Delight Your Marriage

Corona virus, COVID-19, has impacted you.  For so many the fear is tangible.  I know it's impacting your marriage. Sadly the divorce rates in China have skyrocketed as a result of the quarantine.  I don't want that to continue or become worse. I want to help you. In your marriage, in this time, is it possible to be a soft landing DURING this crisis?   How can you get better? How can you and your s...

Fear activates. Over the Christmas break my son had a very serious health crisis. And we cried out to God. And God moved. My faith was increased and everyone who has heard the story was impacted to trust God more.    Have you ever heard, "There are no atheists in foxholes"? People want hope to grab onto. And when reason fails to give that hope, the power of God can come in to help people experienc...

In the midst of the storm that you both would be bound together. That any worry or fear would be replaced with faith, hope and love. 

So, I messed up. I'm throwing myself under the bus here. I'm having trouble having grace with myself. I share what happened here. Maybe you can totally relate to my situation, or maybe you can't. Hopefully you'll at least be amused by my humbling... We all have thorns in our flesh to keep us humble so hopefully this will be encouraging to you... to see me hum-iliated :) Also... I want to help you...

So, I hear you. And I validate your desire. I wish wives would understand the importance and privilege she has to love him the WAY HE RECEIVES love. With that in mind, I want to encourage you, dear husband. Jesus KNOWS about your high sex drive. In fact, God is responsible for it. It's very clear in the Bible that He knows and designed you with it. So, when I am encouraging you in how to view your...

You may have an inkling, but I bet you'll be surprised by my guest Sharon Jaynes ( sharonjaynes.com ) and the interesting topics we dig into to help others understand in what ways the Song of Solomon was speaking about intimacy between husband and wife. (Hint hint, they're not talking about the farmer's market). :) Sharon Jaynes has authored over 20 books and is passionate about women walking conf...

Why did she heal?  What motivated a woman who was a size 0, undernourished, had been abused horribly to decide it was worth the challenge to heal? How did she heal and now have a thriving intimate life with her husband? Catherine gives us insight, hope and practical tools for you. You too can be healed, by God's grace. Whether you were abused or your spouse, this will be helpful to understand the...

Today's interview is a story of resilience and hope.  Catherine goes into her story lightly because her full story is extremely difficult to take in.  HOWEVER, there is hope. Catherine is a living example that God can heal you.  1 in 4 women AND 1 in 6 men have suffered some form of sexual trauma. So, the healing needs to happen for SO many of us.  What can you do as a wife or husband to heal?  Wh...

So this is one of those topics that even when we're talking about intimacy we don't talk about.  But because I have the honor of speaking to women and men about some of the stuff they have never told ANYBODY, this comes up.  I want to share this episode because I want to help you. I don't want you to feel alone and icky and like you're sinning. Maybe you're not OR what are the specific Biblical bo...

"Belah , your webinar was absolutely amazing , we both enjoyed it and cant wait for the other 2! ​You have such an incredible insight on the male -female relationship that we haven't seen from any other relationship expert ! ​Your content was spot on and was such an awesome introduction . Where were you 25 years ago !!!!!!! Lol"​​​ -Husband I was very grateful to receive this review! Hope you can...

Wives: As a wife who was bewildered by his desire and feeling grossed out by it, I get it! But more than that... my hangups included, it's dirty, wrong, sinful, perverted, from the pornos, etc etc etc. But he kept caring about this. And he wasn't the only one. And now I hear from husbands all the time about how important this is to them.  And these guys aren't jerks, pigs, or abusers.  They're God...

Oh man! You're going to get a lot out of this one. Larry Shushansky (from https://www.independentenough.com/ ) has 40 years of experience as a psychotherapist. We dig into what conflict is, why it happens and how to deal with it. But also that it is GOOD for your marriage. However, MOST couples do conflict WRONG---thus it's BAD for theirs. Don't let yours be in this category! He has been featured...

If you've listened for a while you may be at a spot where you're really hoping your spouse would tune into the content.  Especially if you're a husband there is a way that may be really effective around the holiday.  "Honey, for my Christmas present would you [read this book, watch this video training with me...]?" I have seen this be an effective way to encourage your spouse towards listening and...

The new year is just about upon us! But how are you prepping for it? How are you making sure you're growing in the ways God wants you to? In this podcast, I invite you to think about the ways God may be asking you to reflect on the year you've had. I encourage you to have a pen and paper handy so you can jot down what comes up for you.  Why is this a difficult task? I discuss the 3 reasons people...

It's that time of year. Happiness and fun and joy is expected.  Is it reality for you?  Do you have joy in your heart?  CAN you have it?  I want to talk about this because the holidays can be extremely difficult. And I want to invite you to think about the things you can do even today that will change your perspectives.  How do you make your life aligned with your deepest values and highest vision...

I've been asking women about hope they feel about seduction because 1-that's what I hear so often from the husbands I coach. They crave to be seduced by their wives. 2-that's what I hear so often from wives...  I'm not comfortable. I don't know what to do. Is God even OK with it?  We have been married for so many years, how do I start?  How do I get over feeling silly?   I want to encourage you. B...

We argued yesterday. Knives were involved. Well truthfully, it was a disagreement at a restaurant. But the actual emotions happened way before the restaurant. My husband is on the show again (back by popular demand!) to tell how he was feeling and what he did and why.   Why is this important for your intimacy? A wife wants to make love to a man she feels safe with. If you're arguing in a way that...

Your first time having sex, was it just like my experience? A bit awkward, NOT like how the movies portrayed it, and maybe even a BIT uncomfortable?   So now that you've done it a lot more, I bet what was uncomfortable in the beginning has started to feel a lot more comfortable, right? So, would you like to ENJOY it more?   Have you ever asked yourself these questions: Should I initiate?  Should I...

I used to think "if I just got thin enough then I'd be confident." But, then I did. And I didn't.  Our society tricks us into thinking beauty is only a certain thing. But God made us beautiful. And when you don't love your body your chances of loving sex is far lower.  On this episode I want to help you see more clearly and not have the inappropriate expectations of yourself that is inhibiting you...

For the free resources The 9 Lies Undermining Your Sex Drive audio & pdf go to: www.delightyourmarriage.com/desire   Do you have low drive? Discover the blocks that may be holding you back from a stronger desire for your husband! 

When she found out he went to jail because he almost killed his father and was a diagnosed sociopath... a thought struck her: "I will trust him with the lives of my future children".   There are so many amazing topics for this week's podcast, I'm not sure which ones should I write here! Marie and I talk more in depth about her relationship with God and her relationship with her husband.   These ar...

I had a wonderful and extremely inspiring chat with Marie Wood, who is raising 5 children (a basketball team, according to her!) with her husband, David Wood--the very famous Apologist . Two of their sons, Reid and Paley, both have a rare, life-threatening condition called myotubular myopathy. It's so rare that it only affects 1 in 50,000 male live births. It causes problems with muscle tone and d...

Hi there! This is part 2 of my chat with Ruth Buezis, author of Awaken Love . You can listen to part 1 here. If you loved listening to part 1, part 2 delves deeper into the specifics of lovemaking and Ruth and I's thoughts about the different types of orgasm that women would love to experience.    Other things we talk about: Just having sex vs. getting to know each other through sex The dynamics o...