Emotionally Unavailable

Host Malisa Hepner gets candid about burnout and the emotional toll of self-doubt. She shares why she's taking a break, the pressure to keep producing, and what happens when something you love starts to feel exhausting. Malisa explores the importance of listening to yourself, allowing space for rest without guilt, and stepping away long enough to find clarity about what you actually want. She also...

Malisa Hepner sits down with Jeselle Hinzmann, co-host of Look In Through The Glass Podcast, for an honest conversation about mental health, trauma, and what healing actually looks like. They explore how trauma impacts the nervous system, why our reactions often make sense in the context of what we've survived, and how self-awareness can help interrupt old patterns. Jeselle and Malisa also discuss...

Host Malisa Hepner and Liana Morris explore what emotional resilience actually looks like when life feels heavy. Through personal stories and practical insights, they discuss setting healthy boundaries, prioritizing self-care without guilt, navigating difficult seasons, and learning to stay connected to yourself through life's challenges. This conversation is a reminder that resilience isn't about...

Host Malisa Hepner sits down with Zander Sprague for a deeply connective conversation about sibling loss, grief, and learning how to carry the people we love forward with us. Zander shares his personal journey following the death of his sister and the ways that loss shaped his understanding of grief, connection, and supporting others who have experienced the death of a sibling. Together, Malisa an...

In this episode, Malisa Hepner sits down with lymphatic health expert John Ossipinsky to explore how the lymphatic system may influence not only immune function and physical health, but also mental and emotional well-being. John explains the role lymph flow plays in clearing waste, supporting circulation, reducing physical stress on the body, and helping the body function more efficiently. Togethe...

Host Malisa Hepner sits down with comedian and TV personality Paul Drayton for a candid conversation about his journey with undiagnosed ADHD and the ways impulsivity, humor, and alcohol shaped his life. Drawing from his new memoir, Ride – Or Die Trying, Paul shares how therapy and greater self-awareness helped him better understand his patterns, find healthier ways to cope, and become more comfort...

In this episode, Malisa Hepner sits down with Liana Morris to explore what it means to heal, create safety within yourself, and become your own best mother. Together, they discuss spirituality, personal growth, and the transformations that can emerge when life challenges us to reconnect with ourselves in deeper ways. This conversation explores learning to give yourself the safety, compassion, nurt...

Host, Malisa Hepner, sits with Margaret Eastman Smith, as she shares her journey from growing up in an international spiritual and moral movement (Moral Rearmament) to questioning what she was taught, exploring her identity, and finding love and purpose on her own terms. We explore how cultural and spiritual influences shape emotional health, the barriers we build along the way, and how self-aware...

In this episode, host Malisa Hepner sits down with Leslie Newan to explore her experiences with out-of-body travel and how they transformed her understanding of consciousness, embodiment, and spiritual growth. Together, they explore the intersection of spirituality and psychology, the importance of staying grounded while exploring spiritual experiences, and how we can integrate deeper awareness in...

In this episode, host, Malisa Hepner, sits with Bryan Blackmon as he shares his journey from addiction to sobriety and how he rebuilt his life through resilience, self-love, and consistent daily routines. Bryan opens up about the mindset shifts that helped him transform his relationship with himself and why small, intentional choices can create lasting change. Now using his story to help others, h...

What if it's never too late to heal, reconnect with yourself, and become who you were always meant to be? Host, Malisa Hepner, sits with Lena Fein as she shares her powerful journey of healing from childhood trauma and learning to live with greater vulnerability, authenticity, and self-love at 68. She opens up about the shame and emotional wounds she carried for years—and what changed when she beg...

In this episode, clinical psychologist Shang Olsen explores the psychology behind rumination, overthinking, and repetitive negative thoughts—and why trying to control or eliminate your thoughts can sometimes keep you stuck in them. Through the lens of metacognitive therapy, Shang explains how changing your relationship with your thoughts can help you break the rumination cycle, reduce mental distr...

