Feminist Wellness

#333: The phrase "no one is coming to save you" gets thrown around social media like gospel truth, wrapped in empowerment packaging that sounds like it should light a fire under you. Maybe it even worked for a moment when you needed to snap awake and take charge of your own life. But there's something deeply problematic lurking beneath this seemingly motivational message. Join me this week as I un...

#332: This episode is for the folks who look like they've got it together, who've checked most of the boxes: the career, the home, the relationships. You're productive, responsible, kind, maybe even the one people come to for help. But when it's quiet, really quiet, there's this persistent low buzz of disconnection. This week, I want you to know that you don't need to earn your healing or wait for...

I had the most amazing conversation with Busayo Ayodele, who was in Anchored last year, and I just couldn’t wait to share it. We had such a fun conversation, and everything she shared about her experience was just so inspiring, so moving, made my heart feel so explode-y. The way Busayo grew in Anchored is everything I dream of. It's the reason why I built Anchored. So, in case you’re thinking, “I...

#331: After over a decade of coaching women through codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing habits, I'm seeing a heartbreaking pattern: the people who most need community support and nervous system regulation are talking themselves out of the very programs designed to help them. Whether it's the fear of being a burden, worrying you'll fall into old patterns of over-functioning, or believin...

#330: If you've ever found yourself constantly scanning other people's faces for approval, shapeshifting to keep the peace, or feeling completely disconnected from what you actually want, this episode is for you. You might call this people-pleasing or being too sensitive, but something much more profound is going on here: you’re living with emotional outsourcing. Tune in this week as I break down...

#329: This week, I sit down with Carey Cramer, an Anchored program alum, to explore their transformative journey through attachment healing and relational growth. Over the past two and a half years since completing the program, Carey has developed a completely new way of showing up in relationships - one marked by presence, trust, and authentic connection. Through our conversation, Carey shares ho...

#328: Do you struggle to make decisions, not because you're unsure of your desires, but because you're constantly weighing everyone else's? This isn't just indecision; it's emotional outsourcing, a pattern where we disconnect from our own authentic wants in favor of what others expect. Tune in this week as I share how, through practical somatic practices and nervous system work, we can begin recon...

If you’re ready to break away from anxiety and codependent relationships so you can have a life full of joy and confidence, Anchored is for you. We start on July 7th. Click here to sign up: feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/anchored I can't wait to see you there! Mentioned in this episode: Join The Shift today! You cancel plans with yourself the moment someone else needs something. You say yes when e...

#327: Imagine cutting veggies after a long day when your partner bursts in venting about their coworker. You care deeply, but right now, your shoulders tense, your jaw locks, and you're just not available – though you never say so. Instead, you nod, make the right noises, and count the seconds until it ends. Later, you're both left feeling vaguely disconnected, with a subtle rupture hanging in the...

#326: Have you ever felt that sharp sting of resentment when watching someone set a boundary with ease or embrace their imperfections without shame? That irritation you feel might be pointing to something deeper – the very freedoms you deny yourself every day. Join me this week to learn how our childhood pain shapes patterns that masquerade as virtues, making them nearly impossible to detect witho...

#325: How often do you find yourself seeking validation from others, feeling like your worth depends on what they think of you?  I recently had a fascinating conversation with Abbie Attwood, an anti-diet, fat-positive, weight-inclusive nutritionist whose practice is grounded in self-compassion and intuitive approaches to healing relationships with food, movement, and body image. In this episo...

#324: Have you ever wondered what it's like to break free from emotional outsourcing patterns that keep you stuck in life? Today, I'm joined by Paula Greenwood, an Anchored alum who shares her transformative journey from feeling trapped in negative thought loops to creating a life aligned with her true passions.  Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbin...

#322: Are you stuck in a relationship where every disagreement turns into an emotional marathon? Where the same wounds keep getting ripped open no matter how hard you try to heal them?  When we fight with our partners, family members, or friends, what's really happening goes far beyond the words being exchanged. In this week's episode, I dive into the four nervous system responses that show u...

