Didn't See That Coming

Didn't See that Coming is intense, in depth, and intended to walk through a really difficult time in my life ... to help you see the humanity and grow in yours! It's intense for me to walk through and a true labor of love for my audience and family. That's why I've decided this is a good time to pause the podcast.  My plan is to bring new episodes out again next December - January! If you love thi...

Are you unfulfilled in your life?  Feel like everyone else has found their place, their people, their comfort zone and you just can't quite fit? You hit the worlds success and you are just existing.  I've been there.  In this episode, I'm sharing my own story of feeling like a square peg in a round hole. And why unfulfillment is inevitable in that place. And where you turn for fulfillment will ult...

How much money does it take to be happy? There's 2 very conflicting numbers out there and I think I know why.  In this episode, I'm diving into money and happiness.  And sharing some surprising answers! I've walked life now at a few different income levels and found peace and happiness at every single one... once I stopped chasing the other to fulfill me.  If that's what you are looking for, this...

As women, we are often taught early to "paint the face"... to look happy, to be pretty, to hide the pain.  We learn in the process that the natural us is unacceptable, less happy, less pretty, something to hide.  In the unraveling, many of us reach a point where we just don't want to paint any longer.  What we do with that determines our futures, can impact relationships, and creates a strength or...

Feel like you are coming out of the unraveling storm just long enough to experience peace and happiness ... and then you hit a new low right after? Me too.  Growth and change takes weathering some strong emotions.  It doesn't make it easy, though.  In this episode, I'm sharing that storm I'm weathering and a few of my favorite songs that are helping me get through.  I'm also sharing the solutions...

Notice a generational shift in respect in your family? Me, too.  That's what we are taking on in this episode of the podcast. You may not agree with definitions used by other generations but you have to understand their definitions before you will ever move forward to the relationship you desire.  If you feel disrespected, taken advantage of, or misunderstood, this episode is for you.  I've got my...

Sometimes we don't agree.  Sometimes we see things differently.  The relationships that matter most in our lives are the clearest reflection of that.  For me recently, it has been with my daughter, Ella.  And she's on the podcast with me this week! In this episode, Ella and I dive into how we see ourselves and each other. And why understanding that can be the key to reconstructing healthy relation...

Irritability is a common issue for us mid-life ladies.  But sometimes it just feels like you can't kick it no matter what you try.  I've been there... in this episode of the unraveling and many times since 😂   If you are struggling with endless or uncontrollable irritability, it may be time for a Healthy Me Reset. Click here to find out how to work with Dr. Emily on your own path to getting healt...

Feeling a little lost in this world? I have reached a time in my life where the old answers aren't fitting, the old experts don't feel like the experts I thought they were, and I'm finding so much new connection in that.  It's ok to be lost when you know your foundation.  You will be in this journey.  It's ok to not have all the answers.  You aren't meant to.  It's ok to question the answers you t...

It's easy to feel abandoned, let down, forgotten when you go through the unraveling tough time sof life.  People don't meet your expectations.  And when they don't, you push them further away.  It's a self-fulfilling cycle that creates more pain, isolation, fear, and anxiety.  In this episode, I'm sharing my own story of feeling abandoned vs abandoning during times of struggle.  You can change thi...

It's back! After a hiatus, I'm ready to release ALL of the episode for Didn't See that Coming.    Feel trapped in life? With decisions you made a long time ago that you aren't sure you would make today? With perfectionist tendencies, people-pleasing destruction, and fear of break rules? So did I.  In thsi episode, I'm sharing that story.    That was part of the unraveling and became the rest.  You...

Resetting through the unravel takes strength to show up differently when you are already struggling.  Where do you turn for that strength? That space changed drastically for me through the unraveling. As a Doctor, I knew the solution wasn't medication for me. As a coach, I knew the results and limitations that mindset changes would create. When I finally surrendered to my answers in faith, that pa...

