Enneagram and Marriage

When you're upset in your relationship, do you ever villainize your spouse? You're not alone if you do, in fact, it's part of human nature to rate oneself as above average and to give oneself grace while fault-finding in one's spouse, especially in the post-honeymoon years. But you're not average, you're right about that part. You're doing your work, and today Christa walks you through doing just...

When you have family, fame, and faith, plus a Dove-award-winning musical career with millions of downloads (Sanctus Real, Matt Hammitt), life can feel a bit like coasting. Yet today, recording artist Matt Hammitt, Enneagram 9, reminds us that the space of Enneagram 9 must not only bring comfort but connection for relationships to truly thrive. In this candid interview, Matt walks us through his st...

 Do you ever notice how when your emotions get flooded, you end up finding yourself on the wrong side of regulation? Your relationships, especially those closest bonds, suffer while you put on a happy face for everyone at work and community. When this happens, you need tools, and this mini-podcast is a meditation for each of us when we hit every space on the Enneagram. This episode was created so...

How does your Enneagram personality type specifically get in the way of your deepest attachments in marriage? Without a safe language, you're probably deeply uncomfortable talking about the vulnerabilities that are preventing you from truly bonding intimately. Today we will talk from an attachments framework about each and every Enneagram type in marriage and the ways you can become closer togethe...

Do you ever feel like your spouse truly misses out on what your greatest attachment needs are? You may even wonder occasionally if you're doomed as a couple for not agreeing on what secure attachment really looks and feels like. In today's mini-episode, Christa walks you through the reasons those who lead with their hearts, minds, or bodies, tend to feel differently about what secure attachment re...

As you kick back a bit from work this opening summer Monday, we hope you take some time to chill during this fun conversation together with author Kate Hallock. As you learn about Kate, her husband, and their process for undertaking the first Enneagram mystery novel, Nine Ways to Die: An Enneagram Murder Mystery, we also have a mystery to solve together right on air! Join us here to examine what t...

We each bring something valuable and beautiful to our marriages in terms of worldview but also bring an accompanying shadow to the relationship as well. Today we are talking about what each of us brings in terms of worldview to our marriage via our Enneagram type. We are also going through an exercise that gives you briefly a chance to move toward one another when you hit a roadblock in achieving...

Did you feel different when you fell in love? Love does indeed change our brains, and wonderfully, love can even support us with emotional bonding. However, the intensity of love can also have negative effects on the activity within the brain.  Today on the podcast, we demystify the brain and practically hack our way through the best ways we can allow our thinking and activities to support us in o...

In this unabashedly romantic and just-for-fun episode, Christa and Hannah curl up in the 7 space with some decaf chai and invite listeners to grab a cup and join them in another personality-type excavation! This time we invite our audience to Tom Hanks and Meg Ryan characters with us across their cinematic history of slow-burn and enemies-to-lovers tropes together. We visit the magical mutual pini...

You need to know exactly what's getting in the way of the two of you in conflict, not only in terms of Enneagram type issues but also in terms of your meta-communication. In fact, if conflicts aren't addressed, they'll continue to control you from under the surface of your vices. On this brand new episode just for you, we are making the goal-getting deep and meaningful but also fun and practical w...

  Research tells us kids struggle more post-Covid with mental health issues and it's often because they have a sense of hopelessness and culture. They look to what social media tells them, largely, about who they are., and yet come up empty every time they don't measure up. Why not gift them with the best awareness of themselves and their incredibly precious gifts as they navigate these times, so...

This week of Mother's Day, we work together on parenting goals as we look at the absolute best and worst researched-based practices with teens as they will influence marriage and sexual relationships with Sheila Wray Gregoire, Enneagram 8w7. We take both a microscopic and wide lens view of generational practices around sexual and faith norms across generations. From prior to Gen X to purity cultur...

Sometimes you just need to let down and read a really good book, and today Christa is joined by her daughter Melody Hardin, Enneagram Nine, to discuss exactly that - great books for each and every personality type! Join us for this exclusive episode where we wind down after a busy spring, and prepared to launch ourselves into summer with some levity, love, and, fun literature as well! Check out Me...

