Feminist Wellness

#163: Join me this week as I lay out the self-abandonment cycle so many of us unwittingly put ourselves through. I’m showing you what the self-abandonment cycle sounds and looks like, why years of pent-up feelings of not being seen or appreciated often come out sideways, and how to start raising your awareness about how this cycle might be playing out for you. Get full show notes and more informat...

#162: Join me this week as I give you the lowdown on what Clean Fight Club Rules are, and a list of my own that you can borrow from. I’m sharing some of the limits I set, and why recognizing and honoring these limits makes it easier to be vulnerable, open, and available for real-talk conversations. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/162 Mentioned in this epis...

#161: Join me this week as I show you how to rethink conflict to have a healthier relationship with it. I’m offering some of the most common ways we tend to relate to challenging conversations, and six ways I help myself stay present, calm, and grounded when it comes to conversations where there might be differing points of view.    Get full show notes and more information here: https://...

#160: Find out what conflict is and how we tend to approach it from our codependent thought habits. I’m sharing eight ways we actually cause conflict without knowing it, and why we’re so terrified of engaging in what might be a disagreement or argument.    Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/160 Mentioned in this episode: Join The Shift today! You ca...

#159: Listen in this week as I re-share one of my favorite episodes with you all about the hazards of false positivity. I’m showing you why we feel the compulsion to gloss over our true feelings with false positivity, why this is especially prevalent amongst marginalized identities, and how to begin letting it go so you can live an authentic and intentional life.    Get full show notes a...

#158: This week, find out how vital quality friendships are. I’m showing you why it’s not kind to our romantic partners to expect them to be everything for us, how to start fostering intimate friendships, and what I personally value in all of my friendships.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/158   Mentioned in this episode: Join The Shift today!...

#157: Discover why we subconsciously gloss over relationship red flags and why they’re actually gifts not to be ignored. I’m offering some powerful questions to help you get curious, and from there, you’ll be able to start healing your scripts about safety and belonging in all of your relationships. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/157 Mentioned in this epi...

#156: Tune in this week for a conversation with the amazing AstroTwins. They’re sharing how their work and discoveries as astrologists have influenced their feminist outlook on the world and continues to do so. We’re discussing how even a true skeptic can take a scientific approach to playing with astrology, and how the planets can guide you to true self-acceptance.  Get full show notes and m...

#155: Discover why privacy matters, the immense benefits of developing a robust private life, and examples of healthy privacy in relationships. I’m showing you what you should be sharing with your partners, what is yours to keep, and how to navigate privacy within different attachment styles.    Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/155 Mentioned in th...

#154: For years, I believed keeping things secret was the smarter, safer way to live because if no one saw the real, true, vulnerable me, they couldn’t hurt me, right? The topic of secrecy is an incredibly important one to get clear on for those of us with codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing habits, so this is what we’re diving into today. Get full show notes and more information here:...

Get ready for a nerd-out session with me as I dive into inner child science, how it’s not about blaming our parents, and why we want to embark on this journey of rewriting our relationships with ourselves. I’m showing you the clues to look out for that signal doing this work could be supportive for you, and the key takeaways I’ve learned from doing this work in my own life. Get full show notes and...

January feels to me like a sacred invitation to go inward, to slow down, do less, and support myself in ways I may not have been allowing myself to. Wintering has been on my mind a lot lately, so this week, I’m giving you permission to pause, breathe, and give yourself the gift of quiet and stillness.   Join me this week for a short and sweet episode as I encourage you to winter and discover...

Tis the season where, for many of us, our thoughts turn to making wildly perfectionistic and fantastical New Year resolutions. You’ve probably experienced setting these grand goals and giving up shortly after.  This week I offer some remedies to spinning in resolution-setting so you can commit to the changes you want to make this year. Get full show notes and more information here: https://vi...

Be they romantic, friendships, work, familial, or otherwise, thinking about your wants and needs in this context matters. This week, I offer five reasons you might have a habit of expecting other people to meet your emotional wants and needs and vice versa. As always, I’m sharing remedies for this thought error so you can stop turning over your agency to somebody else, and instead, state all of yo...

If like so many humans socialized as women, you’ve been taught to believe having wants and needs makes you a burden or a bother, and that it’s better to pretend you don’t have any, this is your work, and I’m showing you why it matters so deeply.  Tune in this week as I share six reasons why letting your wants guide you is so important, how denying them is eroding your self-trust, and a simple...

I'm offering some common examples of how we confuse our wants and needs, and the forces that play a part in our disconnection from what we truly desire. I’m poking holes in the stories that have you giving your power away to others in this context so that in the coming weeks, you can begin living with more freedom and agency. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.co...

Tune in this week for my all-or-nothing thinking remedies! I’m exploring how this pattern developed for us folks with codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing habits, why staying in this framework is such a disservice to you, and the hints to look out for that signal you might need to pause and consider what’s true. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/1...

Discover how all-or-nothing thinking is part and parcel of our codependent framework for living, and the most common reasons we develop this habit. I’m showing you the power of learning to see the nuance and complexity of our human experience, and because I know this is a lot, make sure to tune in next week for some practical remedies to begin shifting this kind of thinking for good! Get full show...

Tune in to hear Dana drop some amazing tools that will help you get a headstart on finding peace and calm this time of year. She’s giving us insight on how to plan for the worst-case scenarios, what setting boundaries can look like, and her best tips for supporting yourself in pausing the buffering cycle.  Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/145 Mentioned...

Discover why I believe the love languages framework is an amazing tool for examining our internal thought rubrics. I’m offering some common thought patterns we may have around giving and receiving love, and showing you why this can be a super fun tool for opening up communication about your preferences.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/144 Mentioned...

This week, I'm showing you why letting other people be wrong about you is the magical secret to joy. It’s completely normal for us to want to jump to correct others, but I’m showing you why this is a waste of your precious resources, what is driving this need to be right, and how to start focusing on your own deeply anchored self-worth. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victor...

This week, I'm sharing the relationship green flags from my own life that I’ve cultivated over the years. I’m inviting you to see what resonates for your mind, body, and spirit, and to not just see if your dates and friends are bringing these energies to your connections, but if you are showing up in this way too, and why or why not. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaa...

This week, I invite you to not only learn to honor your no but applaud yourself for practicing it. Honoring you is a vital part of healing your mind-body-spirit and a huge thing for us to celebrate. I’m showing you why saying no feels so challenging right now, why putting yourself chronically last is not loving, and how to begin living from integrity.    Get full show notes and more info...

This week, I'm showing you why our romantic relationships are where our codependent habits tend to show up. I’m laying out the top 5 challenges we face in dating as codependent folk, and of course, as always, my best remedies to help you begin seeing that you are 100% worthy of love and care in all of your relationships.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina....

Listen in as Alea and I discuss not only the path to breaking through perfectionism, but also the key feminist principles that guide us, the difference between empathy as a gift versus being problematic, and our thoughts on being in oneness versus the rugged individualism we so often see in modern-day America.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/138 Men...