#321: Have you been living from the neck up? Disembodiment doesn't happen by accident. Many of us learned early that being fully present in our bodies wasn't safe. And in a world that rewards overthinking and overfunctioning, checking out of your body can feel like the only way to survive. In this week's episode, I dive into the concept of embodiment - what it really means beyond the wellness buzz...

#320: Have you noticed how "wellness" has become more about expensive supplements and exclusive retreats than actual healing? It's time we had an honest conversation about how the wellness industry has been hijacked by capitalism and privilege, leaving behind the very people who need healing most. In this week's episode, I'm pulling back the curtain on the wellness industrial complex and offering...

#319: Have you ever felt like you're constantly trying to get everything "right"? Like you're stuck in an endless cycle of seeking validation from others, while your own voice gets smaller and smaller? Today, I want to share a powerful story that might feel familiar. Dr. Ashley Albers, a physician who went through my Anchored program, once couldn't even speak during coaching sessions. Her body's m...

#318: Have you ever caught yourself dismissing someone's feelings with phrases like "at least..." or "it could be worse"? We often do this with the best intentions - trying to help, trying to fix, trying to make things better. But what if these well-meaning responses are actually creating emotional distance in our relationships? In today's episode, I dive into why we struggle to let others have th...

#317: If you're the person everyone comes to with their problems, or if you find yourself exhausted from managing others' emotional states, this week's episode is for you. Here's the truth: Your tendency to take on others' emotions isn't just a personal quirk – it's deeply rooted in systems of oppression and societal conditioning that have taught us to prioritize others' feelings over our own. Get...

#316: Have you ever caught yourself trying to fix someone's feelings instead of just listening?  In this week's episode, I dive into why we sometimes shut down others' emotions and how this habit often starts with our own relationship to feelings. This conversation is crucial for anyone who wants to build deeper, more authentic connections with the people they care about. Whether you're the o...

#315: Are you stuck in an emotional loop, unsure if you're feeling your feelings or just wallowing? In this episode, I dive into the difference between processing emotions and getting stuck in them. You'll learn why feeling your feelings is a radical act of self-respect and how it can transform your relationship with yourself, how to spot the signs of wallowing, and practical tools to shift into g...

#314: Do you ever find it hard to let yourself truly feel your feelings? In a world that values constant productivity, it's easy to see emotions as inconvenient roadblocks. But what if feeling our feelings is actually the key to deeper connection with ourselves and others? Join me on the podcast this week as we unpack the role of perfectionism, fear of rejection, and societal conditioning in block...

#313: How do you keep your relationship loving and friction-free? In this special pre-Valentine's Day episode, I'm joined by my amazing wife Billey to share some of the practices and tools that help us stay present, emotionally generous, and deeply connected with each other. From reframing with "of course they did" to asking for "do-overs" when we miss the mark, to transmuting negative energy thro...

#312: Do you ever catch yourself labeling feelings like anger or sadness as "bad" or "negative"? In a world obsessed with toxic positivity, it's easy to internalize the message that certain emotions are unacceptable. But the truth is, emotions are not moral - they're messages from our bodies that deserve to be heard. In this week’s episode, I explore the role of shame, cultural conditioning, and e...

#311: Do you ever find it hard to let yourself feel your feelings?  If so, you're not alone. But here's the good news: you can absolutely build the skill of feeling your feelings safely and gently. It's not about diving in all at once, but taking tiny kitten steps to show your body that it's okay to feel.  Tune in to learn three key reasons why it can be so challenging to allow your emot...

#310: Do you find yourself shoving down your feelings just to get through the day? What if I told you that those emotions you're avoiding are actually the key to the calm, clarity, and joy you've been seeking? In this week’s episode, I explore why allowing our feelings is so vital for our well-being and relationships. I share practical tools for sitting with big emotions, even when it feels scary,...