Divorce University Online

Breaking Up Is Hard to Do - In Episode 75, of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we discuss the emotional difficulty of breaking up. We often hold on to the old relationship through conflict or begging for reconciliation. Once we do start to move on, we often repeat old patterns by selecting a new partner with similar behavior patterns to our old partner. So how do you heal yourself and move f...

What Does A Good Marriage Even Look Like? - In Episode 74, of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we remarriage after divorce. Often, divorcing people have been in a high-conflict or dissatisfying marriage and don't even know what it's like to be in a good marriage. Second marriages fail at even higher rates than first marriages so we must learn from our past mistakes if we want a happy marriag...

FEAR – False Evidence Appearing Real - In Episode 73, of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we talk about fear in divorce. Fear is a common human emotion that is meant to protect us but what happens when the fear becomes overwhelming? Fear takes many forms in divorce: stress, anxiety, worry. We worry about finances, we worry about our kids but you don't have to let fear dominate your divorce....

Where Do Your Kids Want to Live, and Should You Care? In Episode 72, of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we talk about how to honor our children's preferences about where they live after divorce. What do your kids need from you? How do you create stability for them? What happens when one parent is trying to manipulate the situation? Should you ask the children where they want to live? Why or...

Out of the Mouth of Babes - In this BONUS Episode, we decided to give you a more personal look at divorce from the viewpoint of children, specifically our own. We have invited our four boys to join us in studio this week to share their experiences of our divorces. Tammy's two sons, Dalton, age 29, Kevin, age 24 and Thomas' two sons, Isaiah, age 16 and Isaac, age 15 talk about the impact our divorc...

What Is Your Divorce Goal? In Episode 71, of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we look at goal setting within the context of divorce. A New Year often brings resolutions but that's different than goals. You may wonder how goal setting can help you manage divorce. We share some statistics that may surprise you. Goal setting is something that anyone can do and the impact it can have on your fut...

Do You Want to Win Your Case or Feel Heard? In Episode 70, of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we discuss our human desire to feel heard and understand which unfortunately, does not necessarily help us win our Court case. The Court approaches our case from a very logical perspective that applies the law without emotion. We typically have a completely emotional approach. When we proceed from...

Co-Parenting Teenagers - In Episode 69 of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we explore the unique aspects of co-parenting teenagers. Being the parent of a teen is already full of daily challenges, but co-parenting adds another layer of difficulty. Differences in the two homes are often an aspect that the teenager is aware enough to use for their own benefit. Whether you're struggling to get t...

Are You In the Divorce Box or Riding the Wave? In Episode 68 of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we bring a different perspective on the ever-changing process of divorce. All Tammy's fellow type A personalities will relate to this episode and frankly, so will the type B's thanks to Thomas! Divorce is a fluid period in your life and we all have to learn to ride the wave of change. Join us as...

To Date or Not To Date? In Episode 67 of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we talk about the pleasures and perils of dating after divorce. While our own situation is unique, we do not recommend our approach for everyone. There are definitely bad reasons to date right away, which we'll discuss. We also talk about job one, healing yourself, and how to gain some perspective that will help you fi...

Digging Holes in the Sand…… In Episode 66 of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we talk about digging holes in the sand with your kids, which is an example of how to be an awesome Mom or Dad. We all have a tendency during divorce to focus on our ex and what they are or aren't doing with and for our children. But the most important thing you can do at this stage is build relationship with your...

Are You a Co-Dependent? In Episode 65 of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we talk about one of the most common labels we hear in divorce, "Narcissist". But people often fail to understand why they are with a Narcissistic Personality type and what part they play in that dynamic. Many people who are in a relationship with a narcissist are themselves a co-dependent. Why is it important to under...

Are You or Your Attorney Drinking from a Firehose? In Episode 64 of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we talk about what it feels like to drink from a firehose. Have you had this experience? People going through a divorce often want to tell their whole story and provide their attorney or the Court with an overabundance of information. When the droplet of information the Court needs is in the...

What Is the Court's Agenda in a Divorce? In Episode 63 of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we talk about the Court's agenda in a divorce case versus our own agenda. We often expect the Court to deal with problems, that frankly, either they don't address or aren't able to solve. We often expect the Court to be fair and reasonable and to handle our difficult ex. But is that what's on the Court...

How to Defeat Loneliness. In Episode 62 of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we talk about loneliness, a feeling that is common in divorce. Divorce pulls apart the family and shuffles our children between the homes. You suddenly find yourself having days of no spouse and no kids. So, what do you do with yourself? Join us as we explore solutions to this problem! For more information please vis...

Is Your Spouse Having a Midlife Crisis? In Episode 61 of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we answer your questions about midlife crisis. What is a midlife crisis and what causes it? What can you do to help your spouse? What can you do to help yourself? Frequently we want to talk to our spouse about the relationship, but that's actually one of the worst things you can do when you are dealing...

What can we learn from #Ellen about kindness? In Episode 60 of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we discuss Ellen's recent stance on kindness and how she's been attacked in the media for it. More importantly, we dive into the similarities between these events and divorce. How can you model Ellen's behavior to help you in your divorce or child custody case? Tune in now to find out! For more in...

How Can I Protect My Kids? In Episode 59 of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we discuss our desire as parents to protect our kids, particularly during divorce. We all want to minimize the negative impact of divorce, whether it's protecting them from the divorce process or protecting their health, safety and welfare when they are with the other parent. In some circumstances, we may even need...

Help! The Fighting Never Ends! In Episode 58 of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we discuss the four main types of high-conflict personalities. High-Conflict Personalities are seen frequently in divorce cases and often have a history of repeated appearances in front of the Court that never seem to end. We share strategies to help you deal with them in Court and in your day-to-day life. Join...

What Is Parallel Parenting? In Episode 57 of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we discuss the concept of parallel parenting. If you're not familiar with this term and you have continuing conflict with your co-parent, then this is a must-listen episode for you. Parallel parenting is the best way to eliminate co-parenting conflict, particularly in the early period following the divorce or break...

What Do You Want On Your Tombstone? In Episode 56 of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we discuss tombstones. Ok, we know it sounds a bit morbid but you'll love hearing our favorite funny ones. More importantly, we discuss legacy and how your current choices in your divorce will help to create the legacy you leave for your family, be it good or bad. Listen now to learn steps you can take to c...

My Ex Is A Liar! In Episode 55 of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we discuss how to handle an ex that continually lies. Why do they lie? What do you do if they are even willing to lie to the Court? If their lying is working, should you lie too? Most importantly, how do you take down a liar? We answer all your questions about liars in this episode. For more information please visit us a divo...

So, You Think Your Ex Is Crazy? In Episode 54 of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we discuss how to handle crazy exes with high-conflict personalities such as Narcissist and Borderline. We'll give you strategies for dealing with these impossible personalities and help you insulate yourself from the insanity! Listen now to give a try. For more information please visit us a  divorceuniversityo...

Why Am I Losing My Custody Case? In Episode 53 of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we discuss what happens when you aren't getting the results you want in your custody case. It's easy to blame your attorney, your ex, or even the Court. The problem is, you have no control over any of those people involved in your case. So, what can you do? The one thing you have control of is you. We're going...

Pride Goeth Before Destruction, In Episode 52 of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we discuss how pride, especially in divorce, creates the sense that "I'm the only on" or "you don't know my ex". We tend to feel like our situation is so much harder or more difficult than the next persons. When you can begin to cultivate humility instead of pride, you begin to see your situation in a more obje...