Dontbeacrumqueen

Hey Everyone, welcome to the Dontbeacrumqueen podcast.  So today, I want to talk about Boundaries….Healthy Boundaries.  Healthy Boundaries are important in ALL aspects of our life, not just romantic relationships.  They are important in the work place, within families and friends, and even in our hobbies.  Without them, it gives people “free reign” into your time, energy and your general well-bein...

Hey Everyone, welcome to the Dontbeacrumqueen podcast.   Today what I want to talk about is Attention is not Affection .  What a statement.  Do you misinterpret attention for affection ?  I know I did and it never turned out well.  As a matter of fact, it attracts toxic, low vibration energy people.   If this is something you think you do too, stick with me here as we talk about what attention loo...

Hey Everyone, welcome to the Dontbeacrumqueen podcast.   Today I want to talk about seeing the “Potential” in someone especially when it comes to relationships.  This is a topic that is very near and dear to my own heart because it’s something I’ve been guilty of in the past.  This mindset can be very dangerous and I don’t want you to get caught in it the way I did.

Hey Everyone, welcome to the Dontbeacrumqueen podcast.   Today I want to talk about Love Bombing.  This is a topic I’m pretty passionate about because I’ve lived it and I want others to be aware of it.  In my opinion, it is nothing short of destruction to your Soul. I like to call it “The Game of Seduction” or better yet a wicked web of toxic manipulation.  Identifying and understanding it will re...

Hey Everyone, welcome to the Dontbeacrumqueen podcast.   Today I want to talk about Waiting.  Ugh. Waiting is Hard.  It doesn’t matter if you are waiting on finding your special person or the right job or the right home or even healing with a health issue, Waiting is Hard.   For the purpose of this podcast though, I’m going to focus on Waiting when it comes to relationships, however, some of what...

Hey Everyone, welcome to the Dontbeacrumqueen podcast.   Having Self Respect is what I want to talk about today.   Why is it so important especially when it comes to relationships? Some will say it will protect you from toxic encounters or settling for less than you actually deserve.  While both of those thoughts may be true, how does one “arrive” to a place where they have respect for themselves...

Hey Everyone, welcome to the Dontbeacrumqueen podcast.   A word I’ve heard a lot of, especially in the dating/relationship world (and maybe you have too), is Standards.  Apparently, it’s very important to have them and hold fast to them.  But what exactly are they?

Today’s topic is Finding Your Peace.  This is not about me telling you how to find it but rather me simply sharing some of my own experiences in MY search for Peace. Whether they know it or not, there are so many people these days who are searching for Peace.  That place of quiet Contentment where INSIDE it feels calm, regardless of what’s going on around you.  In this day and age of busyness, it’...

Hey Everyone, welcome to the Dontbeacrumqueen podcast.   I have a question for you.  In the context of relationships, have you ever thought about whether you’re chasing or whether you’re attracting? Well, I have.  I’ve thought about it a lot and to be honest, there definitely have been times in my life when I was chasing.  It’s when I found myself wanting, more than anything, to be in a relationsh...

Hey Everyone, welcome to the Dontbeacrumqueen podcast.   Today I want to talk about relationships.  They certainly aren’t easy and ending them can prove to be very difficult especially when it comes to romantic ones. We get so deeply entangled and yet, we usually “know” when it’s not the right one for us.  Against our own intuition, we focus on the “potential” and spend months or even years hoping...

Hey Everyone, welcome to the Dontbeacrumqueen podcast.   Have you ever thought about the ways in which you seek validation?  Are you even aware that it’s something you do? As humans, we’re all designed to desire validation. At our core, we want to know that we are worthy, that we have value and that we are good.  While those things are very natural, WHERE we are looking for validation determines w...

Hey Everyone, welcome to the Dontbeacrumqueen podcast.   Today I wanted to talk about something that applies to not only those of us who are single but also to those of us who are in relationships, whether it be engaged, married or a romantic long-term commitment.

