Decisions Change Everything

Ever left a weird or uncomfortable situation wishing you'd spoken up, then spiraled wondering if you were just "being dramatic"? This episode is a real-life reckoning with that exact moment - the confusion, the self-doubt, and the guts it takes to go back and say, "Nope, that wasn't okay." We're digging into why you second-guess yourself, how old habits of keeping t...

This episode, Kimberly wades straight into the deep end of a topic most people would rather avoid: negotiating what you want in sex and relationships without losing yourself in the process. She coaches through a real-world situation ripped from the comments section: what do you do when you hate porn, your partner wants it, and now you feel boxed into a corner where you either send nudes or risk th...

Kimberly’s pulling back the curtain on what it’s actually like dating as a bisexual woman - and bringing her straight, military-vet partner Anthony along for the ride. No sugarcoating, no surface-level Pride Month fluff. They’re getting real about bi stereotypes (“There’s this idea that bi women are automatically cheaters... like, what?!”), the invisibleness that is bi erasure, and what it’s like...

Let’s get real about relationships, especially when you’ve got a messy resume of codependency, ADHD quirks, and a deep aversion to letting anyone in. This week, Kimberly invites her partner Anthony onto the pod for his first ever podcast episode - no performances, just an honest dive into what it  actually  looks like to build an equal partnership when you’ve spent decades over-giving and second-g...

THE POD IS BACK! In this heartfelt solo episode, Kimberly Mathis reflects on her nearly year-long break from podcasting, turning 40, and what real change looks like in life and work. She shares candid insights about navigating burnout, perimenopause, and embracing small, meaningful shifts over dramatic epiphanies. Kimberly opens up about her evolving coaching practice, being more selective with cl...

In this episode of "Decisions Change Everything," I sit down with my client, Jessica, for an insightful and deeply personal conversation about her experience working with me as her coach. Join us as we delve into Jessica's journey of uncertainty - from her initial concerns about pregnancy to her evolving mindset and newfound sense of self-worth. Jessica's experience is a fantasti...

🌟 In this episode, I'm sharing 39 things that you might not know about me. Why 39? Because I'm turning 39 this month! It's not a regular episode. It's a raw, real, and unfiltered peek into who I am – from family dynamics to mental health struggles, personal growth, relationships, and everything in between. 🌿✨ I talk about growing up influenced by '90s purity culture, early m...

In the this episode, I discuss a topic that's close to my heart - making peace with our past and allowing ourselves to move forward without feeling stuck. I share a story about one of my clients who's been struggling with shame and the belief that she needs to change her feelings about her past to move forward. Key takeaways from the episode: - Stop using coaching or therapy against yourse...

Hope is not a strategy. Hope is not going to get you the end result that you want. It has got to be a decision, because a decision has a plan. In this episode, I'm sharing the way I started thinking about decisions differently, and how this has become THE most important thing in my life, and in the work I do. I'll also clarify what a "decision" really includes, so that you can st...

If you're a people-pleaser, you've probably never associated those behaviors with control. But here's the thing: people-pleasing isn't just about being nice. If you can better understand the motivation behind people-pleasing behavior, you can more easily change those patterns. Join me as we peel back the layers of people-pleasing and uncover its roots. From the fear of rejection to...

Are your goals clear? Are they accurate? Are they even attainable? After setting goals with clients for years, I'm telling you about the top 5 mistakes I see people make when they talk about what they're wanting to achieve. Make sure you aren't making these same mistakes because doing so will quite possibly make your goals harder to achieve - if they're even achievable in the first...

Work with me at www.kimberlymathis.com In this episode, I delve into the subtle yet impactful behavior of triangulation. While often associated with toxic dynamics, I shed light on how triangulation can seep into our everyday conversations and relationships without us even realizing it. I break down what triangulation is and how it surfaces in our interactions, offering relatable examples that res...

What does "visibility" mean to you? Is it ever something you think about focusing on, or working on in your life? If you associate "visibility" with how much you show up on social media, or how well-known you are, you're merely scratching the surface. I just spent a week in Miami with other coaches and we did a visibility deep dive. Listen to this episode to learn more abou...