When life hits hard, who can you trust? Do you find yourself looking to experts for advice? Or nose-deep in a book or devotionaL?  Do you seek your Mom's opinion or your spouses?   Who you turn to for strength will ultimately be your strength foundation. It's important to choose wisely.  And remember, that all humans are flawed. Even the ones you look up to. They have good intentions and still mig...

What gives you hope or relief in your unraveling?  If it's built on the stories that got you here, you will miss out on the true strength you need for the reset... and make this unraveling last a lot longer! If you hold hope that you can out action this, that you can gain enough accolades or achievements to gain hope, or that other people will fix it for you, that hope will eventually crumble. Hum...

Do you feel numb? Or choose unhealthy things to numb out and then beat yourself up for wasting your life? I have a kinship to Jelly Roll on this one.. and you will, too. As he says it best, "I'm searching for new ways I can get gone." You won't eliminate "numb" by numbing out - you will just create extra layers of numbing to unravel.  I've experienced a lot of numb in the unraveling - and only one...

What are you really hungry for in this unraveled life? For me, it was food for a really long time. Food stepped in to fix the physical hunger but nothing more. Because I was using food to distract myself from the real hunger: for acceptance, connection, family, love.  When I recognized that food didn't fix that hunger, I overcame my weight battle. But life kept showing me the unraveling layers of...

In honor of Valentine's Day, I'm looking at love unraveled! How does love show up in your life? Do you find yourself adding rules around how people love you? And how you accept it? We all need love as humans. We judge how others show, and don't show, it to us. And our relationships are built up or destroyed based on those judgements.  Are you ready to feel ALL the love in your life? You can create...

What are you using to cope with life? In the unravelling, those coping skills will start as a place of survival, something to turn to get by. But you will find they progress to creating another problem to be dealt with. And you'll end up looking to find coping skills to deal with the coping skill unless you get to the heart of the issue.  It takes a foundational reset.  That foundational reset wil...

Feel like the universal doormat in your life? Do you blend into the background? Wait to fit in before you say anything or stand out?  Does that lead to you being the chameleon? The person everyone walks on?  Being the doormat is a character issue and one that I'm all too familiar with.   Wonder how to overcome that? I'm sharing on this episode of the podcast. Because when the doormat unravels, you...

Ready to start the process of finding who you are meant to be in this unraveling? Is your go-to answer the next book, devotional or podcast? It was mine. And the reset required something else first: stillness and the ego check that stillness required. In this episode, I'm unraveling the ego in a way that's unqiue to me: medically, psychologically, and spiritually. And discovering why stillness fee...

The choices of your past don't have to define your future.  You can make new choices today. Will you?  Is this the part of the story where you make the choice to no longer let your old stories define you? Those stories weigh you down and lead to the unraveling. It's time to reset. Here's how I did it... and you can, too.  Doors are officially open to apply for my Healthy Me PhD Program, where we u...

When you feel uncomfortable with the results you are getting in life, the "shoulds" of action will inevitably step in. And, in the unraveling, that list can get really long. All those "shoulds" that you think will make you feel better pile up and make you feel worse.  Recognizing that action won't fix it is the first step to creating the foundational reset that changes your future. That "should" l...

Which sounds worse to you: having nothing to do or an endless to-do list? I bet you would say nothing ... but do you really mean it? I never did.  Here's how I knew: I just found new things to do instead of resting.  It's exhausting.  There's a reason that endless to-do list keeps occurring. And it's not your circumstances.  It's the personal value you tie to working more and being more capable. A...

Got too much to do to ever get to the real work of living fully? That was my story for years. The reason you have that endlessly exhausting to-do list is deeper than you think. It's because you have tied your personal value to the amount of action you do in your life. And it will lead to the unraveling. Bet you didn't see that coming...  If you're ready to unravel your to-do list coming into the N...

Can you find the threads in your story that built your protective armor but now seem to be weighing you down? I found a key thread in my story through a recent trip to Disney and a Jennie Allen book on the plane ride home. Once you see those threads in yourself, you can't unsee them. But unraveling the threads takes a little next level focus and reflection on your life. Getting clean with your thr...