As we begin to refine our goals together this month, we're covering the area of sexual intimacy right off the bat with the wonderful sex educator you always wish you had, Carlie Palmer-Webb, MS! Carlie runs the popular Instagram account @theChristianSexEducator to teach people who may not have been given healthy tools about sex the chance to build beautiful intimacy together. We talk about sexual...

In this "Life" series, you're getting to listen in on the relationship stories of each of the Enneagram types. It's a time for you to experience sitting with an authentic person of each personality type in a very authentic fashion as you join us for a meaningful chat as we finish our last dripping of the Enneagram type series of chats, ending with Christa's hubby Wes today, who helps us learn more...

What's preventing you from reaching your goals, from thriving personally, relationally, or at work? It's often so more than just circumstantial, but something you could actually get a handle on by increasing your emotional intelligence quotient with the Enneagram of personality, including your Enneagram instincts, defense strategies, triads, core fears, and more. Scott Allender, Enneagram 3 (3-4 p...

How can those who struggle with sobriety create mindfulness around alcohol, especially since the struggle affects all of us culturally as the leading substance issue today? Join us today for a compassionate and thoughtful conversation with author, sobriety coach, and spiritual director Erin Jean Warde, Enneagram 6. Erin shares practical ways we can honor one another's experiences more gracefully a...

So many individuals and couples depend on faith for life's sustenance as well as a purposeful call together in relationships, and yet many times there are often so many faith or cultural disillusionments that send us far away from the rhythms of life wrapped up with God and communities of faith, especially at this precarious moment in culture wars. Prolific author Sara Billups, Enneagram 4 (4-5 pa...

In this "Life" series, you don't just get to hear about relationships with each of the Enneagram types but for you to experience sitting with an authentic and open person of each personality type in a very down-to-earth fashion, too. Join us for another fascinating chat as we continue to drip out an Enneagram series with this week's guest Kirsten Barker, who is not only an E + M Certified Coach, b...

Grief hits us all at times - as a world, as a community, and yes, even as leaders, helpers, pastors, parents, or spouses. When grief and the ensuing life-changing rhythms and questions move us to new spaces that our friends, families, and often spouses, cannot fully navigate, what can do we do? And when faith questions arise, where can we go? In other words, you must give your loss and sadness a h...

In this "Life" series, you're doing more than learning about relationships with each of the Enneagram types but it's a time for you to experience sitting with an authentic and real person of each personality type in a very real fashion, too. Join us for an authentic chat as we continue to drip out an Enneagram series of chats with each type with Christa's sister Abbie today, who is an SX 3! Abigai...

Whenever we approach spiritual growth, we look for roots in hurt or pain. Where have we gone off track with God and how does this distance or these wounds affect our relationships? In this new series on digging deep for faith individually and/or as couples, we ask hard questions - questions everyone has asked at some point but may not always feel are heard. Today we welcome powerful speaker, write...

In this "Life" series, you get to experience sitting with an authentic and real person of each personality type in a very relaxed fashion, too. Join us for a restful and fun chat as we continue to drip out an Enneagram series of chats with each type with some added extras! Today we are interviewing Jentry Courter, Enneagram 4 and ICU Nurse. Jentry curates restful rhythms for not only Fours but bri...

Whether you're hypervigilant or you tend to become withdrawn in the aftermath of trauma, there are certain costs to being strong - we were made well and we can live in survival mode for a long time. However, walking to freedom and safety on the other side is not only the goal, but it's accessible and present. Today we are grateful to have acclaimed trauma specialist and author Aundi Kolber, LMHC o...

In this "Life" series, you don't just get to hear about relationships with each of the Enneagram types but for you to experience sitting with an authentic and real person of each personality type in a very real fashion, too. Join us for a truly treasured deep chat as we continue to drip out an Enneagram series of chats with each type! Today we are interviewing Jennifer Passmore, school principal,...