Feminist Wellness

#211: A sense of belonging is so core to the human experience, but for us folks living in codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing mindsets, we unwittingly hold on to stories that work against our human endeavor of belonging.  For us emotional outsourcers who are always looking outside ourselves for approval and validation, being mindful of and healing our stories about our ability to...

#210: I’m delighted to introduce you to Charlene Lam, a certified grief coach, curator, speaker, and founder of The Grief Gallery. Charlene is here to share her experience of being in Anchored and her thoughts on group coaching. She shares how somatic coaching in Anchored differs from anything else she's experienced, why she now has a deep affection for her mind, body, and spirit, and how lea...

#209: If you’re tired of spending another day of your precious life in the fawn response, and instead, you’re ready to speak your truth and live in your sacred anger, you’re in the right place, my love. This week, I share three signals of chronic fawning so you can start to see where you might identify with this habit. You’ll hear how it is a survival skill that simply isn’t necessary anymore, and...

#208: You’ve likely heard of fight, flight, and freeze nervous system responses as ways we protect ourselves when our boundaries are crossed, but there is a fourth:  fawning.  Fawning shows up for a lot of people, especially for those of us raised as girls and living as women, and this week, we’re exploring what it looks and feels like, and why you might have developed this habit in the...

#207: Join me this week to hear how the codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing thought habits we live with can be understood in the context of healthy anger, and how reclaiming that anger is one path that helps us heal. I’m sharing the socialization and conditioning that minimizes our experience of anger, guiding questions you can ask in the midst of anger, and the remedies for beginning...

#206: If you can relate to fearing or simply not knowing how to voice your anger, the notion of  healthy anger may be radical to you, and you’re going to hear all about it this week. Join me to discover what healthy anger means, and why it’s your birthright to feel and express it. You’ll hear what causes us to lose touch with and talk ourselves out of anger, why anger is actually our fri...

#205: This week, we’re diving into how and why human beings hold on to what simply doesn’t serve us. This is a habit that’s particularly common for us emotional outsourcers, where the stories we tell on repeat about ourselves and our lives take up so much real estate in our minds and bodies, and feel impossible to let go of. So join me to to discover how we can use the invitation of winter to prun...

#204: This week, I sat down with Anchored alumnus Margot Hanley, a life coach who specializes in coaching parents of transgender and gender non-conforming children. Join us as Margot shares why she felt called to join Anchored and the transformations she’s experienced both as a member and now as a graduate. She’s offering her insights on the time and financial investment necessary, the importance...

#203: Tune in this week to discover how to start coming into relationship with your inner children and the science behind this process. I’m showing you what inner child work is and isn’t, the clues to look out for that signal doing this work could be super supportive for you, and the key takeaways I’ve learned from doing this work in my own life and with my clients. Get full show notes and more in...

#202: If New Year’s resolutions are a tradition that has never felt loving to you and has instead been an exercise in beating yourself up, the good news is you get to make intentional choices about how and what you want to make shifts towards. You’ll hear the insidious reasons we set resolutions, why they often don’t stick, and the importance of deciding you are lovable as you are right now. &nbsp...

#201: This week, I’m showing you how your intuition and trauma responses interplay with each other, and how to discern the difference between the two. For those of us with early attachment wounds, or who have trouble sifting through what’s anxiety, trauma, or intuition, the best news is you get to reconnect with your intuition, slowly but surely, kitten-step style, and I'm showing you how in this...

#200: So much of the work of healing from our emotional outsourcing habits boils down to trusting ourselves deeply. Your intuition is a potent and powerful ally in your life when you listen to it with self-love and self-trust, and I’m showing you how on this episode. Discover how to awaken your instincts and let your intuition know you’re here and listening.   Get full show notes and more inf...