No, we're not talking about faking it until you make it. But we are talking about taking action BEFORE you feel ready; before you have the thoughts & feelings you think are necessary to take the actions. Listen in to learn why telling yourself you can't move forward without the beliefs or feelings you want is just holding you back, and how to create a guide for forward action anyway. W...

Picture this: there's a sticky situation in front of you, yet you spend less time figuring out what you want to do to move forward AND you aren't worrying as much about what other people are going to do or say. On today's episode, we're getting clear on what's in YOUR control (spoiler: it's not someone else's mind drama) and how to ditch the emotional baggage of feeling...

It's been a sh*t Valentine's week for a lot of folks - including myself. So let's talk about love, shall we? In this episode, we'll discuss: - the difference between feeling love(d) and practicing love - the cultural messages about love vs. what love actually entails - how to love someone and cause pain by acting lovingly If you want to change how you're loving yourself & o...

How many times have you told yourself - or told someone else - to "just let it go"? What do we mean when we say that? What do we expect that we should be able to do? Today we're unpacking that phrase, and getting really clear on what we can and can't let go of. I'm also going to help you think about this phrase in a new way - one that gives you actionable steps to help you st...

When you're avoiding an outcome because it feels too tough to handle, it clouds your thinking and decision-making. You end up reacting to your fear, instead of responding to the situation in ways that best align with your values, your intentions, and the person you want to be. Anything we set out to do or achieve comes with inherent risk of experiencing things that can be shitty - and therefor...

Interested in working with me? Connect with me here. It's a podcast milestone: THE FIRST GUEST! Meet Dr. Gina Senarighi. Not only is she a relationship expert, she's also been MY coach throughout the last few years. I invited her on to continue the conversation we've been having about therapy & coaching and criticisms of the coaching industry. In this episode we talk about the foll...

I'm a therapist-turned-coach, with openings for 1:1 clients. If you're looking for someone to help you change things that feel unchangeable, schedule a complimentary consultation to see if I'm the best fit for you. Full disclosure: this episode was prompted by an algorithmic gift on the 'Gram - a post titled "The Scam of Millennial Motivational Coaches." Not only was I of...

✨ Want to work with me 1:1? Book a free consultation call at my website or connect with me on Instagram . ✨ Ready for an unfiltered conversation about why I transitioned from asking "How does that make you feel?" to asking "What do you want to do"? Join me as I peel back the layers and tell you some of the reasons behind my switch from therapy to life coaching. No fluff, no j...

Work with me 1:1 by scheduling a free consultation call at www.kimberlymathis.com or connect with me on Instagram @thekimberlymathis 📲 This is the first episode in a series where I'm spilling the tea on the whole therapy vs. coaching debate - from someone who left her practice as a licensed therapist to go into coaching full-time. So what separates therapy from coaching? Spoiler alert: it&#39...

Work with me 1:1 to make decisions for yourself, handle difficult relationships, and change things that feel unchangeable. Go to www.kimberlymathis.com to schedule a free consultation. 🎙️ In this week's episode, join me as I delve into a game-changing concept that will for sure expand your perspective.🌟 🧠 I'm here to challenge the notion of obligation and the belief that "you HAVE t...

ANNOUNCEMENT: Join me on Wednesday, December 20th, 2023 at 1:00pm eastern for a free masterclass where you'll make your own Boundaries Cheat Sheet - just in time for all those holiday gatherings. REGISTER HERE. With all those holiday gatherings coming up, you might have some situations you're dreading and boundaries can be a lifesaver. But how do you know if your boundaries are effective?...

This week, join us in deciphering the hidden manuals governing our holiday experiences. 📖✨ 🤔 Ever felt stressed when reality doesn't align with your festive expectations? Let's talk about the concept of 'manuals' - those unspoken rules shaping our holiday moments. 🎄 Dive deep into identifying, questioning, and rewriting these mental guidebooks to discover some freedom amidst ho...