Divorce Dialogues

Most parents brace for the fight over money and assume custody will sort itself out. What if the custody process itself is what turns co-parents into opponents? André Rainey , Chair of the New York Affiliate of the National Parents Organization and former mayor of Peekskill, joins the show to share what four years in New York family court taught him about shared parenting. Katherine and André expl...

You've probably thought about how you'd split assets in a divorce, but have you thought about who's going to take care of you at 85? Raymond Lavine , Founder of Lavine LTC Benefits , joins Katherine Miller to talk about the financial risk most divorce settlements never touch: long-term care. Katherine and Raymond dig into why long-term care insurance gets cheaper the earlier you buy it, what happe...

Every dollar spent fighting over a 50/50 schedule might be solving the wrong problem. What if the split barely matters to your kid at all? Family psychologist and custody researcher Dr. Marsha Kline Pruett joins the show to break down what decades of research actually say about parenting time, and why the number of overnights rarely predicts how kids adjust. Katherine and Marsha dig into why "qual...

What if the same advice that helps most couples divorce well is exactly what keeps you stuck with a difficult one? In this episode, Dr. Deborah Wilder , a licensed psychologist, divorce mediator, and Certified Narcissistic Abuse Treatment Clinician at the Center for Therapy and Mediation , breaks down how emotional abuse and coercive control change the rules of divorce, and how to tell the differe...

Divorce doesn't have to be a conversation you dread having with your kids. What if it's the beginning of showing them they can get through something hard? Childhood Grief Specialist and Award-Winning Author Dr. Korie Leigh joins the show to break down how to talk to kids about divorce without overwhelming them or trying to make it painless. Katherine and Korie explore how to figure out what your c...

Could securing a divorce attorney actually heighten complications instead of safeguarding your interests? Certified family law specialist, mediator, and Hello Divorce founder and CEO Erin Levine explains why navigating a divorce doesn't have to mean choosing between going at it completely alone or turning everything over to a lawyer. Erin shares the three problems she saw repeatedly in twenty year...

Most people going through divorce ask, "How do I keep the house?" But what if that's the wrong question entirely? Katherine sits down with Jody Bruns , founder and president of the Divorce Lending Association and author of A House Divided: A Guide to Mortgage Financing and Divorce , to unpack the emotional and financial complexities of housing decisions during divorce. Jody explains why treating t...

When a child says “I don’t want to go,” the most important question may be: why? In this episode, Michael Saini , professor and Factor-Inwentash Chair in Law and Social Work at the University of Toronto , breaks down how courts, lawyers, and parents can separate genuine safety concerns from the noise of custody conflict. Drawing on nearly two decades of research and parenting plan evaluations, Mic...

Grief after a divorce doesn't wait for the paperwork to catch up, and it rarely leaves the same moment the case closes. In this episode, Oona Metz, LICSW, CGP, psychotherapist, and author of Unhitched: The Essential Divorce Guide for Women , joins Katherine to map the emotional side of divorce that the legal process never touches. After running weekly divorce support groups for 16 years, Oona buil...

Divorce can make even simple decisions feel harder. Fear, anger, guilt, and resentment can shape what you say, what you ask for, and what you agree to before you realize they are driving the process. In this episode of the Emotionally Savvy Divorce series, Katherine Miller , family lawyer and mediator at Miller Law Group , tackles the belief that good divorce decisions require setting emotions asi...

What if the thing you're fighting hardest for in your divorce isn't actually what you need? In this episode of the Emotionally Savvy Divorce series, Katherine Miller , family lawyer, mediator, and author of The Emotionally Savvy Divorce , breaks down one of the most useful distinctions in any negotiation: positions versus interests. Most people walk into divorce already certain of what they want....

What if the thing you're fighting for in your divorce is actually keeping you stuck? In this episode of the Emotionally Savvy Divorce series, Katherine Miller , divorce attorney, mediator, and author, unpacks why "fair" might be the most dangerous word in a divorce negotiation. Katherine explains why two reasonable people can go through the same divorce and both walk away feeling wronged, and why...

