Desperately Seeking

This is a free preview of a paid episode. To hear more, visit mikhila.substack.com Well there WAS video component to this but I’ve been trying to upload it for TWO DAYS and this is the message substack is giving me

today’s episode is a chat about the current wave of Taylor Swift hate and what I think it’s really about. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit mikhila.substack.com/subscribe

Sources mentioned in today’s episode Stylist Magazine article: https://www.stylist.co.uk/beauty/nail-technicians-support-mental-health-wellbeing/659807 Reddit thread: https://www.reddit.com/r/Nails/comments/1m6opsk/how_to_break_up_with_your_nail_tech/ This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit mikhila.substack.com/subscribe

This is a free preview of a paid episode. To hear more, visit mikhila.substack.com On this HOTTEST day, I chose to tackle a particularly spicy issue.. but, honestly? It doesn’t feel spicy to me at all. It feels like common sense.

‘Harry Styles is the Alka Seltzer of Music’ was the alternative title for this one.. the original being, ‘should we let FOMO run our lives?’ I think the one I landed on is the most honest and the least misleading, based on the very random conversation we had outside Wembley on Saturday night, after leaving the Harry Styles concert. For someone who only downloaded an abum of his a few weeks ago and...

This is a free preview of a paid episode. To hear more, visit mikhila.substack.com Today’s episode is sleepy - but not sleepy enough to sleep. We’re talking about my recent reaction to meds, how stress can affect more than your mood and why my difficulty balancing my want to be offline with my need to maintain a social presence led me to ANOTHER altercation with a troll this week.

I’ve been a creator on Youtube for 16 years, and a consumer of Youtube for 1 day more. I was looking for inspiration on google ahead a hair appointment in April 2010. I was having a pink streak in my hair and found an image that turned out to be a thumbnail and led me to a tutorial from someone called Zoeebella - not to be confused with Zoella. I lost an hour to her videos about makeup and style b...

This is a free preview of a paid episode. To hear more, visit mikhila.substack.com Today’s episode has been on the list for a few weeks but I kept putting it off. Of course, once I decided to record it, I had no notes - so here’s my rambly, one-take chat about my early experience with ADHD meds after being diagnosed TWICE and looking forward to that magical fix-it-all pill I’d read about for years...

A friend of mind has been on a bit of a reflective journey recently and we’ve had lots of conversations about childhood and parenting. How we wish things had been, how we would be different, what worked and what didn’t. How much comparison is fair, given we’re literally living in a whole new world now, and how much we should just let go of because, ‘it’s their first time on earth too’. This is a p...

I was laughing at Emma in Monday’s episode when she was saying she’s always starting things and then tapering off... but let’s be real. That’s me all over, isn’t it? I was talking to a friend recently about a guy she just started seeing. He was consistently letting her down and arriving late or not at all. I said, ‘I am absolutely on your side... we think this guy is a jerk and he’s messing you ar...

Emma is back for an episode that just did not want to be! Even the editing was delayed because my laptop would not accept the footage!! CURSED, I tell you. We chatted about the difficulties of learning new things as we age, just wanting things to WORK when we plug them in, the unknown enemy that is AI and my recent dabble with app-blocking software to prevent me losing my entire life to my phone.....

This is a free preview of a paid episode. To hear more, visit mikhila.substack.com When I tell you I was struck down with technical difficulties this week.. My phone was gaslighting me in to pretending it had no storage, by way of corrupt data. After wiping that and starting over (which was a whole thing because I lost access to my authenticator app for my work laptop the week of a whole new IT ro...

First and foremost - the first episode with Lee is RAPIDLY climbing my ‘most popular’ list, and when you consider it’s a MEMBERS ONLY, that’s bonkers! I created a little group chat on insta, for listeners to weigh on on future episodes and MAYBE even talk among themselves (it’s early days.. nobody wants to make the first move) and the poll in that group was pretty heavily weighted towards another...

This is a free preview of a paid episode. To hear more, visit mikhila.substack.com Welcome back to Desperately Seeking and to a brand new *MAYBE* series, ‘couples therapy’. The idea is to cover hot relationship topics with my husband of 14 years, answer questions you guys send in ..and will we talk about the importance of reality television as pseudo psychology and a way to open up conversation ab...

Someone just reached out to me on instagram, thanking me for sharing my own journey with sobriety and recommending a great mocktail syrup I should try. Every time someone DMs me or leaves a comment to say they’re trying it for themselves, I feel a little swell of pride - for both of us. But that pride is often followed by a pang of guilt, because if I’m praising you for something, I must be condem...

I’m Mikhila, and I’m a rage-oholic. I didn’t recognise this trait in myself until a few years ago, because it’s not even a little but the case in my real life. I’m not an angry person, I don’t shout or argue people down. I’ll debate, don’t get me wrong.. I don’t agree with everyone, but I’m not aggressive when irritated and I have never felt the urge to punch a wall, or a person. So then, why am I...

I’ve been consuming A LOT of money mindset content recently. I want to hear from people who’ve turned their finances around and are sharing their journey. It’s inspiring to know what motivates change and I always learn more from someone who’s struggled than a natural savant. read more at https://mikhila.substack.com/ This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or...

This is a free preview of a paid episode. To hear more, visit mikhila.substack.com Today’s bonus episode is audio AND visual. Once again coming at you from my car with a rant about how women are raised to feel like they should be less. Check out mikhila.com to watch the video on Substack

This year, I’ve been sharing my monthly spending on YouTube, with the larger goal to finally getting my financial s**t together. Turning 40, I had a bit of an ‘enough is enough’ epiphany and decided to start no only limiting my spending, but really scrutinising it. One question I received was from someone who truly did not get it (or me) and wanted to know what my longterm plan was. Surely I wasn’...

This is a free preview of a paid episode. To hear more, visit mikhila.substack.com Today’s episode touches on some ‘sensitive’ ground but I don’t think it should be. We’ve always been on different sides but NOW, if you’re not on my side, you’re my enemy. That shouldn’t be the case and it’s no way to change hearts and minds. It just keeps us further apart - and you know SOMEONE is benefitting …

This was inspired by a previous episode, a conversation with Lee and THIS fantastic interview between Lena Dunham and Drew Barrymore. I’d highly recommend you give that a watch, if this is your thing. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit mikhila.substack.com/subscribe

This is a free preview of a paid episode. To hear more, visit mikhila.substack.com I was a bad first wife to my first husband. Almost 20 years later, I can see why.

dipping back in to the archives today, I thought this chat was relevant to a conversation I had last week. It was originally recorded as a YouTube video - apologies for the spotty audio - but I didn’t think I could re-record it and capture the same energy so.. here we are. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit mikhila....

This is a free preview of a paid episode. To hear more, visit mikhila.substack.com My first Substack VLOG. I wanted to document my feelings before and after my ADHD assessment and it felt like a good time to try video along with audio.

This is a free preview of a paid episode. To hear more, visit mikhila.substack.com Since giving up alcohol (originally temporarily) at the end of 2024, I really haven’t missed it at all. I thought I would. I assumed I had a budding dependence (part of why I stopped) and genuinely thought it would be a struggle. It turns out, once my brain decides on something, it’s VERY easy. A similar thing happe...