Ditch The Debate

Have you ever felt like you're no longer who you used to be, but you're not yet the person you're trying to become? Welcome to the messy middle. In this episode, Taniel explores the uncomfortable in-between space that often comes with personal growth, healing, career changes, motherhood, and life transitions. She unpacks why curve balls at work and at home can derail even our best intentions, why...

If you’ve ever closed your laptop to “be present with the kids” and then spent the whole time mentally drafting emails and feeling guilty about both… this episode has your name on it. In this episode, Taniel talks about the kind of guilt that doesn’t help you grow - it just keeps you stuck. The guilt for not being at every school thing. The guilt for actually liking your work. The guilt for wantin...

If you’ve ever sat on the couch, looking at a simple task and thinking, “Why can’t I just DO it?”… this one is for you.   In this episode, Taniel unpacks why so many women label themselves as “lazy” or “unmotivated”, when what’s actually happening is a deeper pattern of protection, overwhelm, and stored stress. Especially for working moms, procrastination is rarely about not caring — it’s about a...

If you’re coming into 2026 already feeling behind, this episode is for you. In this episode, Taniel invites you to pause before diving into another year of goals, resolutions, and self-improvement pressure. Instead of trying harder or fixing yourself, this conversation explores why real change starts with capacity, not discipline - especially for working moms carrying invisible emotional and menta...

If you’ve ever started Monday with colour-coded to-do lists and ended the week hiding from your inbox, this episode is going to sting a little… in a helpful way. In this episode, Taniel talks about why “I just need more willpower” is one of the biggest lies women tell themselves – especially working moms who are already running on fumes. We’re breaking down why you can’t “discipline” your way out...

The invisible load isn’t the dishes, the errands, or the lunchboxes - it’s the mental and emotional weight of carrying everything for everyone, all the time. In this episode, Taniel breaks down what the invisible load really looks like, why working moms are more overwhelmed than ever, and how this constant mental labor quietly drains our energy, identity, and nervous system. Dr Gabor Maté recently...

That sinking feeling on Sunday night? It’s not just “Sunday Scaries.” It’s your body bracing for survival. In this episode, Taniel shares her personal experience with the Sunday night anxiety spiral and explains why it’s not about dreading Monday - it’s your nervous system remembering past stress. You’ll learn how to decode what that anxiety is trying to tell you, what it needs instead of control,...

We’ve all had those moments - the ones where you lose your cool, yell louder than you meant to, and then feel that crushing wave of guilt. But what if those reactions weren’t really your fault? What if your body was just doing what it was designed to do - protect you? In this episode, Taniel unpacks what’s really happening when you snap at your kids and why it has more to do with your nervous syst...

In this episode, we explore what happens when survival mode stops being a temporary response and becomes your everyday normal. Taniel shares her personal story of living in constant “go mode,” how her body forgot what calm felt like, and the small, gentle shifts that helped her rebuild safety, peace, and presence from the inside out. This isn’t about doing more — it’s about doing less, on purpose....

Episode Summary: In my last episode, I shared the moment I realized I didn’t recognize myself anymore. But what happens after that? After you leave the job, the role, the relationship, the version of yourself that was built in survival? This episode is about that in-between place—the one no one talks about. Where everything is finally quiet… and instead of peace, you feel panic. Where your nervous...

There was a moment—7 months pregnant, sitting in my home office after a leadership call—that I realized I didn’t recognize myself anymore. I was successful. Respected. In a senior role at a global company. But I was also exhausted, silenced, and pushed so far beyond my edge that my body went into early labor just two days later. This episode is not just about corporate burnout—it’s about what happ...

In this episode, I’m sharing a personal journey through the highs and lows of 2024 and how these experiences shaped my lessons, mindset, and goals for the year ahead. It’s a raw and honest reflection of growth, acceptance, and the power of clarity as we step into 2025. What to Expect in This Episode A candid look back at the unexpected challenges of 2024, including personal loss, health struggles,...

Today, we’ll discuss: What makes up the invisible load and why it’s so common for moms Recognizing early signs of stress and burnout Practical strategies for managing mental stress, like setting boundaries, delegating tasks, and reframing expectations Embracing progress over perfection for a balanced, fulfilling life   If you’re feeling mentally drained or overwhelmed, this episode is for you. Lea...

