Divorce University Online

Presenting Documents to Win in Child Custody Court  – Episode 150 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. Understanding how to present evidence to the Court is where we see many self-represented people struggle. There are rules for what can present when you can present it, and how you must present it. In this episode, we'll give you a few simple guidelines that will help you present your case li...

Perjury, Contempt & Enforcement  –  Episode 149 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. The first thing we often hear from clients is that the other party's statement to the Court is "full of lies". Then we get questions about the other party getting in trouble for perjury. Contempt is another big question. Isn't my ex going to be held in contempt for not following Court orders? And if they don'...

Think Like Your Judge to Win in Child Custody Court  – Episode 148 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. Is your Child Custody case the type that judges dream about or is it the opposite, a nightmare they can't seem to wake from? If you like many people, you and your Judge are caught in this nightmare. To succeed in Court, you do not want to do "more of the same", in other words, you don't wan...

Get Coached Up to Defend Your Domestic Violence Case  – Episode 147 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. Domestic Violence cases are serious business and expensive business. If you are trying to defend yourself in a DV situation and you can't afford an attorney, a little coaching can go a long way without breaking the bank. There are strategies that can help you attack the other person's cred...

Be Positive in Child Custody Court  – Episode 146 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. Many parents make the mistake of focusing on attacking the other parent in court. When in fact, the most effective approach you can take is to focus on the positive aspects of your relationship with your child(ren). The Court wants to you to cooperate and want you to support the other parent. This is the op...

Who Is Responsible for You?  – Episode 145 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. Who is responsible for you? Who is responsible for your relationship? And what happens when the person you have relied on so heavily fails you? In order to move forward, you've got to take inventory of where you're at. For more information, please visit us at divorceuniversityonline.com. Thanks for listening!

Is Divorce Worth the Wreckage?  – Episode 144 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. Have you ever heard the old joke? Why is divorce so expensive? Because it's worth it! But seriously, the financial cost is only the beginning. The mental and emotional stress can be overwhelming for both you and your children. So, how do you know if it's the right choice? In today's episode, we'll give you some...

When to Stop Negotiating  – Episode 143 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. You know we are big advocates for settling your case and moving on with life. But what do you do when you have someone who just isn't negotiating in good faith? Who argues about every last detail? And who always wants you to give more no matter what options you offer them? We discuss all this and more in today's epis...

Parental Alienation – Is it their fault or yours?  – Episode 142 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. Accusations of parental alienation are frequently thrown around in Family Court. And while, it does occasionally happen, in many cases, the non-custodial parent could have done many things to reduce the chances of their children being alienated by the other parent. This episode contains a lit...

Swallowing Your Pride  – Episode 141 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. The breakdown of your family and the subsequent court process is nothing if not humbling. But many people make the mistake of letting their pride get the better of them and it often is a significant factor when you lose in Court. So, do you want to be right or do you want to be happy? We'll explore this question and mor...

Where Will You Be in 5 Years? – Episode 140 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. This is a question we often see asked in job interviews or in self-development environments. And, how can you use this wisdom in your divorce or separation to help guide you to better decisions? Future focus is the lens through which we create our post-divorce life. We break it down for you in this episode. For m...

Should I Stay or Should I Go? – Episode 139 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. Almost all of us struggle with the decision to divorce. Often, it takes years to make the decision and even after it's made, we wonder if they did the right thing. But there are patterns in certain relationships that cause more harm than good. Join us as we discuss three of the common scenarios we see and how ide...

Financial Security After Divorce – Episode 138 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. Financial hardship is a struggle almost everyone has after divorce. But there are six simple rules for solving many of these struggles if you're willing to put in the work. It won't be easy but it will be worth it. Let's dive in and start building that secure future for you and your family. For more informatio...

Co-Parenting Chaos – Episode 137 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. Many times co-parents have trouble achieving peace in their relationship, especially the first couple of years after the split. And yet, studies show conflict is the worst thing for your children. And, if you're dealing with an unstable co-parent that peace can seem totally elusive. But, believe us, it only takes one parent...

Self Focus vs. Ex Focus – Episode 136 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. During a divorce, it's so important for us to practice self-care and to focus on ourselves, sometimes for the first time in a long time. But many of us get caught in the trap of being hyper-focused on everything our ex is or isn't doing. So, how do you break the trap? Join us as we discuss the difference in these issue...

It's Only Words – Episode 135 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. Remember when we're kids and a common phrase was "stick and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me". It seems in adulthood, we've forgotten this lesson. Divorce brings many words of anger that can't be taken back. We spend much of our time being hurt by the other person's words and the meaning we give them. Tod...

What Does the Court Want From You? – Episode 134 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. Many people have the experience of going into Court and not getting the result they want in their divorce or child custody case. As we heard one Judge put it, "Half of you are going to lose". Not great odds. If you can start to understand how the Court views your case and how to present your information, you...

This Too Shall Pass – Episode 133 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. When you're going through a crisis like a divorce or a breakup it can feel like the emotional pain will never end. The stress, grief, anger, and other emotions become the daily normal with no end in sight. But it will end and it will end sooner if we make a shift toward the future and away from the past. This episode is al...

STEP FIVE: Don't Allow Other People to Knock You Off Track – Episode 132 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. You are often your own worst enemy in your own progress. But others can also slow our progress even though they have the best of intentions. Divorce is a time for you to focus on self-care and your own priorities. Remember, no is a complete sentence! For more information, please visit...

STEP FOUR: Regularly Take a Progress Inventory – Episode 131 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. Even when we get started on our goals, we can lose steam as days turn into weeks turn into months. Keeping track of your progress isn't only important for measuring but for maintaining motivation. Most importantly, you need to celebrate your success and have grace for yourself when you fall short...

STEP THREE: Making the Big Things Your Priority – Episode 130 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. Is your life guided by your big goals? Or do you spend most days stuck in the unimportant, urgent issues that come from your procrastination? Let's face it, divorce is emotionally hard and some days you just don't feel like doing anything. But, your big goals can help to keep you moving through...

STEP TWO: Take the Bull by the Horns  – Episode 129 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. Are you letting your divorce just unfold or are you proactively guiding the process to make sure you get the outcomes you want? This week we talk about being proactive, creating actionable steps from your goals, and measuring your progress. As they say, what gets measured gets improved. For more informati...

STEP ONE: Dream Big!  – Episode 128 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. Dreaming is something we often stop doing during the crisis of divorce. But it is key for building your new life because if you can see it, you can achieve it. In this episode, we'll help you discover your "why" and give you some practical tips on how to start creating your post-divorce dreams! For more information, plea...

Five Steps to Getting Off the Divorce Treadmill – Episode 127 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. Dealing with divorce feels like dealing with an unending series of emergencies. In order to stop the insanity, we have to get ourselves out of "reaction" mode and into proactive action. But what actions should you take? Where do start? Join us a we lay the foundation for this five part series to...

Finding Your Inner Lawyer – Episode 126 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. Divorce and custody issues are expensive when you need the Court's help in resolving disagreements with your ex. But many people can't afford a lawyer and end up needing to represent themselves. In this episode, we'll help you navigate the Courts, understand what they're looking for and help you present your informat...