D/s and BDSM Communication Archives • Loving BDSM

For better or worse, language changes over time — including the terms we use in kink. These are our chaotic, messy thoughts on those changes. In this episode: We’re no longer live streaming the... The post Kink Terms Evolve appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Emotional intelligence and emotional regulation is extremely important for communication and happy, healthy power exchange relationships. In this episode: Join our Patreon during the 2026 Membership Drive What is emotional intelligence? From HelpGuide.org: “your... The post Emotional Intelligence and Power Exchange appeared first on Loving BDSM .

The idea of love maps comes from the Gottman Institute in their studies on relationships, specifically marriage. We wondered if it could be applied to power exchange, too. In this episode: Join us through... The post Love Maps and Power Exchange appeared first on Loving BDSM .

We needed something lighthearted this week, so we’re taking a look at some of the silly little “arguments” we get into. In this episode: Our 2025 Patreon Membership Drive is still going on! Argument... The post Silly Conflicts in Our Power Exchange appeared first on Loving BDSM .

A submissive agreed to their partner “No” on agreed upon topics, but their partner reacts in a way that’s causing resentment. The submissive knows they need to talk but also knows their partner doesn’t... The post Q&A: How Do I Support a Partner Who Doesn’t Take Criticism Well? appeared first on Loving BDSM .

We didn’t know where this would go before we started other than saying, “Yes, Doms need to communicate effectively, too.” (Obviously.) JB shares his experiences as a Dom who has struggled to communicate in... The post Dominants and Communication appeared first on Loving BDSM .

A moment when Kayla admitted wrongdoing has us thinking about the concept of “radical honesty” which potentially has a deeper meaning for kinksters in general. In this episode Register for the free and online... The post Radical Honesty in Power Exchange appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Most kinksters aren’t communicating too much, but some of us (like Kayla) could be, so let’s talk about it. In this episode: We need your questions for our Monday episodes. The most common issue... The post Over Communication in Power Exchange appeared first on Loving BDSM .

A submissive has a recurring issue about aftercare with their Dominant partner and wants to know: are they the problem or is it me? Here’s the question: I’ve been dating a dom for about... The post Q&A: Is My Dom the Problem or Am I? appeared first on Loving BDSM .

In this week’s episode, someone asks how to negotiate with someone who doesn’t even really know if they like kink yet. Here’s the question: Hey long time listener enjoying most of your long ones... The post How Do I Negotiate When They Want to Experiment With Kink? appeared first on Loving BDSM .

In this week’s Q&A episode, a submissive likes the positive reinforcement of rewards in their dynamic, but they don’t feel like they’re getting enough or the right kind they want and need. Here’s the... The post Can a Submissive Negotiate Their Rewards? appeared first on Loving BDSM .

(UPDATE: We no longer endorse TJ) This week’s episode is brought to you by our own personal stressors and more inspiration from Therapy Jeff! We’ve mentioned in the past that – when you can... The post Navigating Stress Before It Happens in D/s Relationships appeared first on Loving BDSM .

This week, we’re answering more non-kinky relationship questions. These came from a marriage coach on Instagram who labeled these questions as conversation starters to deepen your connection. We’ll see about that, lol. In this... The post Answering More Non-Kinky Relationship Questions appeared first on Loving BDSM .

This week, we’re talking about the mental load each partner carries in power exchange. It’s a topic that touches on a lot of previous conversations: decision fatigue, burnout, the need for self-care, and on... The post Mental Load in Power Exchange appeared first on Loving BDSM .

We’re back with another episode where we answer relationship questions we found online. These questions are meant to help partners get back in touch with how much they love each other. And we found... The post Answering Relationship Questions to Reconnect appeared first on Loving BDSM .

We’re hitting a lot of milestones after 10 years in a D/s relationship. One we didn’t expect is that how we’re negotiating parts of our dynamic has changed. Here’s what that looks like for... The post How Our D/s Negotiations Have Changed Over Time appeared first on Loving BDSM .

We’re continuing with the exercise of revisiting old episodes from the archive from before we had lengthy conversations about kinky topics. This week, we’re rehashing the second episode which was all about helping nervous... The post Revisiting Episode 2: How to Talk to Your Dominant appeared first on Loving BDSM .

In this week’s minisode, we share a few tips, tricks, and truths we’ve learned about negotiation in power exchange. Simply put, negotiation is a way to communicate your needs, get consent, and figure out... The post Minisode 39: Negotiation Tips appeared first on Loving BDSM .

A common struggle of many submissives is learning how to ask for what they need and want. It’s especially hard when you believe that a Dominant is always in charge and will decide what’s... The post Minisode 32: Asking Your Dominant for What You Want appeared first on Loving BDSM .

The word “advocacy” in terms of power exchange and BDSM has been on our minds a lot lately, so it’s time to do an episode about it. We used a non-kink list of how... The post Advocating for Yourself in BDSM appeared first on Loving BDSM .

We’ve talked about love languages before, and we’ve talked about making mistakes and needing to apologize. So imagine our delight when we discovered there’s a thing called an apology language (based on the 5... The post Figuring Out Our Apology Language appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Most of us have heard the cliched advice, “Never go to bed angry!” Everyone has their own opinion and experience with arguments in relationships, including those late-night disagreements. We try not to go to... The post Going to Bed Angry appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Have you ever looked back on a break-up or a big argument with your partner, and thought, “I knew something was wrong.”? Yeah, that’s hindsight for you. But what can do to avoid only... The post What We Can Learn from Hindsight appeared first on Loving BDSM .

In this week’s episode, we take a listener question about BDSM collars and turn it into a larger discussion on compromise (yes, we’ve done that episode before). The dynamics of the question posed got... The post Deciding When to Compromise in BDSM and When Not To appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Part of this week’s episode will sound similar to last week when we talked about gratitude. Why? Because one of the things you should say regularly in your D/s relationship is “Thank you.” But... The post Podcast Minisode 9: Things to Say in Your D/s Relationship appeared first on Loving BDSM .