Ever find yourself putting off tasks that would probably make you feel better once they’re done? If so, you’re in good company! In today’s episode of Ditch The Debate, host Taniel dives into why procrastination often affects working moms in corporate roles and shares powerful insights into breaking the cycle. In this episode, we explore: Why procrastination hits working moms hard — It’s not about...

In this episode of the 8-part series on identity and self-worth in motherhood, I’m sharing practical, actionable steps you can take to rebuild your self-worth. As moms, we often lose sight of our own value while taking care of everyone else—but today, we’re focusing on why your worth matters and how to reconnect with it. I’ll be breaking down simple strategies that can help you feel more confident...

Feeling lost in motherhood? You’re not alone. In this episode of my 8-part series on identity and self-worth for moms, I’m sharing three powerful steps you can take right now to start reclaiming your identity. These steps are simple yet incredibly effective, and they’re designed to help you feel more like yourself again. We’ll talk about the importance of making time for yourself, reconnecting wit...

Have you ever looked in the mirror and wondered, “Who am I now?” As moms, it’s all too easy to feel like the woman you once were has faded under the weight of new responsibilities. In today’s episode, we’re diving deep into why so many moms lose their sense of identity and, more importantly, how you can begin to find yourself again.   Hi, I’m Taniel, and I’m here to help moms just like you redisco...

In this first episode of my 8-part series on identity and self-worth for moms, I’m getting real about the feelings of loss and confusion that can come with motherhood. I’m sharing my personal journey of feeling like I lost myself after having kids and how I’ve been working to rediscover who I am now. I’ll talk about the pressures of trying to be the “perfect mom,” the guilt of missing who you used...

Join me for the season finale with Becky Hurley, a farm girl turned multi-million-dollar business mogul. Becky is living proof that you can go through hard times and come out the other side. With a feminine flair to her gritty upbringing, she has set out to share a message of inspiration with the world. With a passion for dreaming big and bringing dreams to life, she loves to shine the light of ho...

Today I’m talking to Jen Evans who is a Certified Life Coach and Registered Nurse who believes you are capable of THRIVING- not just surviving. After 18 years at the bedside Jen has brought her triage and interpersonal skills to provide 1:1 coaching where you are truly seen, validated, and empowered. She specializes in mindset coaching; using the power of belief to help you create a life you love....

Today I’m talking to Valerie who is a productivity specialist and a Certified Fair Play Method Facilitator. She helps moms gain a sense of control, spend more time with their families, and end their days feeling accomplished. With a background in mental health and corporate training, she’s ready to guide you toward a better relationship with time. If you’re ready to start feeling more peace and ac...

Today we talk about boundaries, self care and mom bashing with Rachel Newman. Rachel is a bestselling author, speaker, and mom coach. She specializes in helping moms prioritize themselves and ditch overwhelm to enjoy motherhood more. She is a mom to three children ages five and under, including twins. Like many moms, Rachel was desperate to find meaning and rediscover herself in the chaos of raisi...

Today’s episode I talk to Macaira Smith who is an East Coast based launch copywriter who specializes in sales pages. We discuss how she transitioned into motherhood which led her into copywriting and all things mom. When she's not getting Goldfish for her toddler or rearranging her calendar to fit in a vacation, she's writing personality driven copy that will take your course launch to the next le...

In this episode of Ditch The Debate Podcast, I dive into the emotion of ennui, introduced in Inside Out 2. I discuss how ennui, characterized by feelings of listlessness and dissatisfaction, has been a prevalent emotion in my life over the past year. I explore the seven key causes of ennui: Lack of Purpose or Meaning Monotony and Routine Unfulfilled Potential Isolation and Loneliness Mental Health...

Today we dive into the world of personalized wellness with Brenda Wollenberg. With a unique blend of expertise as a social worker, nutritionist, and co-leader of a faith community, Brenda specializes in analyzing and interpreting genetic profiles to design personalized wellness programs. She brings decades of experience and a compassionate approach to help clients understand the science of their g...