My tender ravioli! We are celebrating 200 episodes of the Feminist Wellness Podcast and we’re doing a giveaway to mark the occasion! 1st prize: 50 min coaching session with me (holy wow!!) 2nd prize: I will record a personal pep talk just for you on the topic of your choosing! Struggling with boundaries? Want to boost your self-confidence? Anchor in you and ventral vagal? I’m on it! 3rd prize: A s...

#199: It seems everyone is talking about trauma these days, which I’m so delighted about. It’s high time we pause to talk about what trauma is and how it can shape our lives because, my darling, it really matters. This week, I’m sharing examples of the more subtle, chronic traumas of everyday life, how to identify if trauma is part of your experience, and the remedies that will help you support yo...

#198: I recently sat down with one of our amazing Anchored members, Dr. Maylin Gonzalez, OD, to discuss her experience of our community and how radically her life and relationships have shifted since. Join us to discover how, even though everything might feel broken right now, that there is a way out. Life can be different. Maylin is a shining example of what our work together can do for your life...

#197: You might be well down your own healing path, but what do you do if the people you love are not interested in doing the same? And what if they don’t like the changes you’ve made in your life? These are the questions I’m addressing this week by discussing change and stuckness, both of your own and for those around you. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina...

#196: Join me on this episode as I offer the five key differences between habitually emotionally outsourcing and showing up with an energy of interdependence. You’ll hear the differences as they relate not only to your relationships but with yourself too, and two pieces of homework that will help you explore what moving the needle toward interdependence might look like for you. Get full show notes...

#195: This week, I’m sharing a conversation I had a while back with my dear friend and tremendous coach Kara Loewentheil over on her podcast. Tune in as Kara interviews me about all of the things I love the most: somatics, codependency, coaching, our nervous system, our inner children, and how all of these can help us understand what’s going on in our beautiful brains and bodies.   Get full s...

#194: Join me this week to discover how, with a little pause, you can recognize your own power to choose a way of thinking that helps you step more fully into your autonomy, agency, and authenticity. I’m showing you why defaulting to all-or-nothing thinking feels like the safe choice, the biochemical stress response this elicits, and the beauty of learning to live in the grey.    Get ful...

#193: If you’re done living from the neck up, suffering, and enduring relationships that don’t feel balanced or reciprocal, listen in. Discover the true differences between codependent thinking and interdependence, how to locate yourself in this work, and why it is not your fault for the thinking patterns you were taught to use to feel safe. I’m sharing how to start doing this work of healing and...

#192: Listen in this week to hear Jenn Baron, Erika Belanger, Erin Pinto, and Tobi Fairley share how being a part of Anchored has transformed their lives and businesses. They’re diving into how codependency, perfectionism, and people pleasing were showing up for them, and the biggest shifts they’ve experienced since learning the tools and resources offered inside Anchored.  Get full show note...

#191: If you’re ready to stop letting your old thought habits rule your life and give yourself the gift of choice in how you relate to yourself and the world, I invite you to try the thought exercise of getting to neutral. You’ll discover why this is an especially important tool for us folks with codependent, people-pleasing, and perfectionist habits, and how to begin implementing this in both sma...

#190: Join me this week to discover why it makes so much sense that we’re detached from our biological impulses, and how to start connecting with your body’s deep intelligence so you can start giving yourself the basic attention every human needs. And to do that, I’m offering a list of guiding questions you can ask yourself in the midst of a thought spiral. Get full show notes and more information...

#189: Join me this week as I invite you to question what it would be like to just decide you’ve done enough for right now. I’m showing you why we folks with codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing habits tend to work ourselves to the bone, the consequences of doing so when your brain and body ask for a pause, and my favorite tools and practices you can lean on when you find yourself unable...

#188: Discover the many reasons we take things personally, what becomes possible when we stop taking things personally, and the keys to reframing this habit. I’m showing you the role of codependency, perfectionism, and people pleasing in this cycle, and all of my favorite tools for beginning to slowly remove negative self-talk from your inner and outer dialogue.    Get full show notes an...