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All people love to be seen and validated. Especially when life is hard. That’s all that’s happening when the “victim card” is laid down. If you judge or dismiss the “victim card” when it’s played… especially if YOU are the one playing it… all you really do is transition into one of two NEW challenges. Listen in this week to hear all about those two challenges - the events that make up the Pain Oly...

You can make anything into a love story whenever you want to and I suggest you only make it into a love story IF you want to. Because a love story isn’t a love story unless it really feels like love. Listen in this week for tips on how to make your love story last. For you. For him. But for YOU first. Every time. Get full show notes and more information here: Episode 34 - A Love Story for You - Ca...

Sometimes people say that coaching is a bit like spiritual bypassing, toxic positivity or even gaslighting. Yikes. I see why they might say that AND I don’t agree at all. Listen in this week to hear how coaching done right is the very best tool to get you exactly where you want to go in your marriage - while staying connected to EVERYTHING that’s really true for you. Get full show notes and more i...

It might seem wild to say, but the truth is: sometimes “tried and true” marriage improvement strategies really… well… don’t. Sometimes those “tricks” actually make things worse. Listen in this week to learn how to avoid using date night against yourself so that you can get back to the business of reconnecting with the one you love. Get full show notes and more information here: Episode 32 - Ditch...

What might it be like to expect that your needs will be met – in an unexpected way that requires very little sweat equity from you? Listen in this week to hear how you can do yourself the favor of leaving the window open for good vibes and fairy dust to find their way into your life and your marriage. Get full show notes and more information here: Episode 31 - Marital Magic - Candice Toone Coachin...

Have you grabbed your FREE ecopy of “Wife on Purpose” + the companion workbook? If not, head over to www.candicetoone.com/resources and hook yourself up. That email will land in your inbox right away, but if you don’t want to want even a second longer, listen in this week to enjoy the third of several installments where I read you a big chunk of Wife on Purpose right here, right now. You’re welcom...

Most people hate being wrong. So embarrassing. Such a pain. But what if it isn’t? What if being wrong is the best news ever? Listen in this week to learn how your willingness to be wrong about things that hurt your marriage is actually the easiest way to improve your connection with your forever guy. Get full show notes and more information here: Episode 29 - Being Wrong is the Best - Candice Toon...

Trouble in paradise? You’re not alone. Many couples have conflict. Most don’t like it. Makes sense. If you’re thinking conflict is a problem and resolution is unlikely, you’re probably wondering whether it’s even possible to keep your marriage alive. Listen in this week to learn how to do a whole lot better than just staying alive. You were meant to THRIVE in your marriage and us Bees can help you...

Ever said the words: “I just hate conflict?” If so, you’re in good company with roughly 90% of the world. Nobody likes to fight. Everybody wants to avoid awkwardness and pain. But what if pain isn’t the only thing you push away when you back off from the tough stuff? Listen in this week to learn how avoiding awkwardness could also be blocking the closeness you crave in your marriage. You’ll also g...

Did you know that the word "hack" is derived from the British term "hackneyed", meaning "overused and thus cheapened, or trite"? And in professional skill communities, like writing, you call someone a “hack” when they aren’t particularly good at what they are trying to do? So… if “hack” isn’t meant as a terribly flattering term, why would I devote an entire episode to sharing brain hacks with you?...

You might be wondering what it’s like to be part of an actual coaching conversation. Well… wonder no more. You’ve got a REAL, unscripted coaching session with one of my Defying Gravity Bees coming your way. Listen in this week to witness how a Defying Gravity Revolution Bee actively uses her natural brain function to create the marriage she loves to live in. Get full show notes and more informatio...

Unlike our phones and laptops, our brains aren’t set up to automatically scan for updates, so they keep running on factory settings that haven’t been customized to match our present day reality. Listen in this week to see where your “brain right out of the box” thinking might be getting in your way and learn some strategies to help yourself into defaults that help rather than hurt your marriage. G...

