Divorce University Online

Your Grief is Your Own – Episode 125 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. We may not always think of a divorce or breakup as something we grieve over, but it is. Grief is unique to each individual and relationship. It's common to feel you "should be over it" or wonder "why is this so hard". But grief comes in waves, one day your fine, the next your binging Netflix and eating a gallon of ice c...

Episode 124 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. Lawyers and Divorce Coaches have very different roles in divorce and both can help you tremendously. Most people can benefit from both. In this episode, we discuss each of these roles to help you discern the pros and cons of each and how they can help you navigate your divorce journey. For more information, please visit us at divorceuniversityo...

Your Emotions Are Your Biggest Enemy in 2021 – Episode 123 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. High emotions are common in divorce. After all, this is your family so who would expect you not to be upset. It is in this emotional state that many people hire an "aggressive" attorney or try to negotiate with their ex about the kids or money. This usually doesn't go well. And the Court expects yo...

Don't Let the Turkeys Get You Down in 2021 – Episode 122 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. I think we all agree that 2020 was a really rough year. If you've been going through a divorce or breakup in the midst of everything else going on in the world, then it's been an even rougher year! In this episode, we'll talk about creating your vision for 2021 and things you can do to ensure that 20...

Helping Your Children with Transitions – Episode 121 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. The transition between two homes can be emotional for children. Depending on the child and their age, they may say they don't want to go, they may cry, or have a fit. So, when should you worry? Should you ask your child why they don't want to go? These strategies can often backfire, but there are many th...

Build Your Cocoon – Episode 120 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. When we go through a divorce or separation, our relationship has typically hit a stage where the other person is toxic to us. Yet, we are often a glutton for punishment and continue to engage, often through conflict. It's important for your own well-being that you learn to apply techniques to insulate yourself from the bully...

Level Up Your Parenting – Episode 119 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. Parenting is different after divorce and many times, parents to struggle to find the new norm. Sometimes, we try to wait until the situation "calms down" and think it will be easier for everyone if we wait to make changes. Or, we try to "protect" the kids from issues with the other parent. But, both of these approaches...

Don't Wish for Things to Be Easier – Episode 118 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. We sometimes develop of a habit of wishing our lives away. We wish for things to be easier, to get better. We hope that the future will have less struggle. But we forget that the struggle is part of what shapes us and builds our character. So, what if we wished to become better, stronger individuals capable...

How to Solve Any Divorce Disagreement – Episode 117 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. Are you having a conflict with your ex and cannot seem to escape the constant battle with your ex? In this episode, we will discuss tactics you can use to diffuse any argument that comes up with your ex. Join us as we share our favorite resources for solving any divorce disagreement. For more information,...

Co-Parenting with a Narcissist!  – Episode 116 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. Are you co-parenting with a narcissist? Many of us have exes that aren't necessarily diagnosed with narcissism but who definitely exhibit behaviors associated with narcissism. Narcissists are a special breed and there are definite do's and don'ts when co-parenting, especially if the Court hasn't yet tumbled to...

Knowledge is Power!  – Episode 115 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. Knowledge is power, but divorce is a specific type of knowledge. How do you educate yourself in the right way about divorce? It's helpful to seek advice, but the wrong kind of advice can create an epic battle between you and your ex. In this episode, we'll share our best resources for educating yourself on the divorce pro...

Stories from the Battlefield!  – Episode 114 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. In this episode, we share stories of how we've seen clients succeed and fail during their divorce cases. Your family and their future are on the line so it's important for you to understand the key building blocks of a successful divorce outcome. It's also valuable when you can learn from other's mistakes. Failu...

What Do You Really Want?  – Episode 113 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. Many people going through divorce re-evaluate their life. Divorce creates a "clean slate" that allows you to rebuild the life you choose. But how can we get focused? How do we create long term goals while solving all of the temporary problems that must be solved when divorce hits. We're here to support you and help y...

Easing Kids Into a Parenting Schedule  – Episode 112 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. Divorce is a major transition for the entire family. So, how do you help your kids adjust? Is it best to try and ease your kids into a schedule or should you just tear off the band-aid and fully implement a schedule. There are pros and cons no matter how you choose to do it. Every family is different and...

Decision Making in Divorce  – Episode 111 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. Do you have decision fatigue? Making decisions during divorce are particularly difficult because emotions are running high. In addition, the decisions required of you are often of a critical nature because they involve family, finances, and our future. So, how do you deal with all the emotions and rid yourself of b...

Managing Your Ex's View of Your World  – Episode 110 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. In order to achieve peace in your post-divorce life, it's important to have strong boundaries. We want our ex's to have a view of our world that communicates that we're doing great, even though that is sometimes an illusion. But illusion or not, it's important in achieving a separate world where you have...

High Conflict and the Dreaded Attribution  – Episode 109 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. Most people that have high conflict relationship and subsequent high conflict breakups are guilty of one common practice. We call it the dreaded attribution. It's important to understand this concept when it comes to disagreements with anyone in your life, but particularly your spouse or partner. Att...

How to Stop the Argument that Never Ends  – Episode 108 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. Is this how your arguments with your ex feel? As if your life has become one long, exhausting, constant argument? Good news! There is a solution and it begins with figuring out your argumentative style. Join us as we help you find your style and the more importantly, the solution. And thankfully the s...

Should I Hire an Aggressive Attorney  – Episode 107 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. We often hear people talk of needing an "aggressive attorney". Let's face it, we all have a friend or family member that knows the perfect aggressive attorney that will make our ex pay. But should you go that route? How do you know what attorney is right for you? Is it possible to hire an attorney and not...

Stop Being Afraid!  – Episode 106 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. Divorce is a life event that is full of change, uncertainty and fear. So many people become paralyzed by their fears, and yet divorce is also a time full of serious decision making. If you feel stuck or feel like no decision is better than a bad decision, then this episode is a must listen for you! We're going to help you...

Stop the Madness!  – Episode 105 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. Has your court case become a runaway freight train? Are you up to your eyeballs in attorney fees? We often see this problem after people have become weary from the extended battle of divorce. The good news is, you can stop the insanity. Are you ready to learn how? For more information, please visit us at divorceuniversityon...

Forging Your Alliance  – In Episode 104 of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we take an in depth look at how to forge an alliance with your ex. In episode 101, we talked about your ex being your natural ally in divorce but in this episode, we'll dive in to how to actually create that alliance. And the good news is, there are things you can do to start building that alliance even if your ex is...

Remembering Your Wedding Day – In Episode 103 of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we talk about looking back on our wedding day. I know what you're thinking. What?! Why would I want to remember that! Actually this reflection, although sometimes painful, can give you some great insight int handling your divorce and creating your future.  Join us as we also share our experiences. For more info...

Leaving an Abusive Spouse – In Episode 102 of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we give you some things to think about in planning your exit.  Leaving is never an easy decision, but neither is staying in an abusive relationship. We have seen many cases where people struggled more after leaving due to lack of planning in advance. We discuss, timelines, the Court process, and try to give you an...

In Every Divorce, Your Ex Is Your Natural Ally – In Episode 101 of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we discuss your natural ally in any divorce, your ex.  Say what? Well, we know this sounds a bit crazy but if you really think through what you want out of your divorce, you'll realize that you and your ex share more goals than you and your attorney, you and your children, or you and any other...