Enneagram and Marriage

There are so many cultural overlays that affect our relationships, and development across generations is absolutely one that matters, both in your marriage and as you hack or deep dive your way through life, depending on your generation. Take a quick dive intergenerationally with Christa today as we dive into practical tips for both Erikson's developmental theory and Strauss and Howe's generationa...

As we jump into talking about marriage across seasons, stages, and generations all month, we take a fun leap into September with author Molly Wilcox, Enneagram 7, as we walk through the steps it takes to shine brightly together once again or for the very first time. With a book behind and another ahead, as well as work and baby life in the first five years of honeymoon, Molly has systematized ways...

When we learn to pause, you give your system time to regulate, and you also bring yourself into sensory awareness for the very best of conversations and inner scripts to spring forth. Each Enneagram type in marriage and life needs intentional pausing for a different reason, and today we talk about what those reasons are in this E + M mini with Christa. Listen here as you truly become more life-giv...

It’s a common fallacy in marriage to look at one’s spouse as being less healthy than one's self or to think that having a spouse of another type may create fewer issues. However, we bring ourselves into all relationships as a common denominator, too, an extremely important issue to consider. Today we are so grateful to have European Union diplomat Frederick Coene, Enneagram researcher and SP 6 to...

We work very hard to balance our self-preserving, sexual, and social instincts, but who are we outside of that - and more importantly, above these base instincts? Christa walks you through the higher virtues lying outside of the instincts today so that you cannot only keep balance amidst the lower-hanging fruit of the three instincts themselves but also keep a higher plain of goodness in your life...

Work relationships can and do affect the ways we treat one another at home. As we dive into this much-needed topic today, today’s juicy podcast episode features Kaleigh Newby, MA, Enneagram 2w1 (2-9 pairing). Kaleigh is the perfect guest for the job, having done significant Enneagram and relationship work across organizational development as she's helped individuals and couples of each Enneagram t...

It's tempting to want to box our kids into one type or another the moment we see certain behaviors emerging, but an even better way to process how our kids are emerging is to honor both their gifts as well as the shifts and nuances across your children's development. As you help them to find and hone their traits, listen as Christa walks you through all nine types across the Enneagram in terms of...

When we confess our sexual struggles, we are given grace, hope and most, love and a release from the binding shame that comes with this brokenness. Matt Cline of Restored Ministries reaches out to spouses here in this E + M mini!   He talks about community, God's grace, and his own story of recovery as well with us right here!   Listen as Matt walks you through what he continues to teach thousands...

Pornography is not always something people feel comfortable talking about, inside of marriage or out. This is most especially true within the church. Today Christa is joined by author Jessica Harris, Enneagram 4w5 (4-3 marriage pairing) as she both shares her story and discusses an important topic for couples, especially women who desire to find freedom and true healing from pornography. As we dis...

If you're just keeping afloat amidst endless to-dos or busy seasons of life, your self-preservation - and your entire marriage and family - has likely looped off track. Today Christa is joined by Jenn Johnson, Health Coach, and E + M Certified Coach to guide you back on track, or perhaps finding your stride for the first time! This is an episode you definitely don't want to miss as we deep dive in...

Across many transitions of life, there are important grounding lessons to be learned as we aim to parent well too. Today as we prepare to launch kids into their own mental wellness with healthy rhythms, Christa is joined by Enneagram expert, and coach Kelsey Lincoln, Enneagram 6 (Fuller Theological Sem, Intercultural Studies). Kelsey shares her wisdom and foresight to give us these tools we need f...

Have you ever wondered how your personality affects your well-being in terms of financial savvy and success? Or which Enneagram (and MBTI) types are more and less motivated by more relational versus financial provisions? Truity Psychometrics has done the deep diving for us about what we can all learn from one another, and the world is paying attention. In this all-new episode for you, we get to ch...

  In our conversation last summer w/Dr. Sam Greenberg, we had a groundbreaking episode on sex and how we see it across various instinctual patterns, depending on whether we're more socially, sexually, or wired for more self-preservation. Here we are joined yet again by Christa and Dr. Sam on a deeper dive level for each and every Enneagram type in terms of the typical sexual findings, in hopes you...

