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Collateral Damage – In Episode 100 of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we talk about collateral damage in divorce. Collateral damage in divorce usually comes in the form of destroyed relationships including your ex, your kids, and even friends and family. And yet, most people are so focused on other aspects of the divorce such as the parenting schedule, support, and division of assets that t...

Parenting During Coronavirus – in Episode 99 we talk about co-parenting during the coronavirus pandemic. What do you do if the other parent doesn't take enough precautions? Should you continue to follow your current Court orders? Should you stop transitioning your child between homes? Join us as we answer these and other common questions we've received over the past few months. For more informatio...

No Pain, No Gain – in Episode 98 of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we talk about that famous saying we've all heard "no pain, no gain". During divorce, no doubt we have all experienced emotional pain. But are there benefits to that pain? Where can we find the "gain"? Join us as we help you find the silver linings of divorce. For more information please visit us a divorceuniversityonline.co...

Can I Save This Marriage? – in Episode 97 of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we talk about saving marriages and what situations or behaviors lead to a struggling marriage. We dive into our own experience in our marriage that is successful and our past marriages that have ended. It takes two people to have a successful marriage. We dive into habits that you and your spouse can form or get ri...

Using Humor to Help You Have Difficult Conversations – In Episode 96, of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we talk about using humor in certain situations to help lower conflict and stress in difficult conversations. We know divorce isn't exactly a funny topic, but as the old saying goes, if you don't laugh, you'll cry. So, why not try some of our tips on injecting humor into this difficult s...

How to Get the Best Result in Divorce Mediation – In Episode 95, of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we talk divorce mediation. Mediation is a great alternative to the typical divorce process and mediation nearly always succeeds in resolving the issues if you have a skilled, knowledgeable mediator. An experienced mediator can provide you with the education and information you need to make op...

When Should I Introduce My Kids to My New Mate? – In Episode 94, of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we talk new mates. People often ask about if, when, and how they should introduce new mates to their children. We find that ex-spouses often disagree on this issue and new mates often create a hiccup in co-parenting at a time when things were just starting to calm down. Join Tammy and Thomas...

7 Tips to Deal with Uncertainty - In Episode 93, of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we talk about uncertainty, which most people find to be an uncomfortable feeling. Uncertainty often accompanies change and as you know, divorce is all about change, and lot's of it! So, how do you deal with uncertainty when your anxiety, stress, and emotions are out of control. Join Tammy and Thomas as they...

Can This Marriage Be Saved? - In Episode 92, of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we talk about the possibility of saving marriage even though it's been pushed to the brink of divorce. In a large percentage of cases, one spouse does not want the divorce. But can your marriage be saved or are you holding on to false hope? Listen now as we look at characteristics that we feel are key indicators...

Are You Ready For Your Court-Sponsored Child Custody Mediation? - In Episode 91, of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we talk about child custody mediation that is conducted by the Court, not a private mediator. Whether your Court system keeps the mediation private or has the mediator report to the Judge, there are certain things you should do and say and certain things you should not. If you...

Difficult Conversations - In Episode 90, of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we talk about the difficult conversations that are often part of divorce. Maybe you are making "the announcement" or maybe your negotiating finances or a parenting schedule. Or maybe, you need to talk about the difficulty one of your children is having. Regardless, these types of conversations are particularly diffi...

It All Starts With Your Thoughts - In Episode 89, of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we dive inward to look at common internal thoughts people have during a divorce or breakup. Your thoughts can often be your own worst enemy. They can lead you to say and do things that hurt you, your ex, your kids, and your Court case. Listen now to learn about the damage these thoughts can do and more impo...

Co-Parents! Written Communication Is Better - In Episode 88, of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we talk about why it is imperative for co-parents to use written communication. This is especially important if you have a high-conflict relationship with your ex. Written communication can even give you an advantage in your Court case, if you are communicating correctly. Join us now to learn wha...

Is Litigation Killing You? – In Episode 87, of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we discuss the most common problem in the industry that no one wants to talk about, litigation. Litigation can cause major rifts between families and hurt feelings or damaged relationships for years to come. Worst of all, it can be especially damaging for children going through the process. But why is litigation...

Do I Need A Divorce Coach? - In Episode 86, of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we discuss the most under utilized divorce professional in the industry, a Divorce Coach. What is a divorce coach and how do you know if you need one? A divorce coach can be an invaluable resource in almost any divorce, if you find the right one. And unlike your attorney, they have no vested interest in making th...

The Right of First Refusal - In Episode 85, of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we discuss a common Court order in many parenting plans, the "Right of First Refusal". If you don't know what that is, then this a must-listen episode for you. A Right of First Refusal, at first glance, seems logical and good for the kids. But there are many aspects of this arrangement to explore. If you have a p...

Moving On From Divorce - In Episode 84, of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we discuss the difficulty of moving on after divorce. Many people feel stuck emotionally, financially, and in their co-parenting. We'll discuss how you can deal with all of these issues in a way that helps you create a post-divorce life that is free from the interference of your ex. Join us now as we help you create...

My Kids Are Saying……… - In Episode 83, of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we discuss the kids and the things they say about the other parent or the other parent's home. Often, it's TMI and you can find yourself thrown back into the emotional rollercoaster of divorce. So, what do you do? You want your kids to feel heard and feel like they can talk to you. But how do we know if what they are...

Verbal and Emotional Abuse - In Episode 82, of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we discuss the number one complaint we hear about relationships, verbal and emotional abuse. Courts are concerned about abuse, but abuse that comes in the verbal and emotional form is much harder to prove. This often leaves the person being abused with no real resource to deal with it except for their own managem...

What's Love Got To Do With It? - In Episode 81, of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we discuss love. Now, I know you're thinking it's odd for divorce professionals talk about love. But trust us, we see what love IS NOT, all day, every day. And if you're like us, and you've come out of a high-conflict or unloving relationship, it can be difficult to recognize true love. So, how do you know? J...

Long Distance Parenting - In Episode 80, of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we discuss Long Distance Parenting. Are you a Mom or Dad struggling to bond with your child over a long distance? Or perhaps your trying to help maintain the connection between your child and the other parent, who lives far away. We've seen many clients navigate this issue and we've had some recent experience in our...

I Want My Divorce to Be Done, So What's Taking So Long? - In Episode 79, of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we discuss the timeframe for a typical divorce, which is usually shocking for most people. We'll dive into the two stages of every divorce process and share the one thing everyone can do to speed up the Court process. For more information please visit us a divorceuniversityonline.com...

Become A Relationship Ninja - In Episode 78, of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we discuss the relationship warfare that overtakes many divorcing families. Are you approaching your relationships in a way that encourages battle? Or perhaps your fighting the completely wrong battle? How can you tell? We discuss ways to end the war and nurture your family and your relationships.. For more info...

Overcoming Blaming Others - In Episode 77, of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we discuss the bad habit of blaming others for our problems. Do you have this problem? You may not think so but we'll give you some questions to ask yourself so you can find out if you have this tendency. We discuss how to stop blaming others and shift yourself into a positive mindset. This shift will give you hop...

Holding On to Hope - In Episode 76, of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we discuss having hope. Hope is generally thought of as a positive feeling, but it can work against you if you are holding out hope for the wrong things or for the wrong reasons. Sometimes hope exists because your brain is trying to protect you from pain or hurt. Do you have hope? Is it good hope? Bad hope? Should you ha...