Decision Ease

Welcome to "I'll Think About It" Part 1! What keeps you from making a decision quickly — like, on the spot? When faced with a choice, a very natural default can be to "need to think about it, and decide later." But how often is this a conscious decision to delay vs. a unconscious habit — and how often is that habit COSTING you time, energy and vital (life-changing) opportunities? In this...

Where do the expectations you set for "what you should be able to do" in a day or week or month come from? I bring news!  If you've:  Been overscheduling yourself lately Or crossing off 1/10th of your To Do List every day for the past year Or find yourself constantly disappointed in today's performance because "back in the day" you could do things faster ...Or worse: Sheryl over there is...

It seems like the more adulting we do, the harder it gets for FUN to be an effortless part of everyday life. But when you think about "fun" being a choice available to you -  kind of all the time -  that can change. Especially when "fun" doesn't have to mean what it might have for the past few years. (What comes to mind? Vacations? Day trips? Isolated periods of time that are separa...

Today, we're solving an issue I see costing a lot of people unnecessary time, energy and ANGST. You're going to assess if the standards and expectations you're setting for today are current... Or if they are, in fact, holdovers from a previous season. For many high-achievers who've done amazing, very hard things in life and work, it's super common to almost "cement" those times as permanent refere...

Ok before you gear up for 20 minutes about "worst case scenarios," lemme stop you right there. Today's episode (inspired by my recent experience in Budapest - I explain inside) will teach you how to use this question to get out of your head, take faster action and feel more in charge of your choices. I actually found myself asking this all the time walking around Hungary - and it helped me have&nb...

In today's summer-themed episode, we’re doing a mini mid-year decision check-in.😎 I ask you questions just like we were in a coaching session, like: What do you want to have achieved or experienced or changed 6-12 months from now? What would be disappointing if it weren’t done or different a year from now? With your answers, you'll be able to identify small (SUPER impactful) actions you can...

Ever wish you could just  detox the crap that makes decisions difficult outta your system? Well, ok, you may not have ever thought about it like that - but I bet it sounds pretty good all the same. This week, I introduce a Decision Mastery Fundamental: Decision Detox. We look at three specific behaviors that derail the decision process, spike your stress, and basically make it impossible to l...

If you've ever seen improvisational theatre that works, you've seen "yes, and" in action. It's the concept that helps scenes keep going (and growing) without anyone having a script or knowing what their fellow actors will do next. It ALSO happens to be an excellent decision-making tool. In today's episode, you get a behind-the-scenes look at the Decision Masters Course, as I walk you all the...

Episodes 101-103 broke down what self-compassion is (and isn't), and how it can change the direction and quality of your entire life. YES PLEASE! So...what does it look like in real life?  In this episode, I share specific, everyday examples from my own life and (a version of*) my clients' lives to demonstrate how self-compassion can show up in any choice you make. Including everyday decision...

Did you know there are two kinds of self-compassion? It makes sense! Especially when you remember what the purpose of self-compassion is: to alleviate your own suffering. Sometimes, to lower that "suffering severity," what we need is a big ole' dose of self-acceptance...self-kindness...basically a friendly hug from ourselves. Other times, we need to take ACTION. In this week's episode, we break do...

Let's get nitty 'n gritty, shall we?  What - exactly - does it look and sound like to "practice self-compassion"? To answer that, we first have to clarify what  self-compassion even is: And you may be pleasantly surprised to hear the answer! Turns out, the primary function of self-compassion is to alleviate your own suffering. Not ignore it, or gloss over it, or GET over it, or fix it, o...

Let's talk about the TRUTH of self-compassion. Today's intro episode is essentially 2-in-1   (more bang for ya' buck!). In Part 1 [0:00-20:26], we: Define what self-compassion even is Dispel common myths about it And break down what the research has to say (particularly about its impact on your drive & success) In Part 2 [20:26-end]:   I share personal stories that demonstrate the ta...

