Established Family Podcast

In Part 4 of The Faithful Spouse, Jordan shares the testimony that completely transformed our marriage. Long before our marriage was restored, God confronted her with a truth she never expected:She had been an unfaithful wife... even though she had never committed adultery.

Most couples think they're trying to decide the future of their marriage. They're not. They're trying to make eternal decisions while still operating from a hardened heart, a compromised conscience, and an insincere faith. That is a dangerous place to be. In this episode, Derek confronts one of the biggest lies in Christian marriage culture: that being "at an impasse" is simp...

In Part 2 of The Faithful Spouse, Derek walks through Scripture to show why the fear of God, the peace of God, and an eternal perspective are essential if you are going to remain faithful in your marriage. We discuss why anxiety cannot become the governing system of your thoughts, emotions, and decisions, and what Scripture says about the God of peace being with His people. Whether you're stan...

When most people hear the word unfaithfulness, they immediately think of adultery, affairs, addiction, or betrayal. But what if Scripture defines unfaithfulness much deeper than that?

In Part 4 of our Breaking Marriage Curses series, we confront one of the most dangerous conditions a husband or wife can fall into:Spiritual sluggishness. Lukewarmness. Apathy. God is not calling husbands and wives to survive their marriage. He is calling them to be diligent. Steadfast. Immovable. Full of faith. Full of hope. And fully surrendered to His process of transformation.

In Part 3 of our Breaking Marriage Curses series, we tackle one of the most destructive forces operating in marriages today: pride. Not just arrogance. Not just stubbornness. But the stiff-necked spirit Scripture repeatedly warns about from Genesis to Revelation.

In this episode of The Established Family Show, Derek dives into one of the most destructive forces operating inside struggling marriages: the spirit of provocation. Many spouses find themselves trapped in a cycle of constantly being provoked—or provoking their spouse in return—while unknowingly empowering chaos, division, bitterness, and spiritual blindness.

Tax Deductible Donation as an individual or an organization:https://www. EstablishedFamily.com/giveApply for Established Family Trusted (in-network or out-of-network provider):https://www. EstablishedFamily.com/trustedHost The Marriage Academy at your church, small group, or organization:https://www. EstablishedUniversity.com/host———What happens when a spouse begins to wander? Not just physically…...

JORDAN'S BACKKK AFTER MATERNITY LEAVE! ...she's talking about the process of learning to trust me as a husband again.———Tax Deductible Donation as an individual or an organization:https://www. EstablishedFamily.com/giveApply for Established Family Trusted (in-network or out-of-network provider):https://www. EstablishedFamily.com/trustedHost The Marriage Academy at your church, small group,...

Tax Deductible Donation as an individual or an organization: https://www. EstablishedFamily.com/give Apply for Established Family Trusted (in-network or out-of-network provider): https://www. EstablishedFamily.com/trusted Host The Marriage Academy at your church, small group, or organization: https://www. EstablishedUniversity.com/host———There is a form of spiritual development that looks like wis...

Tax Deductible Donation as an individual or an organization:https://www. EstablishedFamily.com/giveApply for Established Family Trusted (in-network or out-of-network provider):https://www. EstablishedFamily.com/trustedHost The Marriage Academy at your church, small group, or organization:https://www. EstablishedUniversity.com/host———In Part 2 of “The Immovable Spouse,” Derek exposes some of the de...

Tax Deductible Donation as an individual or an organization:https://www. EstablishedFamily.com/giveApply for Established Family Trusted (in-network or out-of-network provider):https://www. EstablishedFamily.com/trustedHost The Marriage Academy at your church, small group, or organization:https://www. EstablishedUniversity.com/host———In this episode of The Established Family Podcast, Derek confront...

Should you judge your spouse? Most marriages are trying to solve outward division without ever addressing the inward condition creating it. Separation, division, and even divorce are not the root problem—they are the fruit of something deeper. There has never been a whole, healed, Spirit-governed husband and wife who produced the fruit of division. If division exists in the marriage, division firs...

