Durable Dad with Tommy Geary

Ever wonder how the stories and experiences from your past might be slowing you down in your current journey? Can you imagine lightening that load, not by forgetting or altering the facts, but by shifting how you perceive and narrate those events?  This episode will teach you the power of reframing your past and shedding unnecessary weight that impedes your progress.  Discover how the narratives w...

Think back to a moment when your frustration and anger threatened to bubble over, only to realize later that it was an overreaction. Sounds familiar, right? That's what we're unraveling in today's episode.  You'll learn how to recognize when your annoyance is hitting max capacity, and how to unload it in a healthy way – in a way that doesn't leave your kids thinking, &quot...

Have you listened to the Man in the Arena speech recently? And have you applied it through the lens of being a dad? 🤔 This week's episode of the Durable Dad podcast is going to use that speech to empower you.  And it’ll point out some areas where you can start to take some action. 👊 If this episode helped you think differently, share it with another guy who’d benefit from the conversation....

The goal isn't to be happy. The goal is to experience the full wheel of emotions. Just like our ecosystems thrive on biodiversity, our lives thrive with emotional diversity.  How many of us run on stress? Or overwhelm or anger? Conversely, if we're sitting in comfort or ease for too long, we start to feel empty. The trick is to welcome them all.  Join us in an exercise to identify the th...

Have you ever considered how often you're simply reacting by default rather than on purpose? For most guys, it's close to 95% of the time. On this episode of The Durable Dad podcast, I, Tommy Geary, will guide you through the fascinating nature of our reactions, and how, with a little awareness and understanding of our thought cycle, we can learn to manage them effectively.  Packed with...

Join us as we explore the core concepts of Stoicism and debunk the misconception that being stoic means lacking emotions. Instead, we'll delve into how Stoics connect with their feelings to respond in a measured way and examine Seneca's quote, "he who has control over himself has control over the world." Learn how to accept and manage external factors by applying Stoic principl...

Ever found yourself stuck in surface-level conversations, struggling to connect with your wife? In this powerful episode, we share a game-changing communication tool: the check-in process. This technique has transformed my relationships, particularly with my wife, as it helps to cut through small talk and dive into the heart of the matter. Through examples from our own experiences, such as resolvi...

Ready to transform your relationship with stress and become an even better dad? Today on The Durable Dad podcast, we reveal how our mindset can help us manage stress for the benefit of ourselves and our families. Stress can be a powerful tool that gives us focus, energy, and motivation when managed properly. Learn about the hormones released during stress and how our bodies respond in fight or fli...

Push comes to shove, we’d choose our kids every time over these little habits we fall into. Most of us don't realize we're prioritizing them because they're easy to slip into. Over time our kids start to turn to mom for everything, and we lose that mutual respect needed when it comes time to teach or discipline. This week’s episode covers the top five things I see dads devote their...

Top five reasons you want to get a physical challenge on the books.  If this episode helped you think differently, share it with another guy who’d benefit from the conversation. And if you haven’t already, follow the podcast so these episodes stay in your rotation. Just click follow or subscribe right now!  Follow on Apple Podcasts Follow on Spotify

Most of us carry around a thick playbook for the people in our lives – all the things we think they should and shouldn't be doing. And these playbooks (or expectations) can make us crazy. We focus on trying to control things that are out of our control.  This episode will teach you how to:  - recognize your own playbooks - drop the ones that are dragging you down - and manage the playbooks th...

It can feel like the only way to get our kids to listen is to yell. But there's a better way. This episode will teach you how to enforce your needs without looking like a hothead. You'll end up with stronger relationships and more respect from your kids and colleagues. Resources: Good Inside If this episode helped you think differently, share it with another guy who’d benefit from the co...

Sounds soft. But mastering your emotions are the key to becoming a man. Your emotions are where all of your power lies. And most of us guys are completely disconnected from them. This episode will teach you exactly how to change that so you can be more level-headed and reliable.  Resources: Man's Search for Meaning  by Viktor E. Frankl If this episode helped you think differently, share it wi...

Odds are, you're stuck in a fixed mindset in some area of your life.  This podcast will show you a clear, black-and-white strategy to recognize your own fixed mindsets so you shift into growth and unleash your potential. Resources: Mindset  by Carol Dweck If this episode helped you think differently, share it with another guy who’d benefit from the conversation. And if you haven’t already, fo...

If you need more free time or some space to yourself, the morning is the time to do it.  If you don't already make the most of your morning, this episode will teach you why, and how to change that.  You'll also get 8 options to plug and play into the first hour of your day so you can show up strong the rest of the day. If this episode helped you think differently, share it with another g...

We all do it – we let the pressures from life or work roll downhill to impact our coworkers or family. Here are 4 ways to handle your stress responsibly so it stops with you. If this episode helped you think differently, share it with another guy who’d benefit from the conversation. And if you haven’t already, follow the podcast so these episodes stay in your rotation. Just click follow or subscri...

It's harder to tackle an obligation than it is to address something you desire.   This week's episode teaches you two words that shift any burden into an opportunity, and how to apply it to 5 areas of your life.  You'll gain more momentum and give yourself a sense of control.  If this episode helped you think differently, share it with another guy who’d benefit from the conversation...

When our wife or buddy comes to us with an issue, we tend to drop into fix-it mode. We offer helpful suggestions. We have a solution worked out in our head. We even know exactly how we'd handle the situation ourselves.  But it doesn't land with the other person. This episode will teach you why your advice goes in one ear and out the other, and what you can do instead to be a much more su...

In this episode we’re going to explore a function of the brain called confirmation bias and how it affects our relationships at home and work. You’ll learn: How our thoughts can create a false reality.  Why it’s important to be wrong sometimes.  A Japanese exercise to make any relationship better.  If this episode helped you think differently, share it with another guy who’d benefit from the conve...

Why do get frustrated, annoyed and angry so easily?  We don't want our kids to remember us as the dad that yelled and got upset all the time. Yet, it's hard to stop the outbursts.  In this ep. we'll look at anger in a new light and throw out some tips to take ownership and direct our anger in a responsible way.  If this episode helped you think differently, share it with another guy...

We tell ourselves we're going to start saying no more often or got yell as much at home, but just promising ourselves isn't enough. In this episode, I explain a powerful tool that can be used to break any unhealthy habit and sustain the healthy ones.  If this episode helped you think differently, share it with another guy who’d benefit from the conversation. And if you haven’t already, f...

In this episode we define what it takes to be a Durable Dad. You'll get six principals to help guide your growth, goals and habits.  If this episode helped you think differently, share it with another guy who’d benefit from the conversation. And if you haven’t already, follow the podcast so these episodes stay in your rotation. Just click follow or subscribe right now!  Follow on Apple Podcas...

Kicking off the Durable Dad podcast. This quick episode is going to let you know what the show is about and what to expect in future episodes.   If this episode helped you think differently, share it with another guy who’d benefit from the conversation. And if you haven’t already, follow the podcast so these episodes stay in your rotation. Just click follow or subscribe right now!  Follow on Apple...