Established Family Podcast

In Part Two of Jordan's testimony, she shares the deeply personal journey that followed her encounter with God after discovering Derek's affair. What began as a decision to repent became a season of testing, refining, rebellion, and ultimately, a revelation of the Father's heart that would change everything. From the moment the Holy Spirit instructed her to ask Derek what he loved abou...

There was a time when the marriage and family we have today looked impossible. Infidelity. Addiction. Financial devastation. Spiritual manipulation. Depression. Broken trust. Years of pain that left very little evidence that our marriage would ever become what it is today. In this documentary, Jordan Palizay shares her side of the testimony. She opens up about what those years looked like from her...

What if repentance in your marriage is about more than acknowledging what you did wrong? What if there are things God designed your marriage to produce—fruit, calling, ministry, identity, peace, stability, and impact—that never had the opportunity to exist because of what was happening in your home? In this episode, Derek breaks down three categories of repentance every marriage needs: repentance...

What has God’s rain produced in your marriage? We often cry out for God to send the rain—to give us revelation, wisdom, mercy, direction, confirmation, provision, and breakthrough. But Hebrews 6 gives us a different question to consider:What is the rain producing when it falls on the soil of our lives?“For soil that drinks the rain which often falls on it and produces crops useful to those for who...

In this teaching, Derek and Jordan continue The Battle for Your Will and uncover how the enemy works through deception, opposition to truth, unrepentance, and ultimately the human will to accomplish his purposes. We’re breaking down:What Scripture reveals about the devil’s desires, will, works, and schemesWhat it means to be “caught alive” to do his willHow your own will can come into agreement wi...

What does your life actually testify about who is fathering your marriage? You can say you want restoration. You can say you’re standing for covenant. You can say you’re following the will of God. But Jesus said, “The works that I do in My Father’s name testify concerning Me.” (John 10:25) In this teaching, Derek continues The Battle for Your Will series by confronting the difference between a rig...

In this teaching, Derek walks through the biblical meaning of thelō and shows why your willingness—not your spouse's response—is often the gateway to movement, obedience, and fruit in your marriage. Through passages like John 15, Matthew 15, Matthew 16, John 5, and Mark 10, you'll see a consistent pattern: God responds to people who have settled the battle of their will.

In Part 1 of this series, Derek teaches one of the most overlooked realities in Scripture: God didn't create you without a will. He created you with one. The question is whether your will has been sanctified and brought into agreement with His. Tax Deductible Donation as an individual or an organization: https://www. EstablishedFamily.com/give Apply for Established Family Trusted (in-network o...

What if the greatest threat to your marriage isn't a major crisis but years of delay, distraction, and spiritual compromise? In this Marriage Wisdom episode, Derek walks through Scripture to expose how the enemy uses fear, indecision, and misplaced focus to keep husbands and wives from God's purpose. It's time to recognize the battle, stop partnering with delay, and walk in the promise...

In Part 4 of The Faithful Spouse, Jordan shares the testimony that completely transformed our marriage. Long before our marriage was restored, God confronted her with a truth she never expected:She had been an unfaithful wife... even though she had never committed adultery.

Most couples think they're trying to decide the future of their marriage. They're not. They're trying to make eternal decisions while still operating from a hardened heart, a compromised conscience, and an insincere faith. That is a dangerous place to be. In this episode, Derek confronts one of the biggest lies in Christian marriage culture: that being "at an impasse" is simp...

In Part 2 of The Faithful Spouse, Derek walks through Scripture to show why the fear of God, the peace of God, and an eternal perspective are essential if you are going to remain faithful in your marriage. We discuss why anxiety cannot become the governing system of your thoughts, emotions, and decisions, and what Scripture says about the God of peace being with His people. Whether you're stan...

When most people hear the word unfaithfulness, they immediately think of adultery, affairs, addiction, or betrayal. But what if Scripture defines unfaithfulness much deeper than that?

