Divorce University Online

Welcome to Episode 26 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. In Episode 26, The Shot Heard 'Round the World, we talk about how an aggressive stance is a recipe for heartache and expense in any divorce case. A conflict of interest exists for an attorney in any divorce case because the more conflict there is, the more money they make. How well do you know your attorney and understand what motivat...

Welcome to Episode 25 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. In Episode 25, Step-Parenting, Family Life's Most Thankless Gig we talk about the difficulty of incorporating new mates into a divorced family. We share some of our own experiences and discuss common questions. How much authority should your new mate have with the kids? How do you get the kids and your ex-spouse on board with the new...

Welcome to Episode 24 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. In Episode 24, Communication 201 - Examples of Effective Communication we dive into concrete examples of communication between coparents and explain how we would revise the communication and why we recommend the changes. These examples are designed to help you model your own communication and create more cooperative and peaceful commu...

Welcome to Episode 23 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. In Episode 23 we discuss "Communication, A Vital Co-Parenting Skill". Are you wearing the black or white hat in your custody case? In this episode, we discuss how to eliminate conflict, defensiveness, and how to let your ex "be the crazy one". We'll also dive into ways you can get the parenting schedule you really want! For more infor...

Welcome to Episode 22 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. In Episode 22 we discuss "Care and Feeding of Attorneys" Of course, you want to get as much value as you can from you attorney by leveraging their knowledge and expertise, but how? Join us as we discuss shoeboxes, developing a plan, and taking charge of your case. We'll also dive into ways you can help your attorney help you!  For mor...

Welcome to Episode 21 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. In Episode 21 we discuss "How Much Does All of This Really Cost?" Obviously, divorce is a financial disaster for almost everyone and concerns about how much more cost will be involved in the divorce process itself, is a very common question. We'll will discuss the different methods of moving through divorce including self-representati...

Welcome to Episode 20 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. In Episode 20 we talk about child custody from the point of view of the child, and how these conflict and court battles can affect your child. We also go into detail about how you can shield your child from these conflicts and why it is important to do so. Listen in to understand more about how this process can affect your child and h...

Welcome to Episode 19 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. In Episode 19, I'm Restrained from seeing My Children, How Can I Get My Kids Back?, We talk about being in one of the most difficult situations a parent can be in, and that is not being able to see their children. We talk you through one of the most important factors of pulling the case back to your side, and that is staying calm. For...

  Welcome to Episode 18 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. In Episode 18, Are Your Emotions Causing You to Lose Your Case? We talk about how your emotions can take control of your case and cost you time and money spent in the court room. We also talk about how it may affect a judges decision making on your case. Tune in to learn how to avoid mistakes when dealing with emotions. For more inf...

Welcome to Episode 17 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. In Episode 17, Men Are Narcissist, Women Are Borderline. In this Episode we discuss the prevalence of personality disorders in divorce and how having a spouse with a personality disorder impacts the divorce process and outcomes. For more information please visit us a divorceuniversityonline.com. Thank you for listening!

  Welcome to Episode 16 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. In Episode 16, Help, My Spouse is Having an Affair!, What Should I Do? We talk about the best strategies to impose when you find out that your spouse is having an affair. It is vital to the outcome of this situation that you react in an appropriate manner for the sake of the children and the outcome of your marriage. For more inform...

Welcome to Episode 15 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. In Episode 15, How to Be Nice When You Don't Want To, we have discussed why being nice and staying civil is healthy for your case and your children. In this episode we discuss tactics on how to keep this premise, regardless of how your ex may act towards you. Keeping your head on straight is one of the most important factors in court...

Welcome to Episode 14 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. In Episode 14, Preparing Financial Issues Part Four - Why Calculating Spousal Support is Like Trying to Nail Jello to the Wall. Spousal Support (or Alimony) is by far the most difficult aspect to settle in almost every case. Spousal support is complicated and the Court has a lot of discretion. Spousal support in California is based on...

Welcome to Episode 13 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. In Episode 13, Preparing Financial Issues Part Three – Getting and Enforcing Child Support, we talk about the underlying lawsuit, the necessity of a motion, and many other factors that go into how much is paid, and how to collect it from a spouse that may not be willing to pay. For more information please visit us a divorceuniversityo...

Welcome to Episode 12 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. In Episode 12, Preparing Financial Issues Part Two – Support of Minor Children. In this episode we discuss the two main factors used to calculate guideline child support in California, what the purpose of child support is (i.e. what it covers) and how to deal with child support arrears. For more information please visit us a divorceun...

Welcome to a special Thanksgiving Episode of the Divorce University Online Podcast. In this Episode, Thanksgiving - Family American Style, we discuss the difficulty of holidays for divorcing parties and how our Thanksgiving unfolds 12 years post-divorce. We discuss creating new traditions and let you in on who the guests will be in our home, which may surprise you! Happy Thanksgiving! For more inf...

Welcome to Episode 11 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. In Episode 11, Preparing Financial Issues Part One – What Are the Issues? Finances are a very complex issue in divorce and is a very common point of conflict in divorcing couples. We help you understand all of what is considered part of the community finances and how to divide this between the two parties. For more information please...

Welcome to Episode 10 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. In Episode 10, Motions Part Two – How to Write a Declaration Supporting Your Motion. Motions part two dives into writing your declarations. There are very specific processes for submitting evidence, and often people are confused on what solid evidence is. We go in depth from beginning to end on what a solid declaration looks like.  Fo...

Welcome to Episode 9 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. In Episode 9, Motions Part One – How to Get Temporary Orders, many people are confused by the court process, and the paperwork can be overwhelming. In this episode we go into detail about getting temporary orders, from the paperwork, to the courtroom. For more information please visit us at divorceuniversityonline.com. Thank you for wa...

Welcome to Episode 8 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. In Episode 8, The Emotional Aspects of the Divorce versus the Lawsuit, we pull apart the two aspects of divorce and break them down. You cannot have one without the other, and often the emotional side tends to ruin many peoples' chances at the lawsuit side. For more information please visit us at divorceuniversityonline.com. Thank you...

Welcome to Episode 7 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. In Episode 7, Avoiding the Battle – How to Announce That You Want a Divorce, we discuss how to introduce the idea of divorce to your spouse with as little conflict as possible. This announcement is a crucial step in getting your spouse into mediation and staying out of the expensive and high conflict wheel of the court. For more inform...

Welcome to Episode 6 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. In Episode 6, Don't Let Your Ex Rent Space In Your Head. In this episode we talk about the biggest mistake that most people make going through the divorce process. Focusing on your ex post pones your post-divorce life and causes a lot of anger and bitterness. We teach you strategies to kick them out of your head. For more information p...

  Welcome to Episode 5 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. In Episode 5, Will Divorce Mediation Work for Me? We discuss why court and the litigation process is a bad option for majority of people. Most people tend to think that mediation will not work because they cannot get along, however mediation is designed to help arguing couples come to agreements, and help you get through this process...

Welcome to Episode 4 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. In Episode 4, Why Thinking About Child Custody Will Hurt Your Case, we talk about having the wrong mindset when it comes to thinking about your child custody case. We help you to understand how the courts generally look at things, and give you tips on what questions you should and shouldn't be asking. In many cases, it is simply phrasi...

Welcome to Episode 3 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. In Episode 3, You Don't Know What You Don't Know, we talk about the pitfalls of trying to represent yourself in family court. We'll discuss the complexity of the court system, the forms, local rules, and last but not least, unrealistic expectations, that can be the downfall for any unprepared self-represented party. We also dive into h...