Divorce Your Story Podcast

When it comes to celebrities, many from afar live vicariously through them in terms of their money, talent, beauty and social status. This can easily create a perception that based on the curated view of what is being seen, that they have it all which also creates a false reality that their lives represents a life of perfection. When celebrity couples split, it becomes "headline news" with many op...

When you hear things such as: You need to heal OR You need to do your inner work You could be left to wonder "What does that mean?", "What does that look like for me?" And when you're unsure on what it means, it becomes ignored due to the lack of understanding on why this is necessary and how it can enhance your quality of life. Although everyone's journey of doing their own inner work looks diffe...

When a relationship is considered to be "unhealthy" the misunderstanding is that once you depart: You fall out of love The emotions are gone Thoughts of them fade When in fact the emotions and thoughts can become more intense.  You can also find yourself feeling sorry for them which creates a since of guilt for leaving because when you're in dynamics such as these, you may actually feel respo...

When it comes to relationships, you're often told to "never give up" or "persevere" or "stay and fight" ....but is there a time where it may be in the best interest for both individuals to intelligently decide that continuing this relationship isn't the wise thing to do? Ending relationships can get such a bad rap. Most importantly, it can create a narrative that you're a "failure" because you did...

When it comes to "healing" from a previous relationship, questions such as: "How long will this take?" "Will I ever get through this?" "When will I feel better?" Are asked, however the answer can also be complicated. The truth is, everyone's process is unique and different, however, there are signs that can help you identify if you've made strides towards your journey. On this week's podcast, &nbs...

Breaking up can be so hard to do that attempting to maintain a friendship sounds civil to help lesson the pain. However, is it good for your quality of life when attempting to do this? Oftentimes, people attempt to preserve a friendship because of support (physical, emotional, and/or financial), guilt, and/or hopes of rekindling. Whatever the reason is, it's essential to get clear on the underlyin...

Welcome to our new updated podcast "Purposely Thriving". We've decided to pivot in a direction that still focuses on divorce and relationship dissolution, however it's important that we give information and insight that speaks from a place of being intentional on thriving in your next chapter. On this week's podcast, join me as I talk about why this change was needed and what to expect going forwa...

It's so easy to look at others that we know and love and be proud of them....however, when it comes to your own acknowledgements, do you carve out intentional time just to see that within you? When you're in a challenging season, there's an urgency to put it behind, however, it's also important to develop an appreciation for your progress as well. Doing so increases your mental and emotional healt...

Acceptance is one of the most courageous but challenging stages of grief that a person can experience when dissolving a relationship. Acceptance takes self-awareness, vulnerability, honesty, and resiliency to release the life that we once had and hoped for and walking into a new life of the unknown. How does one get to acceptance all while being hopeful for a better life ahead? On this week's podc...

When you're attempting to make sense of the dissolution of your relationship...one of the questions you could be asking yourself is "Why were they unable to see my value and efforts?" That question will keep you in an endless loop to find an answer, question yourself, and believe that they're inability to see your worth makes you unworthy.... Before you know it, you're connecting the way you view...

When you keep asking yourself questions such as: Why do I keep getting hurt? Why is this always happening to me? How is it that I'm a good person but always get the short end? Then the most important thing is to get into some conscious awareness. Overtime, when place in non-mutual relationships, you risk repeating the same pattern to even compromising your self-confidence, self-worth and self-resp...

How loyal are you to your past? The past is not always "left behind" ...oftentimes, it can travel with you therefore developing inaccurate truths and narratives about who you are, whose you are, and how far you can go. How freeing would it be to decommit yourself from what has taken place in your life and recommit yourself to a new one? On this week's podcast episode, join me as I discuss why this...

Ending a relationship can have you questioning your self worth. You may find yourself with questions and/or statements such as: What's wrong with me Why wasn't I enough? What could I have done differently? I gave everything into this relationship and it still wasn't enough What does the other person have that I don't Which is turn results in feelings of Rejection Unworthiness Not thinking you're a...

There's this misconception that when the relationship is over, all feelings are gone when that's hardly even the case. This can cause a person to believe that missing them is a sign to return back to a relationship that they may need to stay away from. The truth is you will miss them and you may still love them because that's a part of the healing process however that doesn't mean you should go ba...

Let's talk food...specifically your personal relationship with food & what does that relationship currently consists of. And this is much deeper than just weight loss, counting calories, the numbers on the scale, eating healthier, what to eat/what not to eat, and working out. This is more about identifying and being aware of our behaviors, perceptions,  triggers, emotions and mindsets aro...

Divorces/Breakups hurt, however, what perception has been developed from this experience? What story are you constantly rehearsing, rehashing and replaying in your head and heart?  One thing many overlook when relationships dissolve is developing a new plan. It's easy to become powerless after something doesn't work out and/or go as expected. We're in the 2nd half of the year and you don't ne...

One of many challenges when dissolving a relationship is adjusting in ways that will help you heal forward… I find that some people make themselves “too available” even though it’s over: They’re still “one phone” call away They still treat their ex like a husband and/or partner They still “check in” on them And even though the reasons can sound “valid”...it actually confuses you rather than heal y...

Here's a unpopular truth: No relationship is guaranteed however when you're not on the same page in terms of wanting commitment, then you must be mindful on giving that person your time. When you tend to entertain people where you're not in alignment with, you can not only cause your own pain, but also spend countless years and/or even decades in something that should've been dissolved a long time...

When you're in a cycle of "break up to make up", not only does it bring relationship dissatisfaction but it also brings psychological distress such as depression and/or anxiety. Chances are, there's a hope that it will change or that it will get better but the probability of this dynamic will never change! On this week's podcast episode, join me as I discuss this relationship dynamic as well as th...

When you've displayed support, unconditional love, and a 110% effort in a relationship and it didn't work out, one of the most challenging things is not questioning your value. When we become attached to the outcome and it didn't come out as expected, you may be in season of asking yourself questions such as: What did I do wrong? What's wrong with me? Why weren't they able to see my value? Only to...

There are many conversations around heartbreaks from others but what about the heartbreak that a person could be doing to themselves?  Could a person unconsciously be self-sabotaging themselves on who they can become, what they can have, and the kind of life they could design once the relationship has ended. On this week's podcast, join me as I discuss three things on how you could be breakin...

Dissolving a relationship with someone who's a narcissist can leave a person feeling powerless, drained, emotionally intoxicated and mentally confused. These relationship dynamics aren't your typical relationship structure. It's filled with control, disrespect, lack of empathy, and manipulation. By the time someone exits out of relationships such as these, long term effects such as anxiety, depres...

According to the CDC, 2 out of every 3 caregivers in the U.S. are women, meaning that they provide daily or regular support to children, adults, or people with chronic illnesses or disabilities which can result in neglecting their #1 priority and that is their health. Chronic diseases and conditions—such as heart disease, cancer and diabetes—are the leading causes of death for women not to mention...

Studies indicate that a person's mental health can be impacted when faced with any form of a challenge in life. Losing/Ending a relationship can be a challenge and can have some level of impact on a person's mental health. From the children, finances, families, friends, time, and memories, these are all things that will pivot differently once a relationship dissolves. Discounting and being dismiss...

When relationships dissolve, "trust" is of the most fragile things that needs to strengthen. From betrayal, manipulation, to even disregarding your needs for the relationship, this will compromise not only trust with others, but most importantly...trust within yourself. On this week's podcast episode, join me as I discuss four things that you must honor to cultivate self-trust in your next chapter...