It's Episode #100!! And we're celebrating with a GIVEAWAY 🎉 If you love the podcast, just leave a 5-star rating and review on Apple Podcasts, screenshot it, and post in your IG Stories (tag me! @kpcoaching) by 6pm PT Wed 5/1! You'll be entered to win one of the beautiful Decision Masters Daily Check-Set Journals or the Grand Prize of a two-week Private Coaching Program with me! Let's keep the cel...

"I don't want to make a selfish decision" is something I hear a lot. "Here's exactly what I mean by that..." is not! This is why it's so easy to  default to decisions you don't really want to make. If you're afraid a choice might be selfish — but you don't have a clear definition of "selfish" — of course the safest option is to avoid that choice, and thereby avoid the possibility of...

This question will make you more productive, efficient and self-directed. When used correctly! Whether you're taking on a big scary goal or trying to lessen the chaos of your day — this question will help you shortcut to powerful action. How can I make this easier? If that feels too obvious, wait! Because there's a strategic way to answer it, and you'll be amazed at what you find: L...

So you've made a plan. You've separated your Decision Time from your Doing Time, to save yourself some precious energy. (See Episode #96!) But now the moment has arrived and all your brain minions are yelling  I don't wanna! What do you do? Today's episode breaks down FOUR killer tactics to deal with resistance in follow-through. We cover: How to establish a new set of Life Rules that doesn't...

Sometimes, you need to think on your feet then act fast. It's not impossible — plus, you're really good at it! — but it  does take a ton of mental energy. Today we're looking at the depleting habit of combining "decision time" with "doing time" as your  norm. If you find your days FULL of choices about what to do next, how to do it, how long to spend on it...and those choices a...

If you've ever gotten stuck or overwhelmed making a decision, you likely have experience with Low-Quality Questions. It can seem like your brain hurls these at you, almost as an attack. The problem is: These questions are often unanswerable.  (How can you tell, for example, "What's going to happen?" - "Would I be happier doing X or Y?" - "Is this the best thing to do for my career / business...

Do you have clear, specific goals? Are they written down? Do you talk about them with anyone regularly – check in on your progress and plans for pursuing them? Does it surprise you that most people's answers to all of these questions are NO? In this episode, I'm breaking down "goals" in a way you might not have heard before. Because I don't just want you to achieve what you want in life. I want yo...

If you're on a mission to understand yourself better, so you can both have more self-compassion  and be more equipped to handle the heavy machinery that is YOU, this episode is spot on. I've pinpointed 5 things I've learned about emotions over the course of my 6+ years Coaching, during which there's constant ongoing education and training. These are 5 things I actually wish I'd known soo...

If you could only pack 5 podcast episodes for a trip to a deserted island for the rest of forever, this would be one of them. How do you deal with  fear in the decision process. Concerns, worries, anxieties, worst-case-scenario'ing, fear of people's opinions (FOPO)... From the smallest choice about how to phrase a text, to the biggest life decision about your career or relationship - Fea...

If you're an overthinker, people-pleaser, indecisive or anxious...guess what. Fear is getting in the way of a lot of your decisions. Don't worry, I'm here to help! Wouldn't it be nice to have a formula for dealing with fear?  So when you went to make a decision and got worried, anxious, self-conscious, uncertain, or any other flavor of scared...it wasn't a big deal? What if you knew what do t...

How to make a clear, confident decision when you're confused?  Well, that might not be the most useful question to ask here...Lemme try a rephrase.   How do you solve the problem of confusion? (Insert thinky emoji here) Feeling stuck in confusion is such a normal, human, no-need-to-judge situation.  But there's an easier solution than a) waiting for the answer to suddenly become cle...

The decision is DONE, hooray!...But wait. You're not doing the thing you decided to do. (Ruh-roh.) Whether it's sending a simple email or putting a large deposit down, implementing a choice can be the toughest part of this whole "deciding" process. Today we break down 3 specific issues that can contribute to this (super common) stall-out scenario, and how to get yourself into action. Lis...

Your inner dialogue is like a radio station that's always running. There are times you're super tuned into it and listening closely to your self-talk (usually when you're feeling  really   good or  really   bad about yourself!) But even when these messages aren't coming through loud 'n clear...the station's still broadcasting. Today I'm asking you to tune in on purpose, and fin...