In Part 4 of our Breaking Marriage Curses series, we confront one of the most dangerous conditions a husband or wife can fall into:Spiritual sluggishness. Lukewarmness. Apathy. God is not calling husbands and wives to survive their marriage. He is calling them to be diligent. Steadfast. Immovable. Full of faith. Full of hope. And fully surrendered to His process of transformation.

In Part 3 of our Breaking Marriage Curses series, we tackle one of the most destructive forces operating in marriages today: pride. Not just arrogance. Not just stubbornness. But the stiff-necked spirit Scripture repeatedly warns about from Genesis to Revelation.

In this episode of The Established Family Show, Derek dives into one of the most destructive forces operating inside struggling marriages: the spirit of provocation. Many spouses find themselves trapped in a cycle of constantly being provoked—or provoking their spouse in return—while unknowingly empowering chaos, division, bitterness, and spiritual blindness.

Tax Deductible Donation as an individual or an organization:https://www. EstablishedFamily.com/giveApply for Established Family Trusted (in-network or out-of-network provider):https://www. EstablishedFamily.com/trustedHost The Marriage Academy at your church, small group, or organization:https://www. EstablishedUniversity.com/host———What happens when a spouse begins to wander? Not just physically…...

JORDAN'S BACKKK AFTER MATERNITY LEAVE! ...she's talking about the process of learning to trust me as a husband again.———Tax Deductible Donation as an individual or an organization:https://www. EstablishedFamily.com/giveApply for Established Family Trusted (in-network or out-of-network provider):https://www. EstablishedFamily.com/trustedHost The Marriage Academy at your church, small group,...

Tax Deductible Donation as an individual or an organization: https://www. EstablishedFamily.com/give Apply for Established Family Trusted (in-network or out-of-network provider): https://www. EstablishedFamily.com/trusted Host The Marriage Academy at your church, small group, or organization: https://www. EstablishedUniversity.com/host———There is a form of spiritual development that looks like wis...

Tax Deductible Donation as an individual or an organization:https://www. EstablishedFamily.com/giveApply for Established Family Trusted (in-network or out-of-network provider):https://www. EstablishedFamily.com/trustedHost The Marriage Academy at your church, small group, or organization:https://www. EstablishedUniversity.com/host———In Part 2 of “The Immovable Spouse,” Derek exposes some of the de...

Tax Deductible Donation as an individual or an organization:https://www. EstablishedFamily.com/giveApply for Established Family Trusted (in-network or out-of-network provider):https://www. EstablishedFamily.com/trustedHost The Marriage Academy at your church, small group, or organization:https://www. EstablishedUniversity.com/host———In this episode of The Established Family Podcast, Derek confront...

Should you judge your spouse? Most marriages are trying to solve outward division without ever addressing the inward condition creating it. Separation, division, and even divorce are not the root problem—they are the fruit of something deeper. There has never been a whole, healed, Spirit-governed husband and wife who produced the fruit of division. If division exists in the marriage, division firs...

In this episode, we talk about the dangerous spiritual condition of indecision in marriage and why wavering faith keeps so many spouses trapped in cycles of delay, frustration, and false comfort. So many husbands and wives believe they are “just taking their time,” waiting for the right moment, the right response, or the right conditions—but indecision is not wisdom. It is often spiritual blindnes...

In this episode, we’re talking about one of the most dangerous things destroying marriages that almost no one is calling by name… dead works. Not just obvious sin. But lifeless patterns. Flesh-driven reactions. Religious routines. Outward godliness without inward transformation. Spiritually empty habits that quietly defile covenant. Many spouses are trying to restore their marriage while still sow...

Not every voice in your life carries the wisdom of heaven. Day 7 of the Stand for Your Marriage Challenge is about wise, godly counsel. In a painful season, many spouses are surrounded by voices, opinions, reactions, and advice. But not every voice heals. Not every voice builds. Not every voice carries truth. Some counsel strengthens covenant. Some counsel quietly harms it. In this teaching, we he...