Dontbeacrumqueen

I think we can probably all agree that relationships take work.  When you're in the right one, it's probably easier and when you're in the wrong one, it's more challenging.

In this episode I share with you my own thoughts about "familiarity" in a relationship after an abusive one as I reflect on my life in 2023.

Welcome to the Dontbeacrumqueen podcast.  My name is Sher and I’m your host. All of us are in some sort of relationship today.  Whether it is with friends, family, spouse or a romantic relationship any of them can come to an end.  When that happens, we all want some level of closure.  If you were in a relationship where you were both mature, healthy adults, having closure means you each accept the...

Welcome to the Dontbeacrumqueen podcast.  My name is Sher and I’m your host. In a world where challenges seem to be a daily occurrence, there’s a time when “Being the Bigger Person” or as some people say “Taking the High Road” is valuable, especially when dealing with difficult or toxic people.

Welcome to the Dontbeacrumqueen podcast.  My name is Sher and I’m your host. Trusting your intuition sounds like it should be an easy thing to do but unfortunately that’s not always the case, especially when it comes to relationships and our emotions are involved.  Lines get blurred and we mistake our fears for our intuition.   So, how can you learn to really “trust your gut” and discern the diffe...

Welcome to the Dontbeacrumqueen podcast.  My name is Sher and I’m your host. Loving yourself enough to put yourself first.  Well if that isn’t something we’ve heard our whole life, how it is incredibly selfish to do.  Not only is that an untrue statement but it is imperative for us to do so.  

Standing up for yourself.  What an awesome concept, right?  Easy?  Not really.  Uncomfortable, yes!  Something you can learn?  Absolutely. Despite common beliefs, standing up for yourself does NOT mean you’re a bitch.  Quite the contrary.  It means you’ve arrived at this place in Life where you know who you are and what you’ll tolerate from others in the way that they treat you.  You’ve realized y...

Today I want to chat about being with the right person for YOU in a relationship.  I don’t know about you but I have several people in my life who are with someone and find themselves wondering if they’re really with the right person for them. I think the majority of people who are in relationships are looking for a life partner.  Sure, you are going to run into people who are serial daters and ha...

In this episode, I want to share some thoughts with you on what a “Healthy vs. Unhealthy” relationship looks like.  I’m pretty sure none of us are in a relationship because we want a bad one but unfortunately sometimes that’s where we find ourselves.  So how can you make sure you don’t end up there? You know the statement “We attract what we are”?  Well, there’s validity to it.

In this episode, I’m going to share my thoughts on why I believe “You Can’t Fix Anyone”.  Many of us enter a relationship with the thought (whether consciously or subconsciously) that we can fix certain things about a person.  While I DO believe that we can inspire people, we simply don’t have the power to change anyone.  Believing that you can blinds you to what is staring you right in the face,...

In this episode, I’m going to talk about how “Toxicity Takes a Toll” especially when it comes to relationships.  However, it also applies to a toxic work environment, a family household or even a friendship. So, how do you know when something is toxic?  

In this episode, I’m going to talk about how “Red Flags Don’t Lie”.  If you’ve ever been in a relationship, especially one that ends up being abusive, you no doubt felt a check in your gut at some point because of behavior that felt “off”.  They are called red flags and they don’t lie.

In this episode, I’m going to talk about how to remember that “YOU Matter”.  It’s not always easy in this world of ours to feel like we do; matter that is.  We get lost in relationships, responsibilities and caring for others more than we care for ourselves.  We are left wondering if we are contributing at all to this great thing we call Life. 

Welcome to the Dontbeacrumbqueen podcast.  My name is Sher and I’m your host. In this episode, I’m going to talk about “Manipulators and Why We Attract Them”.  If you’ve ever been in a dysfunctional, abusive or toxic relationship there is a reason why this type of person was attracted to you.  They are emotional manipulators. So why do we attract these emotional manipulators?   

In this episode, I’m going to talk about “Choosing From a Place of Fear”.  How many of us, myself included, have made decisions based on fear?  Whether we admit it or not, we tend to choose the path that is most comfortable or familiar.  And yet, some of the most profound changes in our lives come from the decisions we make when we don’t allow fear to reign.  

Welcome to the Dontbeacrumbqueen podcast.  My name is Sher and I’m your host. In this episode, I’m going to talk about “Facing Old Wounds Head On” especially when it comes to relationships.  We’ve ALL been wounded but HOW you deal with those wounds is what will impact your life going forward.    Most of our wounds stem from childhood, past trauma and abusive broken relationships.  When we get hurt...

Welcome to the Dontbeacrumbqueen podcast.  My name is Sher and I’m your host. In this episode, I’m going to talk about “The Cost of Keeping the Peace” when it comes to relationships.  Enduring a toxic abusive relationship for any period of time, whether it is a personal one or even a business one, always comes with a price and unfortunately, YOU are the one who pays it.

In this episode, I’m going to talk about “Codependent Relationships”.  Being codependent can affect all types of relationships but I’m going to share with you what a codependent romantic relationship looks like whether you are married, living together or just dating.

In this episode, I’m going to talk about “What We Tolerate in the Name of Love”.  Love is probably one of the most misused and romanticized words when it comes to relationships.  Regardless of whether someone is in a mediocre relationship or a toxic, abusive one, if you ask why them why they are staying the answer is always the same…because I love them…or do we?  It’s a question I personally was c...

In this episode, I’m going to talk about “Healthy Communication in Relationships”.  It doesn’t matter if it’s a family member, a spouse, q co-worker or q friend, learning how to communicate effectively is the KEY to living a drama free life when it comes to relationships.  Whether we know it or not, we all have a “style” when it comes to communication.  That “style” has no doubt been influenced by...

Welcome to the Dontbeacrumbqueen podcast.  My name is Sher and I’m your host.  In this episode, I’m going to talk about “Trusting Yourself Again”.  This is a tough one.  It was a tough one for me personally so I hope you find this helpful.  Whether you’ve just come out of a narcissistic abusive relationship, or even if you’re still having to deal with one, learning how to trust again is the challe...

Welcome to the Dontbeacrumbqueen podcast.  My name is Sher and I’m your host. In this episode, I’m going to talk about “Attracting the Wrong Person”.  We’ve all been there at some point in our lives when we look back at our failed relationships and, whether we want to admit it or not, we start to see a pattern.  Why do we keep getting involved with the wrong type of person?

Welcome to the Dontbeacrumbqueen podcast.  My name is Sher and I’m your host. In this episode, I’m going to talk about “Being Alone and Being OK”.  There are several reasons why we find ourselves alone.  For some, it’s a choice and for others it’s where they’ve currently found themselves.  No matter the reason, being alone is actually not a bad thing.  It can be a Blessing in disguise.  If you hav...

In this episode, I’m going to talk about “When Relationships Fail”.  Although we have many different kinds of relationships in our life, the break-ups I’m referring to are those that involve the heart.  It doesn’t matter if it was a romantic relationship or a marriage, it hurts when it ends.

In this episode, I’m going to talk about “The Power of Your Thoughts”.  The mind is a VERY powerful thing.  It can become a toxic wasteland or a sea of encouragement and strength.  We determine the outcome by what we allow through our thoughts.  It’s true what they say, you ARE what you THINK.