In this solo episode, Malisa Hepner reflects on identity, authenticity, astrology, and the strange in-between spaces that come with personal growth. From the intensity of eclipse energy to recognizing old versions of herself that no longer quite fit, she explores what it means to consciously participate in who you're becoming without turning growth into another performance. Malisa shares what she'...

What does someone really need when they're hurting? In this episode, therapist Malisa Hepner welcomes back friend of the show, Elaynie Painter, to explore why our instinct to fix, solve, or offer advice can sometimes create more distance—and what it looks like to truly be present instead. Together they discuss emotional safety, self-awareness, nervous system regulation, and how learning to stay wi...

What if the biggest thing standing between you and the life you want is the identity you're unconsciously holding onto? In this solo episode, Malisa Hepner explores the powerful intersection of psychology and spirituality, diving into identity work, manifestation, self-sabotage, and the courage it takes to become the version of yourself capable of receiving what you desire. She unpacks how subcons...

In this deeply personal solo episode, Malisa Hepner shares what it's been like navigating life after profound loss while continuing to choose joy, presence, and healing. Reflecting on how PTSD, grief, and the nervous system intersect, Malisa offers an honest look at what healing actually feels like in real life. She also explores why she no longer resists normal human emotions, how creating an ene...

What does it actually mean to become embodied? In this episode, Malisa Hepner sits down with Ben Oofana to explore the path to enlightenment through presence, emotional healing, and reconnecting with the wisdom of the body. Together, they discuss how unresolved trauma disconnects us from ourselves, why emotions are meant to be experienced rather than avoided, and how traditional Native American he...

In this solo episode, Malisa Hepner dives into emotional availability, self-sabotage, accountability and spiritual beliefs. This conversation challenges polarizing thinking while offering practical insights into healing, boundaries, and personal growth. Whether you're navigating difficult relationships or your own patterns, this episode will leave you thinking long after it ends. Subscribe to Emot...

In this deeply moving conversation, host Malisa Hepner sits down with grief advocate Kirsten O'Connor of thisisgrief.nz to explore what happens after unimaginable loss. Following the death of her daughter Kahlia, Kirsten shares the lessons grief has taught her about love, presence, and what genuine support really looks like. Together, they discuss why our culture struggles with grief, how acknowle...

What if confidence doesn't come from changing who you are—but from understanding how you're designed? In this episode, Malisa Hepner sits down with Katie MacLachlan (@begoodguide) to explore how Human Design and astrology can serve as tools for greater self-awareness, emotional resilience, and authentic self-expression. Together, they discuss Mercury retrograde, releasing conditioned patterns, hon...

Can astrology be more than horoscopes? In this episode, Malisa Hepner sits down with Bee Doyle to explore how astrology can become a powerful tool for healing, self-awareness, and personal growth. Bee shares her journey into astrology, explains how birth charts can reveal patterns, strengths, and challenges, and discusses how understanding your cosmic blueprint can support trauma healing and livin...

Host, Malisa Hepner, explores the often-overlooked signs of emotional unavailability and why it isn't always obvious. Through personal stories, relatable examples, and practical insights, she explains how emotional unavailability can show up as perfectionism, overthinking, people-pleasing, emotional independence, intellectualizing feelings, and more. Learn how these protective patterns develop, ho...

What does it really take to heal when life feels unbearable? In this episode, Malisa Hepner sits down with author, speaker, and Peace, Love and Bring a Bat podcast host David Chametzky for an honest conversation about mental health, emotional availability, and finding hope. David shares the practices that helped him move from surviving to truly living, including the healing power of havening, self...

Host, Malisa Hepner, welcomes back to the show, Laura Bratton, as they explore what it truly means to be a "villager"—not just offering support when life gets hard, but learning how to ask for help, receive care, and build meaningful connections before a crisis occurs. Through personal stories, practical mental models, and honest conversations about emotional support, Malisa and Laura examine why...

The Problem With Potential: When Giftedness Becomes the Weight of Expectation Host Malisa Hepner sits down with Mark Talaga, owner of Center for Identity Potential, to explore the complexities of giftedness—and the hidden weight that can come with being told you have unlimited potential. Mark shares his unconventional journey from video game developer to working with gifted children and adults and...