous (TLC, AGT...ect) Behind the gorgeous smiles and stunning talent of this 14 person family- fear, control and every kind of abuse reigned. When Jessica became able to really face the horrors of what was happening to her, and her family members, she was faced with a seemingly impossi...

So much of our lives involve managing life in the aftermath of other peoples choices. This is particularly true when it comes to your childhood. Join us as we chat with a therapy Hannah Brents about the repercussions, challenges and heartaches surrounding pasts that were chosen for you. examples of having "a past you didn't choose" how grief and acceptance are interconnected and how...

So many of you enjoy our content on IFS, and we’re glad to share another podcast episode with you about how our bodily symptoms can be coming from specific parts of our internal world. We interviewed Katie LaCelle from @‌cressanallc, and looked at IFS (parts work) through a somatic lens. -quick overview of the Self, exiles, protectors -how to tell if you are “in Self” -how hard it is to stay embod...

We promised we would do some teaching on the mixed states of the nervous system- so here is an entire episode on it! 🌿we review the 3 primary states of the nervous system🌿introduce the 3 mixed states (play, stillness and freeze)🌿differentiate between freeze and shut down🌿the goal of nervous system regulation🌿touch on the importance and role of the vagal break🌿explain how to expand your regul...

Is “masculinity” a bad thing? Our teenage son asked once when he was trying to make sense of all the things. I think his question is something we are asking as a collective as well. Join us for this engaging conversation about masculinity with Dr. Brendan Kwiatkowski from @‌re.masculine. We explore: -What restrictive masculinity is -What is missing from the idea of “toxic masculinity” -3 of the mo...

A regulated nervous system has an important role in a healthy and connected sex life. In this episode we explore how the NS is needed in the 4-stage sexual arousal cycle, how cues of safety and cues of threat play into sexual engagement and the aspect of novelty in a sexual relationship. We are excited to introduce the "M.A.P. of Sexual Responsiveness", a model we created to help guide c...

"Many abuse, assault, or trauma survivors experience The Second Wound when they disclose their experiences: a combination of disbelief, minimization, shaming, victim-blaming, silencing, and ostracism." In this episode we talk with Miranda Pacchiana of The Second Wound, and explore the dynamics of this gut-wrenching re-traumatization, how to prevent yourself from unknowingly causing this...

Today on the podcast we share our interview with the lovely Julia + Jeremiah of @sexvangelicals on the intersection of high-control religions and sexuality. We explore:🎙How to establish safety around sex and conversing about sex 🎙How relationships require a challenge of your sexuality in a way that not being in a relationship doesn’t 🎙How high-control religions prescribe a lens of fear and how thi...

We asked Clinician Andrew Bauman to join us as we attempt to explore this landmine topic mindfully and truthfully. While more are becoming "abuse-informed" it is still incredibly common for couples and helpers alike to feel very unsure how to identify these dynamics in themselves, their spouses, or who they're working with. Andrew shares with refreshing honestly what he looks for as he helps coupl...