Delight Your Marriage

Main points: -God's might and glory is shown in the uniqueness of creation. And in the tiniest of details of your body.  -The way you feel about your body affects the way you interact with your spouse and the rest of the world.  -Children are released in their bodies. Body insecurity is learned (and its unattractive).  -Our self-perception is tied to so many different things. Time of the month, wh...

How to enjoy sex as a woman. We as women have so much going on. So many commitments and responsibilities. Busy.  For women its a slow process to transition from life to physical intimacy. (For men, not so much). For us, its slow and it should be. Its an opening. Its a releasing. Its a being invited into her divinely orchestrated womanhood.   What does it feel like to be in touch of your body? Why...

Embodying your Sexuality P1 & P2, Episode 160  &  Episode 161 . "Save sex for marriage". A wise piece of advice. But because I didn't learn anything about it's value, I just assumed it was nasty.  But I never learned about my Ressa. Why your Ressa needed to be reframed and renamed:  Ressa = Receiving him into your Essence  (Feel free to keep the name you feel most comfortable with. However, I don'...

When you're confident in your body you're not being prideful, you're humbly acknowledging His gift of your body. Your beauty is not a question is a statement. God knit you together, counted your hairs. He cares about all the incredible intracacies of your body.  It matters what you do with it. God is all about the spirit and mind and soul. But He also says love the Lord with all your strength. You...

I thought my body was gross. I thought God didn't give me a good one. God changed my perspective. Now that insecurity has become fierce respect for this wonder God has given me.  Now I'm convinced that we as women are jewels. Our bodies are of the highest value. And we should not put our jewels before swine. Your body should be adored by someone who deserves it. By someone who serves you, respects...

Welcome to this brand new series all about body. Body image, food issues, body acceptance, comfort in sex... all of it affects how you make love.  But who made it? Is it yours? Are you responsible for how it looks? My body image struggles caused me great pain throughout my life. It was my "project." It was my obsession. It was my thing that made me feel OK but also horrible. But as my eating incre...

In the long view of your 100 years on earth, what is going to matter in THIS season?  I had an abrupt and unsettling realization when I had a parent teacher conference a few weeks ago. Though I believe I was discerning God's will and way for my life. I don't believe I was pursuing it in God's timing.  And that is one of the central themes around today's podcast. What is your season (mine is a quar...

Sexual intimacy should be a place of rest. It can even become a "haven for me".  In this interview, Juli Slattery, of Authentic Intimacy, talks about the spiritual priority of sexual intimacy in marriage and the passion involved in covenant love. She also discusses which Sexual acts are ok? How do you know if it's a conscience thing or just a comfort thing?  Has God said no to this?  Is this lovin...

When you think about the women of the Bible who comes to mind? Ruth, the loyal daughter who served her widowed mother-in-law. Esther, who risked her life to save her people. The hardworking Proverbs 31 wife. Mary, the teenage girl who's heart was so tender before the Lord that He chose her to be Jesus' mother.  Yes. The women in the Bible are incredible and should be aspired to. Did you immediatel...

He proposed to me over fast food in a parking lot. I think it might have been drizzling.  Well he's not that man anymore. God has changed him. He has brought him in so many ways to a place that I could not have imagined were possible. Truly.  I hope this podcast inspires you. I hope it empowers you to make the hard choices for yourself to see what God might want to allow you to think about.  At th...

This is Part 3 of Why we became romantic. I was a generous wife in intimacy and I felt loved in some areas, but I didn't feel loved outside of the bedroom. The romance on dates, the random gifts, the consistent compliments, the surprises were missing.  (Part 1 is more of the theory behind it and Part 2 is the beginning of my discussion with my husband that exemplifies this process.)   Being happy...

I encourage you to first listen to  Part 1  here. Today, you get to hear the gory details of how awful I was...from  my husband . He is giving you all the dirt on me, for your benefit (hopefully!). There's a ton of mistakes I made that I thought was helping, but was actually driving a severe wedge between us. I was making it impossible for him to love me in the ways I was desperate for him to love...

You may have thought you chose the right man when you were dating, but suddenly things changed when you got married. He stopped trying. He stopped woo-ing you and just took you for granted. When was the last time he took you on a date? Its so tough to feel that if he just tried a little you'd be happy. Its an awful feeling. The good news is it can change with these steps. Its hard work on our end,...

There's a lot we can do to make our love lives more lively. More than you might have thought. What about making sex into a game? Here's a wife who made a Christian app that makes sex more fun for all of us! Amy's passion has come out of a place of understanding the significant impact that comes out of a place of marital intimacy. This is the second half of her interview and it is so important for...

Financial challenges aren't easy. They are in fact the #1 reason for divorce. How did her marriage survive when things got really stressful financially? When you're stressed tensions run high in the household. Often the last thing on your mind (especially for women) is making love.  And this wife and mother believes it is what brought them through the serious challenges in their marriage.  God doe...

I get so many emails from husbands. I want to send a message to their wives...the wife I used to be. I was a wife who saw sex as Dirty Wrong Ungodly Scary He was sinning for wanting it Too much work I didn't like it / it hurt / I didn't know what to do I don't have time I don't have energy What's in it for me? He's way too interested in sex And so I avoided it and got resentful that the things I w...

Now that you know the value of your sexuality (from  Part 1 ), what does it mean to share that with your spouse? I was a woman so insecure and unaware of the beauty of my body that it shocked me to realize the attraction my husband felt towards me. It took a while to actually come to accept it was true. But from there, to become fierce in the bedroom, that was another process.  That's  what we're...

After releasing Episode 56 & 57, I realized the good guys needed an episode. I may have been a bit too harsh on those episodes. So, I have this updated/revised/clarified/contextualized episode to give a bit more grace and kindness to the good guys, looking to love and be loved in sexual intimacy with their wives.

Part 1: You want to captivate your man. Is that even possible, you may ask? Am I captivating? It was a process for me to move from thinking my sexuality (body + "Ressa") was gross to then accept and embody my sexuality as a gift from God to walk out (exclusively) in my marriage. But as I did, I found my confidence and identity began to shift into a woman who knows her value, who is fiercely aware...

If I told you how my husband proposed to me, you would be shocked that I said yes (well I didn't exactly...but that's a different story...). But that is not the man I have today. Just this past weekend, Mr. Romance, surprised me by making dinner, getting our 2 toddlers ready, packing extra toys to keep them occupied, packing an entire picnic, bringing wine glasses and my favorite bottle of wine......

(Part 1)  Her husband didn't want to spend time with her. He was apathetic towards her. He would rather watch television than even make love to her. Now he can't keep his eyes and hands off her :) Dancing in the kitchen, less stress and glorious compliments are just side benefits. Laura Doyle's work began a marriage-changing transformation for me. Laura Doyle, best selling author, speaker and coac...

This is Part 2 of my advice for men who want their wives to enjoy sex more. Though you may feel so hurt that your wife doesn't desire and/or meet your intimacy with joy the way you crave, there is a lot going on for her too.   "Hurt people hurt people". In this podcast, I hope to shed light on things both of you may be going through. And not even realize that you (men) are undermining the very int...

(Part 1) You may want more sex. You may want her to want you more. You may want her to care more about your drive. Maybe all of the above and a whole lot more... Well, the biggest barrier women face is insecurity. An insecure wife can't take off her clothes, can't seduce, can't enjoy physical intimacy. But isn't that her problem? Isn't that something she needs to go do, with the guidance of her hu...

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