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首先要说一下本次介绍的是 Pinker，不是 Pink，另外一个相似名字的 Daniel H.Pink 也是我喜欢的一位作者，大家不要搞混了。 在社会学里会提到一些我们习以为常却又难以言状的社会现象，比如“心照不宣”的默契，或是“房间里的大象”。我们似乎都有一种直觉，知道在某些场合下，有些事虽然大家都知道，但就是不能说破。为什么会这样？ 人类的沟通方式正因科技而变得前所未有的直接和高效，但我们似乎也前所未有地困惑于人际交往中的种...

有没有朋友还记得以前课本里那个“两小儿辩日”的故事：一个孩子说，太阳刚升起时离我们近，因为它看起来像车盖那么大；另一个孩子反驳，不对，中午时才离我们近，因为那时感觉最热。他们引经据典，逻辑清晰，连圣人孔子也无法判断谁对谁错。 这个流传千年的故事，精妙地揭示了“说服”的本质：即便是面对同一个客观事实，不同的论据和角度也能构建出同样有说服力的观点。但我们常常忽略，这场最激烈的辩论，其实每天都在我们自己的内...

作为一个过了45岁的中年男人，虽然我觉得自己很与时俱进了，但还是常常有一种感觉，我们所熟知的语言，仿佛被按下了快进键，很多都搞不懂了。尤其是在年轻人的世界里，包括我的两个孩子，他们新词层出，旧词迅速迭代，有时听他们聊天，感觉就像在破译一套加密电报。 让我举一个你应该没遇到的一个例子，当听到“unalive”这个词时，你什么反应？ 初次见到它时，我作为一个母语是中文的英语学习者，第一反应是：这不就是一个典型的“中...

休整了一下，重启更新。 另外从后台看15-17分钟是大家最为普遍可以容忍的完播时长，因此新的内容会控制每集在20分钟内，希望降低大家的耳朵压力。 每一集所讨论的书籍介绍会暂时复用我公众号的文章，当然两者的内容可能会有所不同，我是希望多维度的让大家去喜欢上我分享的书。 更多改变的建议也欢迎大家留言。 本期书籍介绍： 这本书必须送给公号所有的女性关注者 在小宇宙查看该单集文稿

We live in a new Gilded Age of staggering inequality. But what is life actually like for the people at the very top—the "have-yachts"? In this episode, we dive into Evan Osnos's sharp and timely new book, The Haves and Have-Yachts. He pulls back the curtain on the exclusive world of the modern super-rich, exploring their extravagant lifestyles, their insulated communities, and the unique mindset t...

Why is this generation of young people facing an unprecedented mental health crisis? The answer lies in a dramatic collision between their brains and the world they inhabit. In this episode, we explore Matt Richtel's vital new book, How We Grow Up, to reveal the science behind the adolescent brain—an ancient engine built for exploration, with a powerful accelerator and a still-developing braking s...

这到底是随机的冲动，还是深刻的洞见？我们都有过“凭感觉”的时刻，但究竟该在何时相信它？ 在本期节目中，我们将深入探讨Laura Huang的颠覆性新作《You Already Know》，为你揭示直觉并非魔法，而是一门可以掌握的科学。你将发现“直觉过程”与“第六感”之间的关键区别，并学会识别它三种不同的面孔： 灵光一现 的“尤里卡时刻” （Aha!），预感不妙的 “蜘蛛感应” （Uh-oh）， 以及 颠覆认知的 “震撼瞬间”（Whoa!）。这便是你的实用指南...

Seen. No reply. Does your mind immediately spiral into "What did I do wrong?" If you constantly find yourself overthinking social cues and fearing the worst, this episode is for you. We're diving into Meg Josephson's timely new book, Are You Mad at Me?, to unpack the surprisingly common phenomenon of "Rejection Sensitivity." This is the intense emotional pain that follows a perceived criticism, wh...

We're always told to "be present." But what if that's the worst advice when you're facing a high-stakes decision? In this episode, we dive into L. David Marquet's powerful new book, Distancing, and reveal how our default "me-here-now" perspective can trap us in ego, emotion, and bias. Discover the practical superpower of psychological distancing—the art of intentionally stepping back to see the bi...

What if "being happy" isn't the only goal? If your life feels comfortable but monotonous, you might be missing a crucial third dimension of well-being. In this episode, we explore Shigehiro Oishi's fascinating new book, Life in Three Dimensions, and its groundbreaking concept of the "psychologically rich life." This is a life defined not by constant joy or grand purpose, but by novel, complex, and...

What if everything we thought we knew about motivation is wrong? Why do bonuses sometimes fail to boost performance, and what truly drives us to do our best work? In this episode, we tackle the surprising science of motivation with Daniel H. Pink's game-changing book, Drive. We reveal why the traditional "carrot-and-stick" approach is a broken model for the 21st century. Discover the three pillars...