In this episode, we talk about the dangerous spiritual condition of indecision in marriage and why wavering faith keeps so many spouses trapped in cycles of delay, frustration, and false comfort. So many husbands and wives believe they are “just taking their time,” waiting for the right moment, the right response, or the right conditions—but indecision is not wisdom. It is often spiritual blindnes...

In this episode, we’re talking about one of the most dangerous things destroying marriages that almost no one is calling by name… dead works. Not just obvious sin. But lifeless patterns. Flesh-driven reactions. Religious routines. Outward godliness without inward transformation. Spiritually empty habits that quietly defile covenant. Many spouses are trying to restore their marriage while still sow...

Not every voice in your life carries the wisdom of heaven. Day 7 of the Stand for Your Marriage Challenge is about wise, godly counsel. In a painful season, many spouses are surrounded by voices, opinions, reactions, and advice. But not every voice heals. Not every voice builds. Not every voice carries truth. Some counsel strengthens covenant. Some counsel quietly harms it. In this teaching, we he...

Rejection speaks loudly, but it does not tell the truth. Day 6 of the Stand for Your Marriage Challenge is focused on breaking fear and rejection at the root. These things do not just wound emotions. They distort identity, shape reactions, and whisper lies that keep spouses bound in insecurity, striving, and instability. Rejection is not your identity. Fear is not your portion. In today’s teaching...

Complacency in the face of brokenness is disobedience. Day 5 of the Stand for Your Marriage Challenge is about recovering godly urgency. Too many spouses grow passive in a season that requires prayer, obedience, rebuilding, and action. Standing is not apathy. Standing is not delay. Standing is movement with God. There is a holy urgency required when something broken needs to be rebuilt. In this te...

Strife is more than poor communication. It is a spiritual assignment to dismantle covenant. Day 4 of the Stand for Your Marriage Challenge is focused on upright communication. Many spouses think they only have a communication problem, but underneath contention, accusation, and constant tension there is often a deeper spiritual disorder attacking peace in the home. Godly communication protects cove...

Emotions were designed to inform you, not to master you. Day 3 of the Stand for Your Marriage Challenge is about standing free in your emotions. Fear, anger, bitterness, and internal unrest can quietly begin governing the way you think, speak, and respond in marriage. But God never designed your emotions to lead your life. The Spirit leads you into freedom. In this teaching, we help you identify w...

The battle often starts in the mind before it manifests in the marriage. Day 2 is focused on confronting fear, wavering, and internal agreement with doubt. The enemy wants you exhausted, unstable, and emotionally tossed so that you abandon the promise before breakthrough. Today we stand against:— fear— mental torment— hopelessness— confusion— emotional instabilityThis is the day you stop partnerin...

God told you to stand. Not because this season is easy. Not because the pain is light. But because His word over your marriage still carries authority. Day 1 of the Stand for Your Marriage Challenge is about returning to the promise of God when everything in the natural tries to convince you otherwise. Today we are standing on:— the faithfulness of God— His unchanging promises— covenant over circu...

It is the establishment of a new one. Day 5 is the culmination of our 5-Day Fast & Pray Over Your Marriage Challenge. Today we pray into:— unity— covenant alignment— renewed vision— restored roles and responsibility— true breakthroughThis is the day we seal what God has begun. We are not praying for the old version. We are praying for a marriage rebuilt in truth, order, and God’s design. A mar...

What has been given access must be exposed. Day 4 of our 5-Day Fast & Pray Over Your Marriage Challenge is focused on exposing open doors and revoking legal ground given to the enemy. Scripture describes this as topos — territory, access, legal ground. Today we fast and pray for:— exposure of hidden strongholds— conviction and clarity— revoking legal access— restoring the fear of the Lord in t...

Awareness without freedom only creates more chaos. Day 3 is where we move beyond recognition and repentance into full deliverance and inner healing. Many marriages know what is wrong. Few confront what is establishing the chaos. Today we fast and pray for:— deliverance from spiritual oppression— healing in the mind, will, and emotions— freedom from soul-level agreements— renouncing destructive tho...