Your goal is deeper intimacy, but did you know autonomy and healthy boundaries and self-care are SO helpful for a relationship as well? Today Christa is joined by one of our most popular guests, Gottman, AACC, and E +M Certified Coach Melissa M Thompson, Enneagram 2, in a conversation about how to do just this for each and every type. Join us as Melissa refreshes us with healthy hacks and reminder...

You and your spouse's intimacy issues began long before you were married. Award-winning author, therapist, and ordained minister Jay Stringer has integrated the best of research and marital modalities for a deeper understanding of how our intimacy patterns began, and more importantly, how they can truly improve together. Today in this vital episode for marital healing, we take a truly biopsychosoc...

Often we wonder what we've carried forth from childhood in our Enneagram and relationship work, as well as wonder what we may have incidentally left behind in our quest for pleasing our family of origin. Today on this special episode with marriage and family therapist (and likely one of your fave Instagram therapy accounts) Michael Shahan, we take a tour around the Enneagram to walk through the En...

Did you know that the narrative you tell about your marriage truly matters, perhaps more than almost anything else? Yes, truly knowing one another and sharing meaningful stories is the best way to reach the deepest intimacy in relationships. Today, we are grateful to have ReStory expert Tracy Johnson, Enneagram 8 (8-7 pairing), introducing us to a model for reaching one another again and again as...

You may often deal with expectations (and sexpectations) for the roles you hope the other spouse will play in your sexual journey together. Many times, these expectations don't get discussed and spouses are left hurt and distant on the interior. These brief but vital questions will bring you on a deeper level of intimacy than ever before, so take them one at a time as we draw you closer together t...

This must-listen episode is for both men and women since couples who track and hack their unique monthly female cycle together tend to strategically understand one another better across the board. This allows for work, family, and relationship dynamics to thrive in a healthier system than ever before, and this issue is so big in fact, that about 90% of couples experience these shifts in their rela...

There are five absolutely key components for a healthier and happier sex life and culture in your marriage and in this quick episode, Christa walks you through ALL of them. Tune in for these practical tips you can incorporate immediately as you create a healthier vibe together all summer (and year!) long. Don't miss the opportunity to both identify the greatest stumbling blocks to intimacy and the...

Many times we bring trauma into marriage unwittingly and our spouse has to work very hard to work with us and our sensitive idiosyncrasies. Today we welcome Enneagram Coach and trauma practitioner, Jennifer Hurst of Everyday Enneagram to walk us through compassionate inquiry in our own healing versus relying on our spouses to be all things to us, a term coined by the world-renowned trauma/addictio...

What can you do when your marriage is in crisis… now? This episode is geared toward every person or couple who’s ever had a really bad day or moment in marriage or other relationships and just needs some support to help them out of a difficult spot. In this episode, Christa takes you around the Enneagram with lots of tips, bringing you warmth, soothing, and most of all, an array of clarified, simp...

Often we can make the mistake of completely defining others with unilateral Enneagram stereotypes, further expanding our differences, leaving us not only in the box of our type, but in the shadows of relationships. In this new episode just for you, author and expert Stephanie Spencer invites us into a more adventurous yet intimate journey through our styles of interaction using the broader lens of...

Adventures vary across couples and across types. But we can all agree on one thing - they're essential to a healthy marriage. Today Christa takes you on a quick but important journey across the stances in the various ways each of us brings the best and the worst into our marriage adventures. Listen in for clues for bringing the very best adventuring this season! Show notes: Get the E + M 52 Week G...

When you're in an opposites-attract marriage, you've got to be creative to make sure you're moving together in harmony. Today we get to talk to Dove-award winning artist Paul Cardall, whose lilting songs have been downloaded billions of times and graced the stage and airwaves for two decades, even through a heart transplant, about this very thing. Paul is an Enneagram 4 (with high 3 and 8 traits)...