Divorce Your Story Podcast

In many cases, we are not taught how to intentionally move forward after a breakup, even though relationships commonly come to an end. The way the dissolution of relationships is often viewed can be problematic, as it may not be recognized as a difficulty, setback, or hardship. This can result in negative consequences, such as being left to figure things out alone, using a rebound relationship as...

When you're always living in a state of believing that something external must take place in order to have joy, then you're merely going through the motions instead of living a fulfilled life. Overtime this leads to a life that lacks meaning and purpose, missed opportunities to create memories and connections, and your mental/emotional wellbeing gets compromised. When you become completely...

Forgiving your ex can be a difficult but important step in moving on from the past and finding peace within yourself. Oftentimes, forgiveness can seem pressured, forced, or even rushed where a person doesn't make the choice themselves, they suppress their emotions to even minimizing and ignoring the hurt and pain. Studies have shown that not forgiving can prevent you from moving forward, compr...

Being "loyal" is often a word that many use to define an important quality that people should have however, when "loyalty" becomes the unconditional exchange at the expense of one's own detriment, has the word lost it's true meaning? Has the expectation of this word become so misused and manipulated where "being loyal" should be at a fault regardless of treatm...

When it comes to dissolving a relationship, a person can easily switch into a state of what looks as protection only be less receiving, less attentive to themselves, as well as the belief that they have to do it all! This approach is normally praised and glorified however, what does it do to a woman and her ability to just "be". The word femininity in pertaining to womanhood has been a c...

The ability to "do it all" has been the expectation and standard for black women for generations. This unhealthy characteristic of attempting to "have it all together" is a bondage mechanism for women to look and appear to be perfect. Underneath this covering of what many would perceive as strength, lies a woman who suppresses her emotions, neglects her self-care, unwilling to...

Being a parent is one the most self-sacrificial jobs to have however, when it comes to the daily duties and obligations of single parents, the responsibilities are much different. When it comes to being a single mom, there's a lot of conversation that holds a stigma that creates shame, negative stereotypes, and judgement around the structure and circumstances of kids being raised in a one parent h...

The need to be accepted, approved and received can cause a person to dishonor themselves where they disregard their own worth. It's often said that a woman should know and recognize her worth, however with the heavy influences on cultural expectations, being faultless and flawless in every role they play, to even being told a lie about the truth of who you are your entire life, how could anyone ho...

As women, no matter the role or position you're called to fill...we celebrate you! From our mothers, our sisters, our leaders, our educators, those in healthcare, to entrepreneurship, athletics, politics, etc...your role matters! The month of March is observed for acknowledging the courage and contributions that women (past to present) have made to pave the way for other women today. Understanding...

One of the hardest challenges sometimes as a parent is seeing your child grow up. They start to develop interests in things that as parents we may not always be prepared and ready for and one of those areas is dating. Whether we want to accept this part of our teen or not, dating matters and it's important to them. Dismissing it, minimizing it, and believing that because they're "too young to know...

According to statistics, the likelihood of divorce increases in 2nd and 3rd time marriages. When marriages dissolve, one thing that can shift is the conditioning of your heart. Based on the impact of what took place, it can fill a person's heart with pain, sadness, coldness, apathy and hurt with little to no courage to give marriage another chance. They may wonder: "Is it worth the risk?" "Would i...

When it comes to "being single" it's often looked at in a lens to define a person's worth and existence. From relationship experts, culture, religious organizations, to even family and friends, everyone has an opinion on why you're single as a way for you to question everything about yourself. This unhealthy approach to a person's relationship status can often leave feelings of shame where it caus...

Dissolving a marital or non marital relationship can leave an impact that influences you to make decisions that could not be in your best interest. Moving forward must be "done on purpose" and in order to be intentional about the direction of our destination, it's important to clear on your current decisions and decide whether or not if these decisions are hurting you or helping you? On this week’...

The experience of dissolving a marriage or a major relationship is the impact that it has on you in terms of: How you view yourself How you see others How you see the world How you live your life going forward. A false perception can develop within that prevents you from making decisions due to a person's current belief that they don't have other options. There's extreme power in knowing that you...

When being in bondage due to past experiences, it makes a person a prisoner of moving forward. ‎ Forgiveness is a topic that gets discuss often when it comes to others and their mistakes and ‎shortcomings…however, while it’s freeing to fully forgive others, what quality of life can someone ‎obtain if they fully forgave themselves?‎ What new beliefs will they develop?‎ What opportunities will they...

Setting yourself up to win is not something that just happens by chance, it happens with intention! When marriages dissolve, you need to rally an effective team that will be a huge asset to help you navigate this process in a way that saves you time, money, energy and stress. On this week’s podcast, join me as I give my top four trusted advisors that will be helpful on your journey. Order my book:...

One of the most popular things that takes place in January are divorces/breakups. When the “New Year” comes around, the decision to exit out of a relationship is very common due to self-reflection of the overall dynamics and the refusal to enter another year encountering the same unhealthy cycle. Even though the beginning of the year is often looked at as a “clean slate” to dissolve relationships...

When your thoughts and feelings about the pain you feel becomes minimized and ignored, it's often looked at as "strong" when in reality it turns into internal suffering. Those unspoken words, the fear of being vulnerable, not wanting to be judged, and the pressure to always be "fine" turns into silent and secret battles that you feel left alone to fight. No matter how "strong" a person appears to...

The indecision to dissolve a marriage can take years (or even decades) for a person to decide no matter what the environment at home consists of. From time invested, constant effort, honoring your vows, disrupting normalcy, financial comfort, and changing the family structure....one may struggle in having the confidence to believe that they made the right decision to dissolve the marriage. Many ma...

The attitude that a person should just be grateful even in difficult times can become burdensome due to the current conditions that they're in. When a person is "forcing" themselves to just be grateful it strips away the genuineness of it's authentic purpose. Does this indicate to not be grateful? of course not! However, in displaying gratitude even in seasons of difficulty, the trade off shouldn'...

The holiday season is here and for many this time of year can bring emotions of sadness, loneliness, stress and even seasonal depression. When relationships dissolves, so much gets altered such as finances, your time with the kids, to even the change of normal holiday traditions. How can person manage this holiday season intelligently all while making the best of it? On this week's podcast episode...

From feeling betrayed, embarrassed, humiliated, and angry ...these are feelings that occur when someone breaks a trust that was shared. "Moving On" is more than just leaving physically, it's a move that must be made mentally and emotionally. How does a person "move on" from someone who performed a act of stepping out on them? On this week's podcast, join me as I give three things you must do to be...

What's very challenging in many relational dynamics is maintaining your unique identity and personal integrity all while forming a interdependent relationship. "Feeling Lost" is natural, common and valid once a relationship has dissolved. Your sense of self may have become distorted where it almost seems like you're going through an self-identity crisis. Transitioning from being attached to now be...

Perimenopause/Menopause is a topic where many lack the understanding on the impact that this stage can have in a person's relationship/marriage and their livelihood. Symptoms such as anxiety, depression, disrupted sleep, energy fatigue, and mood changes are different behaviors that could put a strain on your relationship where divorce and/or breakups becomes the next step. On this week's podcast,...

Your ex isn't your competition. What does this mean? It means that whatever they choose to do or don't do shouldn't determine what you need to do for yourself. If they decided to jump into another relationship quickly does that mean you should? Because they choose to not take a designated season to work within does that mean you shouldn't? Contrary to what many believe, your ex isn't and shouldn't...