Divorce Dialogues

"You really want to know what your priorities are and then you want to know what your spouse's priorities are, because they might be different." - Melissa Murphy Pavone Melissa Murphy Pavone is a seasoned certified financial planner and divorce financial analyst, whose 18 years of experience in the field are deeply influenced by her personal experiences as a child of divorce. She founded Mindful D...

"Depth psychology is a more spiritual approach, a psychospiritual approach to understanding yourself more deeply." - Deborah Lukovich Dr. Deborah Lukovich is a renowned depth psychologist who offers a unique perspective on navigating the complexities of divorce by delving into the unconscious mind. With a belief that up to 90% of our actions and decisions are influenced by hidden forces, she empha...

"It will not get any easier if you're avoiding it. Now, don't think that in six months or a year the solution will be, in fact, it's going to get much harder." - Katya Sverdlov Katya Sverdlov is a distinguished attorney specializing in estate planning and elder law, with a robust background in finance as a chartered financial analyst. Driven by her own unsatisfactory experience with estate plannin...

"Kids have large antenna on their heads that you can't see, but they're always scanning for information, and that is information that is picked up very easily." - Lisa Herrick Dr. Lisa Herrick, a renowned family therapist and collaborative divorce coach, has nearly twenty years of experience guiding families in the Washington, D.C. area through the complex transition period of separation and divor...

"The key is that it keeps the children stable. It keeps their routines consistent. There's a lot less upheaval and chaos for the children. It's a very child centered approach to separation and divorce." - Ann Gold Buscho Ann Gold Buscho, a licensed clinical psychologist, is renowned for her expertise in family dynamics surrounding divorce, with a particular emphasis on child-centered solutions. As...

"I think whether someone wants to admit it or not, we have all been in that space multiple times in our life where we wonder who we want to be, who we should be, and who we are." - Jennifer Teplin Jennifer Teplin is a licensed clinical social worker and the founder of Manhattan Wellness, where she specializes in helping young professionals navigate significant life changes, including divorce. She...

"People need to feel safe to be a part of a team. People need to feel safe to be able to contribute." - Rabbi Shlomo Slatkin Rabbi Shlomo Slatkin is a distinguished relationship expert who dedicates his work to helping couples achieve breakthroughs, regardless of their backgrounds or beliefs. He champions the idea that conflicts within relationships are not merely obstacles but opportunities for h...

"It is a rebirth because there is so much of your identity attached to who you were with this other person in the life that you had with this person or that you created with the person." -Karina Diaz Karina Diaz, a licensed psychotherapist and art therapist with over two decades of experience, offers a compassionate and creative approach to guiding individuals through the emotional journey of divo...

"There's something freeing about it. You can decide where you want your assets to go to. You can choose what charity. You don't have to listen to someone else now telling you, no, no, no, no, no." - Tammy Fried Tammy Fried, a seasoned attorney with over 25 years of expertise in tax trusts and estates, is dedicated to guiding individuals, families, and non-profits through the complex terrain of est...

"What we live with, we learn. What we learn, we practice. What we practice, we become." - Jennifer Kupferman Jennifer Kupferman is a distinguished therapist and former lawyer who expertly combines somatic and traditional talk therapy to guide individuals through the tumultuous journey of divorce. With an impressive academic background, including degrees from Columbia, Penn, Yale, and ASU, she leve...

"Trust can be helpful for several reasons. One is that having assets in a trust makes it easier when a person dies because the trust assets don't go through the Surrogate's Court." - Michael Goldstein Michael Goldstein, a seasoned New York attorney with over thirty years of experience, brings a wealth of knowledge to the complex issue of dividing real estate during divorce. With a focus on the int...

"Divorce is not just an ending, but a chance to rediscover the strength we didn't know we have." - Sabrina Romanoff Dr. Sabrina Romanoff, a Harvard-trained clinical psychologist based in New York City, is renowned for her expertise in guiding individuals and couples through the emotional complexities of divorce. She views divorce as an emotional and psychological journey rather than just a legal m...

