Feminist Wellness

When you’ve lived your life deferring your decisions to other people in an attempt to keep them happy, declaring your true desires and needs can be challenging, to say the least. Having spent a lifetime of not directly communicating also means it’s a struggle to believe what other people tell you, and today, we’re diving into how these habits are not serving you. Get full show notes and more infor...

Listen in this week as I share why rejection hurts so much and how it’s holding you back in your life. Staying in fear of rejection is no way to live, my darling, and it’s certainly not the path to living with intention, so I’m showing you how you can reframe it for yourself with a step-by-step remedy. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/86 Mentioned in this e...

Listen in this week to discover the difference between guilt that is helpful to experience versus beating yourself up. Creating guilt around every inconsequential thing you do or say doesn’t drive self-loving action, so I’m inviting you to bring your awareness inward, to pause, and to ask if the guilt story you’re telling yourself is serving you. Get full show notes and more information here: http...

Join me this week as I show you what living with intention means, and what unintentional living often looks like. You might feel right now that you don’t have the capacity to make bold decisions or to take courageous action, so I’m offering you some guiding questions that will help you identify what you want in every aspect of your life. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victo...

Join me this week to discover what constraint of thought means and how it touches on every aspect of healing codependency, perfectionism, and people-pleasing. Constraining your thoughts is actually freeing and allows you to live more expansively, and I can’t wait for you to see how transformative it can be in your own life. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/...

Listen in this week to discover why your self-worth isn’t based on doing the “right” things and how the thought pattern of restriction is playing out in your life. The more you can learn to build internal trust by allowing your urges and making informed choices, you’ll find that you are able to ride the waves when they appear, instead of letting them drown you. Get full show notes and more informa...

Join me this week as I outline the 3 reasons why you might feel stuck right now. I’ll be showing you how looking at this through the lens of our polyvagal nervous system can help us truly understand why this happens, and as always, I’ll be sharing my remedies to close out the show, so that you can start working with your sweet protector responses, instead of against them. Get full show notes and m...

Join me this week as I show you the true goal of healing work, and how you can support your healing journey by always coming back to you and opening up space for curiosity. You have an unending capacity to ground, love, and care for yourself, and I hope this episode serves to guide you along the way. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/80 Mentioned in this epi...

Join me this week as I show you what it means to be conflict-avoidant, and as always, share the remedies to this thought habit. You get to be mindful of times where you’re shrinking away, less worried about the fallout that could happen, and reparent yourself to recognize that you are safe with the steps that I’m laying out for you here today. Get full show notes and more information here: https:/...

Listen in today to discover how you can start making the minimum baseline a consistent practice. Your inner perfectionist is likely going to kick up a fuss, objecting to the tiny commitments you start making for yourself, but I guarantee that implementing this technique will completely transform your relationship with yourself, and from there, you’ll be able to follow through on new commitments an...

Listen in today as I give you a new framework for thinking about self-care. It doesn’t have to look like a spa day, as is commonly represented to us, but just an act of prioritizing stillness however you can in your life. I’ll be outlining the ways in which codependency, perfectionism, and people-pleasing thought habits often disconnect us from our true wants and needs, and how to start filling yo...

Welcome to the final installment of my mini-series on apologizing. Over the last few weeks, we’ve taken a really deep dive into the anatomy of apologies and mastering the language of apologies, and today, I’ll be sharing what to do if someone won’t accept your apology, how to accept an apology yourself, and how to give yourself closure when you don’t get the apology you want. Get full show notes a...

Listen in this week as we explore the language around the resistance to apologizing, the importance of recognizing the difference between intent and impact, and the reframing of some common terms we use so that we can find our power and strength. This process is all about practicing apologizing in a way that serves you , and not about perfecting it or doing it "better," so you can step into living...

Join me on the podcast today as I show you what false pre-apologizing is and why we do it. It can show up in so many different ways, and it’s crucial to investigate the impact this behavior has on us. There is never a need to falsely pre-apologize, and I’m showing you why and how doing this is so disempowering. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/74 Mentioned...

Join me this week to discover how to apologize from a place of radical self-love and unconditional love for others. We get to ask ourselves some intense questions in this process, and this is a core part of understanding the need to apologize. You get to pause here and take note of all your feels so that you can come to it with a deeper understanding of your own truth and maintain the relationship...

Listen in today as I lay out the four steps of apologizing, and how to keep your center when an apology is due. I’ll also be touching on how the thought work protocol ties in here and why being present and getting out of your own way is the key to keeping your sense of self intact and making your relationships stronger in the long-term. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victor...

Join me this week as I outline what the fixer thought fantasy is and some of the motivating factors and thought errors that lead us down this path. This fixer or savior complex is keeping you out of awareness and acceptance, which we know in this family is the key to living a truly intentional life, and so I’ll be sharing some ways for you to start remedying this thought habit to focus on self-lov...

Tune in today as I show you how you can engage your brain to decide that it’s not a problem if people aren’t happy with you, and how you get to retrain your brain to understand that it doesn’t mean anything about you that someone else might have a negative thought. You get to remember that other people are allowed to have their reactions, and you can choose new thoughts to radically love and accep...

Listen in today as I invite you to make becoming anti-racist a practice, and encourage you to come to this work with self-compassion and gentleness for yourself. Shame and guilt are never useful, and showing up however you can will help you bring consciousness to your internal biases, push you out of your comfort zone, and take action. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victori...

The work that you have to start doing to interrupt the vicious people-pleasing cycles that we get stuck in, and why embracing discomfort is such a vital part of this process. I also address how the tools I share on the podcast will hopefully be helpful in the fight to address racism and dismantle white supremacy in our current climate. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victori...

Join me this week as I show you why people-pleasing leaves you overwhelmed, exhausted, and ultimately, displeased. I’m inviting you to cultivate awareness this week about how you’re living these habits out in your life, where they came from, and how they’re impacting you in your day-to-day. And make sure to tune in next week where I’ll be sharing the remedies to help you shift through this thought...

Join me on the podcast this week as I share how evolution, the patriarchy, capitalism, and the way you’ve been socialized all play a part in the compare and despair thought habit, and some remedies to help you shift through them. The key here is to prioritize your opinion of your own beautiful self over anyone else’s, and I’m sharing some ways for you to do that today. Get full show notes and more...

Listen in this week as I show you how it’s totally possible for you to be kind, loving, and accepting of yourself, and why this is the key to building lasting and sustainable self-confidence. Imagining the regret, disappointment, or other people’s judgments of their endeavors stops most from going after their dreams, but this doesn’t have to be you. Get full show notes and more information here: h...

Join me on the podcast this week to discover how resentment makes it impossible for you to operate from a place of power, and why it’s so problematic. While resentment can feel like the easy response in the short-term, I’m showing you why letting go of it is so life-changing, and the remedy to release it. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/64 Mentioned in thi...

Join me on the podcast today to discover how codependency and perfectionist thought habits keep you stuck in confusion and worry, how to start the process of trusting yourself and having your own back, and why you need to get comfortable with the discomfort of making decisions. I’m also outlining a set of prompts and questions you can use to help you make decisions in your best interest, with less...