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In this episode I’m going to talk about “The Truth About Love”.  It’s amazing how those 4 little letters can cause us the greatest Joy and the deepest pain.   Love is something we’ve searched for, or continue to search for, our entire lives.  As a child, we longed for nothing more than to be Loved by our parents so we could feel “special” and to know that we mattered.  If that eluded us, we eventu...

In this episode I’m going to talk about “Unhealthy Behaviors and How to Unlearn them”.  If there is one thing we ever do in Life, I hope it’s this.  Unlearn unhealthy behaviors.   We don’t start out in life with unhealthy behaviors. They are simply “learned”.  Learned as a result of coping mechanisms we developed back in our childhood.  I’ve shared how the way I was raised created a “silence and c...

In this episode I’m going to talk about “Forgiving Yourself” especially after the ending of a bad relationship or marriage.  It’s the time when we tend to beat ourselves up the most.  “How could I have been so stupid?”  Looking back, we now see the red flags that we ignored.  Bu that’s the beauty of hindsight though, it’s always crystal clear.

In this episode I’m going to talk about “Overcoming Fear”.  Fear is something we have all experienced and the reasons vary but when it comes to narcissistic abuse, well, it can be absolutely paralyzing .  Fear is a very natural emotion.  It motivates us to either take flight or fight.  Fear warns you about danger and you will feel your body respond.  Your heart may start to race, you feel sick to...

In this episode I’m going to talk about “The Root of Rejection”.  This is a topic that unfortunately, we can ALL relate to.  Everyone, at some point in time in their life, has suffered rejection.   It is defined as dismissal, refusal, non-acceptance, declining, shutting out or the spurning of a person’s affections.  All of which are hurtful and detrimental.

In this episode I’m going to talk about “Is a Narcissist Ever Sorry?”  When you’ve spent years of your life with someone who has found pleasure in treating you like shit and you finally leave, you wonder “are they sorry for what they’ve done or do they simply just move on to the next person without blinking?”

In this episode I’m going to talk about “What the Narcissist is Afraid Of”.  We don’t always think of someone who is a narcissist as being afraid of anything especially since the persona they portray is mighty aggressive, however there is plenty that causes them tremendous fear.

In this episode I’m going to talk about “How a Narcissist Uses Guilt”.  Generally speaking any manipulative person will use this tactic but a narcissist, well, they take it to the next level.  In addition to their constant belittling comments, keeping you bound in “false” guilt is the perfect passive-aggressive game.  It allows them to remain the “victim” while you end up feeling “bad” (or shamefu...

Letting go of anything can be challenging especially when it comes to relationships.  It can be even more difficult when you’ve been living in a chaotic, toxic relationship for a long period of time.  The thought of it all suddenly going quiet can be a little overwhelming.  Letting go is finality and you have to mean it.

In this episode I’m going to talk about When a Narcissist Gaslights You.  Out of all the tactics they use, this is one of their favorite methods of manipulation.  It is very destructive for the victim.    According to Merriam-Webster’s dictionary the official definition of gaslighting is:  the psychological manipulation of a person usually over an extended period of time that causes the victim to...

One thing you can count on after the relationship has been dissolved with the narcissist, is they will always try to come back but not for the reasons you think.  They may try right after the break-up or it may be months or years down the road especially if they feel like they have a chance at playing on your heart strings.  They will always keep you on the “possible” supply list unless you’ve cut...

In this episode I’m going to talk about something that I believe everyone has felt at one time or another.  Although I’m speaking from a woman’s point of view, I’m sure men too have pondered the proverbial question,  Am I Enough ?  

Settling in a relationship is probably the last thing any of us wants to do and yet, we do it.  The words “don’t settle for less than what you deserve” ring through our head as we find ourselves giving reasons to justify the “stay”.  The reasons why we choose to stay longer than we should are many.  Although some of the reasons in a marriage may be slightly different than a romantic relationship,...

In this episode I’m going to talk about something I’ve personally struggled with a lot, forgiveness, especially when it comes to forgiving a Narcissist.  If you know anything about forgiveness it’s most likely because you’ve heard about it at some point in time in your life at church.  The message that was (and still is) preached is that we should forgive others because we have been forgiven.  But...

In this episode I’m going to talk about something that I feel is one of the most difficult things to experience, the Pain of Betrayal.  The violation of trust that comes from a betrayal is extremely difficult to overcome in any relationship, married or not.  I personally am a firm believer that once a cheater always a cheater, especially when dealing with a narcissist.  Give them an inch and they’...

In this episode I’m going to talk about something most of you have probably heard of but may not fully understand, “Emotional Triggers”.  Traumatic past experiences (or PTSD) are the root of what causes us to be triggered.  Those experiences could be from a variety of sources, but I’m going to talk about how it affects you as a narcissistic abuse survivor.

In this episode I’m going to talk about “Responding vs. Reacting to a narcissist”.  I cannot tell you how important this skill is to learn and to put into action.  It will not only make you a better communicator but it can be applied to many areas of your life, not just to disarm a narcissist.

In this episode I’m going to talk about going “No Contact” with the narcissist.  This is probably the most important skill you’ll need to learn when you end the abusive relationship with them.  It’s important for two reasons 1) You won’t be able to heal and move on without it and 2) If not enforced, you allow the narcissist to continue to torment you.

In this episode I’m going to talk about the Narcissist and the New Supply.  Are they really happier with them?  Oh how the narcissist would love for you to think so!

In this episode I’m going to talk about a common question we often ask ourselves after we’ve stepped out of a narcissistic abusive relationship. “Did the Narcissist Ever Love Me?”  

In this episode, I’ll be talking about “Rebuilding Your Self Esteem”.  Although there can be several reasons why our self-esteem has taken a heavy hit, I’m going to talk about how to rebuild it after it’s been decimated by narcissistic abuse.

In this episode, I’ll be talking about “Rebuilding Your Self Esteem”.  Although there can be several reasons why our self-esteem has taken a heavy hit, I’m going to talk about how to rebuild it after it’s been decimated by narcissistic abuse.

In this episode I’m going to share with you my experience “Divorcing a Narcissist”.  Although I can’t tell you what to do in your specific situation, I will offer you some things to think about if you are ready to take that leap and end your marriage.  

In this episode, I’ll be talking about “Discarding (Leaving) a Narcissist”.  While I’m not going to tell you how to discard a narcissist, I will be sharing what to expect when you do it first.  I like to think of this as taking out the trash.  You’ve finally decided you’re going to get rid of what you no longer need.

In this episode, I’ll be talking about the one question most of us in an abusive relationship have heard, “Why Don’t You Just Leave?”  Usually asked by a well-intended person who has never known abuse, it sounds pretty simple right?  Just leave.     IF ONLY it were that easy.