Why do we choose the cake over the apple, even when we're on a diet? What if the problem isn't your willpower, but the design of the cafeteria? In this episode, we explore the revolutionary idea from Richard H. Thaler's influential book, Nudge. Discover how "choice architecture"—the way options are presented—secretly guides our everyday decisions. We break down how a simple, gentle push can dramat...

What's the most extreme thing you would do to reinvent yourself? This week, we share the wild, true story of a man who hit the reset button on his life—HARD. Matthew Polly was a Princeton student with a clear path to success, but he felt like a 98-pound weakling with no direction. So he did the unthinkable: he dropped out, flew to China, and became one of the first Americans to study Kung Fu with...

Life doesn't always go according to plan. When your Option A is no longer available, how do you find the strength to move forward? In this episode, we explore the profound insights from Option B, co-authored by Sheryl Sandberg and psychologist Adam Grant. Discover the "Three P's"—Personalization, Pervasiveness, and Permanence—the critical mental traps that block our resilience after a setback. Lea...

Why do we make irrational choices, even when we believe we're being logical? The answer lies in the two systems of thinking constantly at war in our minds. In this episode, we dive into one of my all-time favorite books: Daniel Kahneman's masterpiece, Thinking, Fast and Slow. Discover the difference between your fast, intuitive 'System 1' and your slow, deliberate 'System 2'. Learn how hidden ment...

Do you dread the moment you're put on the spot? That feeling of your mind going blank when asked for feedback in a meeting or when facing an unexpected question? You're not alone, and it's not a personal failing—it's a skill you haven't learned yet. In this episode, we unpack the brilliant methodology from Matt Abrahams' book, Think Faster, Talk Smarter. Discover a simple yet powerful framework th...

Ever feel like conversations are a battleground where everyone is just waiting to attack? Or that you're constantly talking past your colleagues and family? The problem often isn't what we say, but how we fail to listen. In this episode, we dive into Emily Kasriel's groundbreaking book, Deep Listening, to uncover a practical method that changes everything. Learn the three levels of listening—to un...

Feeling busy but not productive? In this episode, we explore the core principles from Mithu Storoni's new book, Hyperefficient, to help you break free from the "urgency trap." Discover a powerful framework for making strategic decisions about what truly deserves your attention. Learn how to shift your focus from simply reacting to urgent tasks to proactively investing your energy in significant, h...

Amazon：Best Books of the Year So Far 2025 In this episode, we dive into We Can Do Hard Things — a profound new collaboration from Glennon Doyle, Abby Wambach, and Amanda Doyle. Drawing on deeply personal stories and conversations with voices like Brené Brown, Dr. Becky Kennedy, and Esther Perel, this book invites us to explore the messy, beautiful work of being human. We unpack powerful insights...

The world our kids are growing up in feels chaotic, uncertain — even overwhelming. So how do we raise children who can thrive, not just survive? In this episode, we explore Hello, Cruel World! by Melinda Wenner Moyer, a science journalist and mother asking urgent questions about parenting in an age of anxiety, climate change, social media, and inequality. Backed by research and grounded in real-li...

What if the key to success isn’t what you know — but how you make people feel? In this episode, we revisit How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie, a timeless classic that continues to transform relationships nearly a century after its first release. From the power of sincere appreciation to the art of persuasive listening, we unpack practical principles that still resonate in tod...

Feel busy but never really get anything done? In this episode, we dive into Deep Work by Cal Newport, exploring how distraction-free focus is not just a productivity trick — it's a superpower in the modern world. We unpack why deep work has become so rare, what it unlocks for your career and mind, and how you can train your brain to reclaim focus. From daily rituals to quitting shallow habits, we...

What’s next for the space economy, and how could it change our world? In this episode, we dive into Space to Grow by Matthew Weinzierl, exploring how private companies like SpaceX are reshaping space exploration and the economy. From asteroid mining to lunar bases, we unpack the groundbreaking opportunities and the challenges, from space debris to ethical dilemmas. Discover why the space frontier...

What happens when your dream job at a tech giant turns into a moral nightmare? In this episode, we explore Careless People — a powerful memoir by Sarah Wynn-Williams, a former senior executive at Facebook, who once believed in tech’s potential to build a better world. We discuss what her story reveals about leadership, responsibility, and how institutions shape — and sometimes distort — the ideals...

What happens when a brand built on trust puts profits first? In this episode, we explore No More Tears — a riveting expose that pulls back the curtain on Johnson & Johnson, the company behind baby powder, Band-Aids, and decades of public goodwill. 📘 Book featured: No More Tears Author: Gardiner Harris Publisher: Random House Publication Date: April 8, 2025 Language: English | Pages: 464 | ISBN-10...