Destined To Be

The fear of being judged can drive us to live our lives inauthentically. When we worry about what others think, it can feel safer to show up as who we think people want us to be, rather than who we are.  But it's important to know that other people will never be able to see you the way you truly are. It's impossible. They can only see you through their own biases and judgments.  On this episode of...

How many times have you worried about how others perceive you? Maybe you've worried people will judge you for getting your nails or hair done too much. Maybe you've come back from a night out completely paranoid about every little thing you said.  Life is exhausting. Let's not make it harder on ourselves. As life goes on, we evolve. There should be no apologizing for that. And we can't let others...

We all know the feeling of being bothered by someone so much that we can barely stand it. But what does that insinuate for ourselves and our mental well being?  Why is that particular thing so triggering? Why are we so worried about what someone else is doing? We know that oftentimes, our triggers are a reflection of something we need to work on in our own lives. On this episode of Destined to Be,...

I'm going to let you in on a little secret. People are not paying as much attention to you as you think they are. I don't say this to mean that you don't have a great impact on people, but we often hold ourselves back because we think people will notice we aren't perfect.  You might not launch your business because your site isn't perfect, or not go to the gym because your outfit doesn't match. Hi...

In March, we're starting an intensive, nine-month master coaching certification program. A program we know will challenge us mentally and emotionally.  How are we setting ourselves up for success? What are we doing to prioritize the program around parenting and the multiple businesses we run? On this episode of Destined to Be, we explain how we each approach a program we know will test our time an...

We spend a lot of our time in the comfort zone. We know what we like and continue our routines in our careers, with friends, and even the small things like a coffee order.  But what if your preferences are blocking your possibilities? It's easy to decide your fate before you've even had the chance to explore your options. We often find ourselves being fearful of the bad things that could happen in...

In every area of life, to move forward, we must look back and address certain parts of ourselves. This can be one of the hardest and scariest things to do, but we don't have to go through it alone. On this episode of Destined to Be, we discuss the ugly side of growth and why it's not always sunshine and rainbows like everyone online makes it seem. We explore how we have dealt with the many struggl...

Going into any situation, whether it's with a loved one or a coworker, it can be so easy to put the blame on others for how we feel. "You should have helped me." "You don't care about me." But what's really going on inside for us to feel these things so deeply? Is it childhood trauma, built up resentment from lack of communication, or an insecurity that has been pushed down for years? How can we d...

With the new year we tend to have unrealistic expectations for ourselves that cause us to hit a wall, throwing all our resolutions out the window.  What if instead of adding, adding, adding to our lists, we simplified our lives to be able to fit in more of the things that really matter?  On this episode of Destined to Be, I, Mallory, explores the idea that we need to shift from the new year, new m...

Most people grow up with the end goal to become successful. Though what does success even mean? What if instead of striving to be successful based on what others are doing or to be looked at as successful by others, you got real with yourself with what success really means to you? How can you live in alignment with your idea of success and continue to redefine it as you continue to evolve? On this...

2021 was a transformative year for us. Jeremiah's spiritual awakening in June had a ripple effect, shifting the way we think about think success and forcing us to prioritize what matters most.  We had the most rewarding year of our lives financially and deepened our relationship as a couple. And yes, we did fun things like buy Jeremiah's dream car and install a pool in our backyard. But we also re...

While there are a lot of personal development groups for women, it's harder to find programs that help men deepen their relationships with themselves and become the leaders they want to be. And that's why we're launching Men's Level Up VIP , a three-week Facebook Live training experience designed to help men decide what they really want and transform their lives. On this episode of Destined to Be,...

We're on vacation at an all-inclusive resort right now, surrounded by overindulgence. And when other people find out that we don't drink, they often justify the fact that they're making a different choice. But here's the thing: You're an adult, and you don't need our permission. If you're happy with your decision to have an adult beverage or two, more power to you. If, on the other hand, you're un...

My powerhouse wife, Mallory, just keeps achieving higher levels of success. And before my awakening this past summer, that success scared me.  I saw her growing independence as a threat. If I wasn't the provider in our marriage, where did my worth come from? Patrick Kennedy , Johnny Elsasser and Mark Gustafson are all in committed relationships with extremely successful women entrepreneurs. So, ho...

More people struggle with trauma than we realize. And we all cope with it in different ways. For me, the pain of feeling like I wasn't enough made me a troublemaker in school. Later, I turned to drugs and alcohol to fill the void. And most recently, I used achievement and expensive toys to prove myself to the world. So, what does it look like to explore the way trauma has shaped you? And what can...

Last week, we talked about making a smooth transition from one season to the next, celebrating the previous season for what it was and building the habits you need to succeed in the new one. But what else do you need to consider as you enter a new season of life? On this episode of Destined to Be, we explain how to determine who you need to connect with in a new season, describing how to set bound...

There are two different kinds of seasons. There are the actual seasons of the year—spring, summer, fall and winter.  And then there are the seasons where we move into the next phase of our lives, like when our kids start school or we shift from one career to another. Either way, moving into a new season is emotional and can pull us off track if we're not careful. So, what steps can we take to crea...

If you're transitioning into a new season of life, it's normal to feel some stress, fear and overwhelm. But if you don't have the right habits in place, it's easy to shut down in tough times and backslide on all the progress you've made. So, how do you navigate the challenges of moving into a new season?  On this episode of Destined to Be, I discuss the support you need to transition into a new se...

"Maybe the journey isn't so much about becoming anything. Maybe it's about un-becoming everything that isn't really you, so you can be who you were meant to be in the first place." --Paulo Coelho Personal development is often about adding things to your life. Another program. A new routine. A next-level experience. But the most impactful work we've done so far has been about taking things away. Ex...

If you don't date your significant other, someone else will. To keep your relationship strong, it's crucial to make time to be together—just the two of you. In fact, we recommend dating your partner AT LEAST twice a month. So, how do you create a date night experience that makes you both feel your best? And how can you leverage date night to deepen your connection and grow together? On this episod...

So, you've listened to a few podcasts and read a book or two on personal development. And now, you're ready to take that commitment to the next level.  What can you do to show you're ALL-IN on personal growth? On this episode of Destined to Be, we describe the power of traveling solo to be in the same room with other elite individuals committed to next-level growth. We share the details of the Vib...

What does it mean to invest in yourself? You have to pour into yourself to show up for other people. And it you keep putting it off, waiting until you get through the next season, the time will never come. You will never put yourself first. You will never get out of your own way. And you will never have the life you want. On this episode of Destined to Be, we discuss the upcoming round of the 3-mo...

Many families try to hide the fact that they are struggling with addiction. But the only way to overcome drug abuse and alcoholism is to bring it into the light.   As of July 26, 2021, Jeremiah has 14 years of continuous sobriety. So, what did that journey look like? And how do you navigate being in a relationship with an addict?  On this episode of Destined to Be, we share our journey through add...

Do you have people in your life that you've outgrown? People who weigh you down with negativity and steal your energy? What can you do to neutralize these energy vampires—even if you can't cut them out of your life entirely? On this episode of Destined to Be, we discuss how to handle energy vampires, explaining how to change the direction of a negative conversation and why staying quiet gives peop...

With many people, there is a hype around finding a sense of balance between all areas of life. Though, true balance isn't super attainable. Tim Grover talks about how when there is perfect balance, the scale says 0.0 which is basically nothing, so the reality of true balance is just an illusion.  What does working for a balanced life look like in an attainable aspect?  What actually makes sense fo...