"Lean on your social support and create time to take care of yourself. But also, I can't imagine going through any of this without a therapist." - Julia Yacoob Julia Yacoob, a seasoned clinical psychologist based in Manhattan, brings over 15 years of experience to her specialized work in guiding individuals through the emotional turmoil of divorce. She highlights the pervasive issue of "stuckness"...

"Trauma is something they don't just get over. It's something they learn to live with." - Demi Yoshida Demi Yoshida, a dedicated therapist at My Well Being, specializes in supporting young adults through pivotal life transitions such as divorce, using her expertise in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT), and psychodynamic therapy. She believes that divorce duri...

"People lose sight of the fact that they're human beings, and it's not always easy." - Dr. Sean Condon Dr. Sean Condon, a seasoned clinical psychologist with over two decades of experience, is renowned for his adeptness in helping individuals navigate anxiety, relationship challenges, and major life transitions such as divorce. As the founder of the Flatiron Center for Psychotherapy, Dr. Condon ut...

"That it's a journey, allow yourself time, allow yourself the grace and whatever that you need and set intentions for why you are trying to reconnect with certain people." - Kimia Moghadam Kimia Moghadam, a licensed mental health counselor and clinical director at My Therapy NYC, is dedicated to helping individuals and couples navigate the complexities of relationships, particularly when facing th...

"Yelling is not a consequence. It's the avoidance of a consequence." - Gary Edelstein Gary Edelstein, a seasoned psychotherapist specializing in neuropsychology and family systems, is dedicated to advancing a collaborative co-parenting model. He underscores the importance of maintaining a unified front in parenting, particularly when children experience emotional, psychological, or neurodevelopmen...

"You don't get divorced from your spouse. It doesn't exist. It's a made-up word. You commit to a new relationship with them." - Avi Kahan Avi Kahan, a distinguished mediator and founder of the non-profit Vad Hadin Vahora, is renowned for his innovative approach to divorce proceedings, integrating halakhic principles with civil law to offer comprehensive conflict resolution. With a background in fi...

"Mirroring slows down the communication process. It really helps us to be able to tune in and listen in addition to be able to hear the information." - Trisha Sanders Trisha Sanders is a licensed clinical social worker with nearly twenty years of experience, specializing in guiding families through the challenging transitions associated with divorce. Recognized for her expertise in expressive ther...

"Well, I guess it's important to know what's important to the spouse that you're divorcing and for them to know what's important to you so you could have a win-win situation." - Jeff Landers Jeff Landers is a distinguished expert with over 40 years of experience in real estate, mortgages, and the financial intricacies of divorce, renowned for his guidance in navigating the complex financial challe...

"There's a whole grief process that starts all over again when you make that final decision to sell that property. And that's hard for people." - Nikki Beauchamp Nikki Beauchamp, a seasoned Manhattan-based real estate expert with over two decades of experience at Sotheby's International Realty, provides invaluable guidance at the intersection of divorce and property transactions. With a keen focus...

"Divorce will get you out of one situation. It will not guarantee, though, a happy ending in the next." - Jessica McCarthy Dr. Jessica McCarthy, a renowned clinical and school psychologist from New Jersey, is celebrated for her expertise in supporting women through life transitions, including divorce. As the founder of Elements Psychological Services, she adopts a no-nonsense approach to simplify...

"If you don't know about the money, you don't have control over the money or access to the money." Ed Vargo, the founder of Burning River Advisory Group and Enlighten Her, is a fervent advocate for financial literacy, particularly focusing on empowering women. Inspired by his immigrant mother's struggles with financial independence, Ed has dedicated his career to providing compassionate financial...

"If your parents and you are just going to look at the negative side only and just keep making it worse for yourself, it's never going to get better." -Joseph Zweben- Joseph Zweben, a student at Pace University, is a testament to the positive impact of cooperative parenting during challenging times like divorce. Having personally experienced the benefits of his parents' collaborative efforts, Jose...

"You really want to know what your priorities are and then you want to know what your spouse's priorities are, because they might be different." - Melissa Murphy Pavone Melissa Murphy Pavone is a seasoned certified financial planner and divorce financial analyst, whose 18 years of experience in the field are deeply influenced by her personal experiences as a child of divorce. She founded Mindful D...