Delight Your Marriage

Are you having the WRONG type of sex? Why your wife doesn't LOVE intimacy Why sex feels carnal Why sex feels like it's just for HIM Why sex isn't fulfilling (EVEN if you orgasm) I argue that there is a very legitimate reason... You guys haven't made feminine sex....ever Have you ever even been exposed to what feminine sex is? Let me give you a description and then the tools on how to get started!...

So... my husband listens to every podcast before I post them. He often gives me notes on what I need to take out or change. I have been podcasting since Feb 2015 (!!) and by God's grace have been awarded one of the Top 30 Relationship podcasts on the web!! My husband ended up listening and having an entire page FULL of notes. POSITIVE notes! (One negative note--not that it was wrong but that it mi...

How could suffering ever be a gift? Why would focusing on suffering be a wise thing? A lot of times the women I coach don't take the time to look at the pain and suffering they're experiencing. But when they do that, they are distracting themselves away from its lessons--the wisdom God wants to teach us through it. And even through our AWARENESS of it. On this episode, I talk about the 13 Gifts of...

Can things really change? "It's been 5, 10, 25 years, how could this ever be different?" Suffering in marriage makes your whole life suffer---kids, job, ministry, peace, walking in the fruits of the spirit, sexual fulfillment, chastity in thoughts, satisfaction in marriage, covetous thoughts of other marriages, sin in many places, not starting the ministries God has called you to and would thus no...

WHAT SHOULD YOUR LIFE BE ABOUT AT THE BEGINNING OF 2019? I used to try to cram all of my goals into the beginning of the year. And I would scramble for a few weeks potentially months—at best and then drop all of them by April.   I've learned something very valuable that I wanted to share today. I want to talk to you about exactly how I set my priorities throughout every year. It frees me up to foc...

You might think your marriage is too far gone. There is too much strife, emotional and mental abuse, painful memories, WAY too much baggage to ever recover.  I encourage you to review this entire series and take a journey with me on this episode. Maybe we've been looking at this whole marriage thing all wrong. And we've been looking at what it means to be man and woman wrong too? What is the mascu...

1 in 4 women this year will be sexually abused. You may never know who... your sister, best friend, daughter, mother, wife... You may have been the victim. I'm so sorry for your pain and what you have been through. You are not alone and you do not need to feel shame any longer.  Today's podcast is to help all women process the pain of abuse. I think it affects all of us whether we ourselves have e...

Here's what is covered in today's episode There are a ton of "submit" verses in the Bible.  They were used to abuse me in my first marriage. I think these also have made men feel that they had the right to abuse & justify their actions with the misuse of these scriptures. But what people don't realize is they are reading the Bible (and even translations of the Bible) through a patriarchial lense....

This one honestly wasn't that easy to think through or record.  Here's what I cover: how I hold my opinions about women in the church and I think we all should how women showed up in the Bible I think Christian men should be on the forefront of the movement to end sexual abuse against women (Jesus would have been) women in ministry leadership the things I'm still processing around this your sexual...

 When I work with women, I think the biggest problem is they don't have boundaries.  And for them to slowly strategically come out of abusive relationships and cause their marriage to thrive instead of the abusive, they have to have boundaries. But it might not look the way you think it will look.   I grew up without boundaries myself. And So I never learned that I was responsible for me: my feeli...

(So sorry, my computer broke so I wasn't able to edit and this is late, but I think the content is all there!) -- I was abused and I was completely unaware at the time. Because he was spiritually gifted I trusted him. But he wasn't exhibiting the fruits of the spirit.  If you're being abused, it's so hard to see what's really going on in your marriage because something that's inherent in abuse is...

Not discussed… but it's common to be attracted to someone that's not your spouse. What do you do about it? First, figure out where you are in your level of attraction and then decide action steps: -1-3 (when you see them/talk to them you feel a chemistry) talk to God, get busy, be an enthusiastic lover with your husband, redirect your thoughts, read the Word, work with your hands   -4-7 (find your...

Excited we're back together after far too long! We have got some fantastic episodes coming your way in this new season of DYM!   What was the last sex scandal you heard about? What was the last Christian sex scandal? It probably wasn't too long ago. It's really sad. And it happens so much, far too much. Why is this happening? What can we do about this?  On today's show, I talk about why this is so...

Hi all,    DYM is taking a break for the summer but will be back on late August, early September.    Blessings,  Belah

Questions Discussed: Is it helpful to fantasize about others? How to get turned on How to have an orgasm Female erections How to rekindle your attraction How to get turned on even if you don't "like" him right now How you can be turned on by him  What he can do What you can do   Check out this episode's show notes with links -------- I didn't feel I could give the specificity I'd like to on a publ...

Part 2:  Well, by now you know that I'm a fan of The Surrendered Wife. It has changed the way I think and I am so grateful. Well, this time I have some of the more challenging questions about making your desires known, sex, and some more challenging realities like pornography. Ultimately, its a fantastic conversation which I hope you'll listen in! Resources mentioned: Surrendered Wife Surrendered...

Well, by now you know that I'm a fan of The Surrendered Wife. It has changed the way I think and I am so grateful. Well, this time I have some of the more challenging questions answered like...  -What about when you have fundamental differences? -What about different parenting styles? -Marriage therapy ever a good idea?   -What about when he's nasty but you don't want a huge issue by saying "ouch"...

Discussed in this conversation: Divorce is an option, for Christians and non-Christians. I hope I can convince you of the importance of this truth. If you are not aware that this is possible for your marriage, you may be blindsided by this reality. But if you believe you both are free beings who choose everyday to remain faithful to your vows, I think you can walk more circumspectly and carefully....

What is included in this show: Why is amazing intimacy important in marriage? Why the lure of Sex is so great Marital love making is supposed to be intoxicating Should you try to make your sex life exciting? Could God wants our sex life to be exciting What I think is the biggest barrier to amazing intimacy Why the enemy want to destroy the excitement in your sex life The attitude behind something...

What do you want your marriage to look like? Is it at the level of the connection and depth of love that you desire? If not, what does it look like? And the follow up question is what you can do to change it? We cannot change what we do not notice. I encourage you to take stock of your intimacy which is your husband's fuel of your connection. How often are you making love and how are you making it...

Sex is Better In Marriage. If it's better, why is there so much divorce and so many unhappy marriages? Its better but it's also harder. Here's why sex is harder in marriage: You see the good, the bad & the ugly. You have to be vulnerable and that's messy & uncomfortable. You see them in the mundane...when you're brushing your teeth... how can they be sexy to you? You have to maintain attraction to...

Main Points: The safety and stability of a home is due to the spouses' generosity in the bedroom Making love is God's work. "Yes, God changed me. But he changed me through [our intimacy]." -my husband Gen 2:24 Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his  wife, and they shall become one flesh . And the man and his wife were both naked and were not ashamed. God was tal...

The specific steps to seduce: Get him to want it Tease him Give him a little bit Pull away Give him what he wants Why Seduction is important, helpful tips on what will help you seduce and next steps.   The Seduction Course P1 will be released next week! Purchase now to have the most discounted price! (It will go up on Tuesday!) I am SO excited to share this content with you. I think it will really...