Hey Everyone, welcome to the Dontbeacrumqueen podcast.   So I’ve been thinking lately about this whole “single and wanting to meet someone” position many of us find ourselves in.   Those thoughts inspired some questions.   Why do we want to meet someone?  Why is it so important?  Is it pressure from society?  Are we just lonely?  Do we want financial stability from a partner?  What is the real rea...

Hey Everyone, welcome to the Dontbeacrumqueen podcast.   Have you ever met someone and felt like you knew they weren’t the “right” person for you but you were drawn to them anyhow because it felt good?  Deep inside you sensed it wasn’t healthy or it wasn’t going to end well but you couldn’t pull yourself away.  Maybe you’ve met that person that felt “wrong” because they weren’t your type or the dy...

Hey Everyone, welcome to the Dontbeacrumqueen podcast.   So as I’ve been reflecting back on my own Life experiences, one thing I’ve become aware of are the times when I allowed myself to “dim my Light” so the person I was with could feel better about themselves. This can happen in families, friendships, business or even romantic relationships. What does it mean to “dim your Light?” 

Life can really deal us some heavy blows when it comes to pain.  It can come in the form of loss, abandonment, rejection, or even disappointment on how Life has turned out. We ALL have stories to tell about how our hearts were broken.  For some it may have been by their parents.  For others it was siblings, friends, spouses, or romantic partners.  The reality is we cannot escape pain, BUT, we can...

Welcome to the Dontbeacrumqueen podcast.  My name is Sher and I’m your host. Love bombing.  Whether you’ve experienced it or not, most of you have probably heard the term especially as it relates to a narcissist.   Although it was a term I was familiar with I had not experienced it….until I did, and now I know.

Welcome to the Dontbeacrumqueen podcast.  My name is Sher and I'm your host.   Today, I want to talk about confidence. We’ve all met them, men and women who exude confidence and walk with such purpose.  When you are around them, you can’t help but be drawn to them.  You sense they have something you want but how do you get it?  

So, I’ve been thinking a lot lately about the word Love or even the words “I Love You” and what they mean.  We all have a different interpretation and it is largely colored by what we did or did not receive growing up.  There are also different kinds of love.  Love for a parent, sibling or family member.  Love for a friend or even a platonic love within a relationship.  None of those are bad, they...

I’ve been thinking a lot about relationships lately and how they affect us, whether that’s good or bad. As human beings, I believe we were created to want and enjoy relationships with others.  Relationships are places where we hope to find Everlasting Love, Comfort, Peace, Joy and Acceptance.  However, more often than not, what we find is that relationships are more like sandpaper.  Smoothing out...

I wanted to talk today about the story we tell ourselves.  Each one of us has a story and each one of us can absolutely REWRITE the narrative of our story.   For a lot of us, the stories we’ve held onto began back in childhood.  We heard (or felt) things like we weren’t attractive enough, we were too fat or too skinny, or we weren’t the sharpest tool in the shed.  You fill in the blank.  The thing...

Welcome to the Dontbeacrumqueen podcast.  My name is Sher and I’m your host. I’ve been thinking lately about the phrase “Purpose in the Pain” and how Life changing it can be if we see our experiences through that lens. Living in this world of ours means at some point in our Life, we will ALL experience some level of pain, loss, or heartache.  I’m sure if we could choose NOT to go through any of th...

I’ve been thinking a lot lately about the cycles we tend to repeat especially when it comes to relationships.  I guess it’s because I myself have been enlightened through my own experiences to see how I was repeating patterns in romantic relationships.   

Today I wanted to share some thoughts regarding manipulation when it comes to relationships.  This is something near and dear to my heart, probably because I’ve personally experienced it (in two completely different ways) in my past relationships. When it comes to manipulation, no one really likes to admit it’s happening to them, especially when it comes to a romantic partner.  We like to believe...

Welcome to the Dontbeacrumqueen podcast.  My name is Sher and I’m your host.  Whether you want to admit it or not, we all have patterns of behaviors that we established back in our childhood to survive the environment we were living in no matter how good or bad our experiences were.  We ALL played a role in our families growing up.  Problems arise, however, when we enter into relationships and the...