Divorce doesn't have to be measured by who wins. What if success meant something entirely different? In this episode, Katherine Miller , divorce attorney, mediator, and author, opens her Emotionally Savvy Divorce series by redefining what a successful divorce actually looks like — not in the courtroom, but in the life you build afterward. Most people never stop to define what winning a divorce wou...

Divorce isn't just a legal problem, it's an emotional one too—so what happens when people start bringing that problem to AI before they bring it to anyone else? In this episode, @Jamie Lima , divorce financial specialist and co-founder of SecureSplit, unpacks why so many people are turning to AI first during divorce, sometimes before they've spoken to a lawyer, therapist, or financial advisor, and...

Divorce recovery isn't about getting over your marriage. It's about building something new after it. In this episode, Ronald Platt , CEO of the National Association for Single and Divorced Families (NASDF), talks about what actually happens once the paperwork is signed and the legal process ends. Most people prepare for the legal side of divorce for months, sometimes years. Almost no one prepares...

Think the divorce was the hardest part? Wait until you hear this. In this episode, BF Empowerment CEO Barbara Parker, relationship coach, licensed mental health therapist, and author of A Powerful Divorce , walks through what it actually takes to rebuild after a marriage ends, not just the legal paperwork, but the identity, trust, and boundaries that have to be reconstructed from scratch. Barbara...

Divorce is a financial restructuring, but most people only treat it as a legal battle. In this episode, Gabriella Martinelli , divorce financial strategist and founder of Ever After Wealth, sits down with Katherine and breaks down why financial decisions made during divorce are so hard to get right, and what it takes to make them well. Gabriella's central argument is deceptively simple: divorce is...

Most divorce conversations center on paperwork, parenting plans, and finances. The loneliness fathers carry through that process rarely gets a seat at the table. In this episode, Andrew O'Brien , founder of Dad Tribes, talks openly about what men actually go through when a family separates — the silence of an empty house, the loss of a social life that was built around a relationship, and the quie...

Your settlement agreement is signed, but what happens if the money stops coming? In this episode, divorce financial specialist Jeff Landers returns to break down one of the most overlooked risks in divorce: the fragility of alimony and child support. Death, disability, a job wiped out by a failing industry can make court-ordered support disappear overnight. And most settlement agreements offer no...

Divorce ends a marriage. It doesn't have to end your sense of self. In this episode, family law attorney, founder of Moore Family Law Group, and host of the podcast Made For Moore, Holly Moore , talks about what divorce actually costs people beyond the legal fees: their identity, their confidence, and the story they thought their life was supposed to tell. Holly and Katherine dig into why so many...

The most expensive divorce mistakes aren't made in the courtroom – they're made in the sequence of events that lead you there. In this episode of Divorce Dialogues, Katherine Miller speaks with Kelly Lise Murray , professor, financial strategist, and Co-founder and CEO of Vetting the House, about the hidden sequencing problem at the heart of most divorce settlements. Together, they unpack why even...

Your brain on divorce doesn't always think straight. Beneath the legal paperwork and custody schedules lies a deeply physiological reality: intense heartbreak, anger, and grief can completely hijack your nervous system, driving you to make choices you’ll later regret. In this episode of Divorce Dialogues, Katherine Miller speaks with Alyssa Mairanz, owner and executive director of Empower Your Min...

Divorce doesn’t have to be a battle. What if it could be a thoughtful, strategic decision for your future? In this episode, Jenny Bradley, family lawyer and mediator, explores how reframing divorce can lead to more thoughtful, cooperative solutions that protect your family, your finances, and your future. Divorce is often seen as an adversarial process, but Jenny argues that this mindset is not on...

What actually helps children through divorce is often misunderstood. Many parents focus on minimizing disruption, protecting feelings, or maintaining a sense of normalcy. But children are not measuring legal outcomes or schedules—they are responding to something more subtle and more powerful: the emotional tone between the adults they depend on. In this conversation, Katherine Miller speaks with D...

Divorce is often framed as a battle, something to survive or endure. But what if it could be something you approach with intention, clarity, and respect? In this episode, Katherine Miller is joined by Karen McNenny, who not only is an advocate for Family Centered Divorce Reform, but is also an author, speaker, and the founder of The Good Divorce Academy. Together, they challenge the typical narrat...