Dr. UnStuck Podcast — Get Out of Your Head. Get Into Your Life.

We may think that invulnerability is a superpower as it makes us look strong (at least we think it does). However, in reality people back away from those donning emotional armor and pseudo-strength, as these people are unrelatable to us. Being vulnerable means being human, and being human means to be connected. Connection is among the most basic of human needs, something we need just as much as br...

There seems to be much discussion out there these days about "brands." This often refers to making your mark with social media and then maintaining consistency with whatever it is that you are either doing or selling. A "brand" can also be attached to what each of us brings to the table, so to speak, as far as authenticity and purpose. We can expand our brand to bring success into everything we do...

Many of us get a wave of negative emotion when the bills roll in. We can feel resentful, often defeated as we work so hard, and that whoever the clown is who thinks he is funny sending us these nasty things has a very sick sense of humor. It can even feel as if we are being punished. By flipping the script on our "bill-paying mindset," we will increase our cash flow as well as lead much happier an...

We teach people how to treat us based on the our own thoughts about who we are. About 96 percent of our daily interactions are stemming from the subconscious mind, the vault. We walk around all day long largely unaware that we are seeking external approval and confirmation for these unconscious messages swirling around in the mind. This often keeps us stuck in a cycle of self-abandonment, victimho...

We tend to zip around like gerbils on crack, walking from room to room while we are brushing our teeth, simultaneously doing whatever else we can to "multitask" and save time. Multitasking is actually a myth, as the brain is only capable of doing one thing at a time, so attempting this just leads to us becoming neurotic. Even worse, this prevents us from enjoying our valuable life-minutes. #serent...

Dr. Scott Stevens joins us in leading a discussion on the newly pioneered concept of a “Metaverse” and the potential detriments to our well-being, with specific concern for teens and young adults. Dr. Stevens begins by defining the Metaverse as the coming together of the virtual world (social media, gaming platforms, online marketplaces, etc.), and the reality of the physical world as we know it....

Many people walk around spewing negativity into the atmosphere like second-hand smoke. Whining and complaining not only gets us nowhere but affects those around us. Like anything else this can be improved with practice, and this practice is one of shifting our attention to what is going well in our lives. A grateful heart does not have room for anxiety, self-deprecation, or whoa-is-me thinking. An...

Lisa Mazzariello entertains a discussion with us on learning to become your own biggest fan. Mazz explains that one of the key components to this is acknowledging the self-talk rolling through the mind. By paying attention to this internal conversation, we can then work towards minimizing any negative dialogue preventing us from living our best lives. As Mazz works directly with young adult studen...

Learning to reside in the totality of who we are is key to living our very best lives. We cannot truly be happy if we do not accept ourselves as is. And, we cannot accept other people very easily if we do not accept ourselves as a whole and complete package. Perfectionists can be so incredibly hard on themselves, often not realizing the toll it can take on self-esteem and the ability to fully enjo...

Often people will approach us at work or wherever with their drama and may say something like, "So and so is driving me nuts and they did this and that. What do you think I should do?" Then, we respond right away which gets us hooked into a conversation that is not worthy of our valuable life-minutes. This is because we have been conditioned to "catch the ball" and we have become disconnected from...

Dr. Thomas Myers shares with us his insight and wisdom on the topic of synchronicity, when the internal psyche connects with the external world in a way that often seems like a strange or mystical “coincidence.” Have you ever had the experience of thinking of someone and then “coincidentally” bumped into them? Or, you managed to be in just the right place at just the right time for something good...