Why’d you get married? Do you remember? Was your decision a purposeful, methodically planned one? More of a romantic whim? Or something in between? Listen in this week to test out YOUR reason for staying married and try on some other reasons you may or may not want to keep. Get full show notes and more information here: Episode 23 - The very best reason to get (and stay) married + 2 reasons that d...

Did you know that I was once a brand new, super green client and not a coach at all? I know. Weird but true. So I really do get it if what I’m saying here is just kinda rattling around in your head and not quite gelling the way you want it to just yet. Listen in this week because today I’ve invited a special guest to the podcast – it’s Candice from 2017. Yup. Blast from the past – me, as a brand n...

Have you been eating cold dinners? Or sitting in the least desirable TV viewing spot? What’s that about? Did you know you don’t have to do all that? Listen in this week for tips on how to get what you need with the full support of people who love you completely. Get full show notes and more information here: Episode 21 - Cold Dinner, Anyone? - Candice Toone Coaching

Still itching for a full audio version of my book, Wife on Purpose ? Don’t worry - it’s in the works. And while you wait, enjoy the second of several installments where I read you a big chunk of Wife on Purpose right here, right now. Happy Listening! Get full show notes and more information here: Episode 20 - Wife on Purpose: Part 2 - Candice Toone Coaching

The first time I show one of my Bees how her husband's behavior isn't in charge of her feelings, she almost always responds with some silence, some side eye and then some version of the phrase… “but… it effects me.” I always answer with, "Totally."⠀⠀⠀ Then she gives me more side eye. I go on to explain that OF COURSE your husband's choices, words and behavior effect you. OF COURSE THEY DO. The tri...

Are you tired of doing everything without ANY help? Do you feel lonely because it doesn't seem like you two are friends anymore? Have you ever felt afraid because he's done or said something that you'd rather not have as part of your marriage? Listen in to this 10 min episode to hear the three most common reasons women wonder whether they married the wrong guy AND get some insight on why those rea...

From a very young age, we learn that anger is kinda scary and might even be a sin. Little kids color anger in bold reds. Cartoons present anger as steam shooting from the character’s ears. No wonder most of us do anything we can to avoid it. Listen in this week to hear how anger isn’t just seeing red or losing your temper and how it could actually be the key to marital bliss. Get full show notes a...

Most humans are pretty practiced in ignoring what our bodies have to say. We don’t mean to be. We’ve just been taught - for years and years – that what our body wants isn’t really relevant. Listen in this week to learn how paying attention to your body’s cues actually makes room for your brain to be an even more efficient and creative problem-solver. Get full show notes and more information here:...

I’ve always hated surprises. Even “good” surprises - like an unexpected party or a publicly delivered promotion. I’d really rather know everything that could possibly happen and when and with whom - so that I can let myself believe I’m prepared. At least, that used to be the case. Now I’m no longer sure surprises are as terrible as I once thought - especially since I realized that being surprised...

The way you relate to your husband now was more than likely a strategy you learned well before you felt the first flutter of butterflies as you two locked eyes across a crowded room. It’s not your fault that you’re relating to him the way you are AND your current strategy is 100% yours to lose or keep. Listen in this week to explore your attachment style and then use that information to help you b...

You might be wondering what it’s like to be part of an actual coaching conversation. Well… wonder no more. You’ve got a REAL, unscripted coaching session with one of my Defying Gravity Bees coming your way. Neither of us knew we’d be sharing it on the podcast when we were actually having the chat, but she has since graciously agreed to share it all with you. Listen in this week to witness how a De...

Maybe you’re afraid of your husband. Maybe not. Could be it’s more like you’re scared about the finances or your kid’s choices or your future as a couple. Sometimes it can be hard to tell for sure. And being unsure tends to make people at least a little uncomfortable… and the prospect of discomfort almost always brings a sense of fear along with it. Listen in this week to learn how to create more...

Since I’ve been talking up the Wife on Purpose book club we’ll be doing together in early December… I’ve had some requests for an audio version of the book. That’s coming. And while you wait, enjoy this first of several installments where I read you a big chunk of Wife on Purpose right here, right now. Happy Listening! Get full show notes and more information here: Episode 11 – Wife on Purpose: Pa...