Sometimes we can be pulled in by the success of others, wanting what they have and wondering how they got there. We might even be annoyed or jealous that success seems to come so much easier to others than it does to us. We try and try, yet sometimes we find ourselves spinning our wheels, leaving us feeling tired and defeated. #authentichappiness #happinessfirst #bestlife22 #positivepsychology

Our lives are like a symphony of notes, beautiful individual moments running together to create the melody which is our life's storybook. In order to appreciate these individual moments we must learn to appreciate the pauses in between. #lifebalance #authenticity #happiness #positivepsychology

For many of us, it is loads easier to forgive others than it is to forgive ourselves. We a hold a high and stiff bar when it comes to cutting ourselves any slack and letting go of old mistakes. But why? Listen and find out. Understanding what gets in the way is a big step it making it easier to make peace with our past mistakes and to move on with a new vigor for life. No Need to Fix Me: I'm Not B...

The most important relationship we have is with ourselves. Without self-love, becoming the highest version of ourselves and living our best life is just not possible, as we cannot give away what we do not have. The internal dialogue we allow confirms what we already believe to be true about us and also teaches others how to treat us. #selflove #selflovedeficit #selfapproval #codependencyrecovery #...

We learn about ourselves early on by the grown-ups in our lives mirroring our value and all of the wonderful things about our unique selves. When this mirroring doesn't happen or comes up short, the result is often a deficit of self-love. This self-love deficit leaks into every aspect of our lives, our romantic relationships, friendships, parenting, work and school performance, as well as the abil...

Life is not an emergency, or even an urgency for that matter. Yet we allow the smallest of inconveniences and annoyances to pull us under on a daily basis. When we set aside "patience practice sessions" with realistic windows of time just as we would for practicing the piano, life becomes a whole lot more manageable and enjoyable. #practicepatience #happiness #innerjoy #lifeisgood #selflove #noFOM...

,We grew up in an environment that shaped us in certain ways such as not to feel, trust, or know how be light and playful. Many of us grew up too fast and felt robbed of a care-free childhood. We learned to be our own worst critics and to question when things began to go too well for us, sometimes sabotaging ourselves to return to that comfortable baseline of chaos and intensity. We cannot do what...

It is so human to want and need to be actively listened to and understood, and because of this we are often driven very strongly to get other people to understand our own pain or where we are coming from. Ironically, when we seek to understand the other person's emotions or point of view first, we are most often rewarded with the attention and understanding we sought out in the beginning, only it...

It can be all too easy to seek out the cracks and holes in our lives and relationships and then try to "fix" them. This "weatherproofing" habit is not pleasant for those around us and can become a rather unlikeable trait if not acknowledged and redirected. Become mindful of this tendency and have way, way more inner peace. #criticalpeople #nonjudgment #mindfulness #innerpeace #compassion #selflove...

We have been conditioned from early on to think that something must be wrong with us if we don't want to join in on the playground dodgeball game or hopscotch. Those kids who chose to recharge their elementary school selves by picking wildflowers, reading quietly, or watching dodgeball from the sidelines were often coerced right back into the thick of grade school stimulation. As adults, many of u...

It can be easy once we are on the path to authenticity, to get excited about the progress we are making and then become frustrated that it is not coming together fast enough. We can become focused on setbacks rather than realizing that these challenges are part of the whole package leading to spiritual growth. #selfcompassion #selflove #selfacceptance #authenticity #resilience #mentalhealthday #in...

Those of us who grew up in an addicted and/or dysfunctional household often learned to judge ourselves without mercy. We became our own worst critics. This is because we grew up thinking and believing that we were not good enough. We then learned to turn these messages inward by seeking out evidence to confirm what we already believed to be true about ourselves. #ACOA #familyaddiction #addictionre...

Those of us who grew up in an addicted home more than likely became quite comfortable with deception. This may have been in the form of lies, cover-ups, inconsistency, or broken promises. Your family may have even instilled the importance of telling the truth as a virtue, leading to the concept of the truth losing its meaning entirely. The basic fact is that children learn from what they see and h...

Many of us who grew up in an addicted and/or dysfunctional home were forced to grow up too quickly, often not feeling like we were able to be a child. Children are like puppies, in that they are spontaneous and carefree. Spontaneity is also directly connected to one's ability to experience joy. When childhood is derailed by dysfunction, we are shaped in a way that is different from other children....